DS ever attempt to sabotage diet?

GymBeast2

I won't go into anything about mine. LOL, he brought home Dunkin. Moment of weakness right there.


Do you ever feel like your DS tries to ruin all the hard work?

trishtrish1

Like every day! He is ana/bul (closet - whole other ball of wax there!) and will bring home stuff (big chocolate muffins, candybars, hostess fruit pies - all my favorites). I am better about it - but sheesh!

Also - our exercise bike "happened to break" and so I cannot move it from his setting (for a 6 foot tall man - I am 5 feet).

I work around this - but Thanks honey!

(edited to take a bad word out - sorry!)

cwolfman13

No such thing as a diet saboteur. You're the one on a diet, not them...I don't expect people around me to change what they're doing just because I am. BTW...if you want a doughnut, have a doughnut...just fit it into your diary...no biggie.

anewlife4me8610

My DH is a good man, and he has never intentionally hurt my feelings over my weight. He has however HELPED me stay big. Only by doing what I ask...for instance, if I am wanting a big fat piece of cheese cake, I send him to the store. If I am craving a candy bar, I send him to the store. So often, he will just bring it home for me.
Perfect example the other day, I sent him to the store to buy somethings i needed. He came back with a candy bar...I didn't get angry, I just told him that I am not going to eat it. I had a talk with him explaining that I needed him to be strong with me. That if I ask him to get me things like that, he needs to tell me no, and to go get it myself. I created a monster in me, and subsequently I brought my family along for the ride and created some bad habits.
DH says, if I ask I will get it but to remember that I was the one who said it....and I will need to remember that next time I feel the urge to send him out of sweets run lol

cappri

I'm the one who changed the rules so I can't get mad at him. When I was fat I loved it when he would bring me home a surprise treat like my favorite candy or donuts. Why wouldn't he expect that to still make me happy when it always had before? After a year, it has become less likely for me to receive candy as a surprise treat, though he still bought me that for Valentine's Day. That is just the culture we live in really. I'm the one who needs to make it work for me.

Now I will say he never got upset with me if I didn't eat something he brought me. It was enough that I just accepted it and said thank you.

TrishLG

My X sabotaged my life with constant put downs and insults. Over 23 years I went from 145 to 270. Married to him I would see women weighing 350 and I would say (absolutely helpless to say otherwise) "Here I come."
Divorced I am down to 217, but only recently joined MFP.
Actually his behavior was very passive aggressive. He could knock me down without ever raising a fist. That kind of emotional abuse is very destructive. To top it off, he even had a little slut on the side. She wasted her youth on him when without his pathetic needs, she could have found someone else and had a decent life together.
Your partner's "Killing her with kindness" does not fit into the same catagory, but is destructive to your overall health, nevertheless.
Perhaps if you stop making a joke of it and ask for support.
Be up front and talk about this.
My X had to show he was superior.
There are other possible reasons for this behavior.
Perhaps your partner may want to make sure that you will stick around. If you are overweight, you are stuck with him because nobody else will want you.
Or perhaps he is so competitive that he just has to win--Over the top poor sportsmanship--sabotage your opponent --- !!! When did you become an OPPONENT when you were suppose to be mutually supportive partners??!!
Do not accept this behavior.

Sabine_Stroehm

I won't go into anything about mine. LOL, he brought home Dunkin. Moment of weakness right there.


Do you ever feel like your DS tries to ruin all the hard work?

Maybe he just loves you and remembered that you love Dunkin? And doesn't think it would hurt you?