People commenting on your weightloss

tachyon_master

I know some people enjoy it when people comment on their weightloss. I'm not one of them.

I'm really struggling to deal with a situation at work where everyone seems to feel the need to comment on my weight. Seriously, if I went around calling most of these people out for being "lazy fat *kitten* who spend too much time stuffing their face with KFC", I'd be hauled up for disciplinary action. But somehow that makes it alright for people to make comments about my weight because I'm not fat? Somehow it's ok to go around telling everyone that I "must clearly have an eating disorder"?

I eat well and I exercise. Nothing more than that. The fact that I've lost weight in the process does not give people the right to accuse me of taking drugs, suffering from an eating disorder, or to make really insensitive and frankly offensive comments about my medical history.

None of this impacts my ability to do my job. So quite frankly it's none of their business if I choose to lose weight (or how I choose to lose it for that matter).

I don't even know how to address this, because the people who are primarily responsible for making these offensive comments are the ones who such problems are meant to be reported to in the first place. It effectively amounts to workplace bullying. What do you do when the people you're meant to report that to are the ones doing it in the first place?

determineddancer

You could kindly correct them, or try to talk to them.. Nothing works better than good communication. Just keep on doing what you are doing!
Those that are pointing it out may be insecure anyway.

Great job on your weight loss!

tachyon_master

You could kindly correct them, or try to talk to them.. Nothing works better than good communication. Just keep on doing what you are doing!

I've tried. It just goes on, and on, and on...Same thing, different day.

Those that are pointing it out may be insecure anyway.

Maybe. But it's still not appropriate to be discussing at work. Or to attack someone over it - at work.

If these were my friends and they made these type of comments about me, it'd be very easy to reply. I'd have no problem fighting back. But this is (supposed to be) a professional work environment. Discussing someone else's (potential) medical problems or accusing them of being a druggie in order to lose weight? Sorry, but that's just not on, regardless of their possible insecurity.

gmallan

Just say something along the lines of "I find that comment rude and really inappropriate". Hopefully makes them think about how inappropriate it is to make comments like that especially in a work situation. You don't need to fight back or justify your weight loss

needsalife3

Give them a long hard look and walk away, saying nothing.

I opened this thread because I really fear when someone notices. Unlike you, I have over 100 lbs to lose, but I'm doing this for me. The only person who knows I'm doing this is my daughter. Like you, I think weight should have nothing to do with how I'm perceived. I've always used my weight to push people out and I don't want to let them in because I'm getting thinner. So far no one has noticed and I probably need to figure out how I'll respond when they do. I know I sound certifiable. Maybe I'll take my own advice, give them a long hard look and walk away. I just know they'll be trying to be nice and I don't want to come off like a witch. Oh who knows.

benol1

It is bullying/harrassment.

If it is your direct supervisor/s making these comments then you need to take your complaint higher.
If there is no one higher or if no action then I would consider seeking legal advice.
kind regards,

Ben