When will people notice?

TiffCK

I have lost 16lbs since January. In my mind, I look a lot different already. My bf hasn't said anything but he knows all about my weight loss, and doesn't have to. His mom who lives with us who I have only told I am trying to eat healthier hasn't acted like she notices a thing. (P.S: She may live with us but we don't see each other everyday, she stays in her room most of the time) Also, his SIL who lives next door hasn't said anything either, again I only see her 1-2 a month. So, is it possible that I don't look that different to them yet, or is it that they don't want to give me the satisfation of hearing them say they noticed? Or maybe they don't want to offend me by telling me "Hey, have you lost weight?" Or maybe jealousy, since I was already the smallest of them? What do you guys think, what are your experiences and do you like or dislike others acknowledging they noticed?

kyrapettit

I feel the same way! I've lost 17 pounds and I can tell but no one else has said anything. I don't want to ask because I think they will feel obligated to say yes. This is a major accomplishment for me and I've tried so hard and just feel a little sad that no one has noticed. I guess when I get to my goal I will see if they notice! Good luck to you and keep up the woodwork! As long as you see the results is all that matters!

TraceysJourney

Yep same problem here But if you have a lot to lose , from what i have read from other ppl, you need to lose a fair bit before any one notices

MrGonzo05

In four days. I hereby curse you thinner. LOL

featherkiss

i have lost 30 lbs so far and not too many people notice...i posted a pic on Facebook of myself at the 30 lbs loss and 34 people commented on how great i look.....(i have 120 left to hit my goal weight)....so have faith..keep doing what you are doing..and in NO TIME at all...they WONT be able to say NOTHING.....congrats on the loss and keep going!!

islandnutshel

depending on how much you need to lose. Usually around 30 pounds.
Most people notice something is different, but are not confident in saying something till it is obvious.
Also I gained and lost the first 10 pounds so many times people just saw that as a usual flux.
Give it time, it will happen suddenly and everyone will say something. It will get overwhelming. Look forward too it.
Maybe even try to disguise progress and do a reveal with a new outfit.
Enjoy all the little stages along the way.
Congrats on your loss.

tanya0324

I once read that it takes 4 weeks to notice the change in yourself, 8 weeks for family to notice and 12 weeks for the rest of the world. It's been my experience that this is true. Also, it may be that they don't feel comfortable bringing it up out of fear of offending you. A few weeks ago, my boyfriend told me that his sister told him that she wanted to comment on my weightloss but hadn't out of fear of offending me.

labellecanuck

People may notice a change but may not want to say anything yet because weight is such a sensitive topic for most people.

Zoiiya

Same here . I've lost 19 pounds, no one seems to notice but I think It's jealousy .

Duck_Puddle

When I lost my first 20lbs, my mother asked me if I was pregnant. I'd have preferred if she not said anything lol.

Generally speaking, it's nice when people say something, but it's kind of awkward. I'm losing weight for me not anyone else, so while it's nice for someone to notice, I don't feel they need to. It's much more comfortable for me if its just even a topic of conversation. People really don't know what to say generally. If you ask someone if they lost weight and they didn't, they get mad. People are hurt if you ask and if you don't. I don't think it's jealousy or anger or anything else. It's possible the difference isn't enough for people you see frequently to notice. I doubt that people are withholding comments in an effort to hurt you. If anything, it's probably the opposite.

As for when people will notice? It really all depends on how much you have to lose, how/where you carry the weight and from where it is lost. I was down 60lbs before a few people noticed (most didn't). At 70+, the people that didn't notice anything before suddenly asked if I was sick because I lost "so much so fast".

Emma_Problema

I think some of my friends make it a point not to talk to me about my weight because they know that I'm much more than just my body. I've been a yo-yo dieter since high school, which I think also plays into it. My good friends have seen my weight go up and down and if they said "oh you've lost weight" every time I did, it would get old really fast.

I actually prefer my friends and family pay attention to my achievements instead of my weight. I talk to my dad about my exercise routine and I've posted on fb about training for the Spartan race and my friends know about it and are supportive. Now, those things I want to be noticed! How strong I'm getting and how well I'm eating and what I can do with my body. I don't really need someone to tell me about it every time I lose a little weight.

goldie980

The best thing you can do is be an example of becoming fit and not a reminder to them of how unfit they are. Continue your road to a healthy life, you know the notice but you don't have to rub in there face or do you.

If you desire compliments then you won't get compliments from your man if youre wearing the same clothes. Spring will soon be here when you can take off those winter sweaters and coat and really show Em what mama gave ya.

TheLuSir

Don't do it to get noticed. When someone actually takes the time to compliment your progress it will mean so much more.

kristafb

I lost 50lbs 2 years ago & no one noticed until I was around 40 lbs gone. I was larger up top then & think it makes it harder to notice the weight loss. so I guess it depends on your build.

MysticRealm

I finally, just today, had someone comment on my weight loss that didn't know I was trying to lose weight. I have lost nearly 24 pounds!

TiffCK

Yeah, I am definitly an over-thinker. One of my many flaws I guess I should just let it go, hmm? It will come in time, and until then, I'll just keep working on it! Plus, someone mentioned the "heavier up top" think, and I am and have always been. The fact that I am nursing is making them even heavier, so sometimes it's hard for people to notice anything but those! Even myself when I see photos of myself :P Thanks for all the comments, I agree I shouldn't do it to get noticed, and I'm not. But it would be a plus And I definitly don't want to rub peoples face in my weightloss. I'm nice!

beckimj

I have lost 50 pounds this time through. My husband notices, but very few other people have commented. I am down two pants sizes and close to a third, so it is more visual for me rather than others.

kaybelieve

I've only lost 14lbs and I haven't seen any loss at all, and nobody has mentioned anything so I guess nobody else has. This got to me a little at first as, if I had put on 14lbs everybody, especially myself, would have noticed. I've still got about 40lbs left to go yet and if people notice then that'd be amazing, but as long as I notice I don't mind too much. Good luck on your journey

kellehbeans

I've lost 44lbs, going for a UK size 16 to a UK size 8. And very few people have noticed, or at least said anything. :laugh:

That's a lie, someone did mention to me this morning and asked me about my workout routine. People just don't know whether to ask or not, because they may think they're being rude. :flowerforyou:

kar328

I've mentioned trying to eat right casually, not to make it a big deal or a secret. A couple of weeks ago, a coworker who I barely know, asked if I lost weight. It was at 12 lbs which, for someone my size, I cant see how anyone would notice, so it meant a lot to me. My nurse manager asked if I lost weight at six lbs, but she was also trying to get me to commit to something so I didn't take her seriously, just a lucky guess.

Years ago, I was about fifty lbs lighter when I tried, one doctor noticed at 15 lbs, he's a bit anti-fat so he's always seeing loss. Others, including my own mother, didn't notice until about 30 lbs.

But it's all about me, so I'm okay with not seeing it myself just yet. Sometimes I feel less in the belly area when I'm taking a flight of stairs, if that makes any sense.

HotMummyMission

Hhaha oh hunni you deserve a medal I would crack up if his family were all in my space all the time and his mum might me jealous .. My boyfriend didn't notice I lost anything until I say say to him look n he goes ohh n yeah good dat love -_- but then again he didn't say anything when I put on 3 stone just keep going people will notice sooner or later x

benol1

@OP:
Who are you losing the weight for?

roguex_1979

As others have said, it entirely depends on how much you have to lose. If you have a lot to lose to begin with, it will take time for people to start noticing physical changes. Stay the course!

Conversely, people don't seem to notice the loss when you are starting to reach the END of your weight loss journey:

I have lost 32lbs. I am not THAT big, and in the first few months, people were complimenting me all the time! It was great! But since New Years Day, I have lost about 10lbs and no one has said ANYTHING! My mum mentioned my weight loss a couple of weeks ago, but I was wearing what I call my 'guaranteed to get a compliment' outfit. Its just jeans that really flatter my legs and a top that covers my flabby arms but makes my waist look super thin.

People will start noticing soon. The important thing is that YOU notice. It might not always show on the scales, but when you slip easily into a pair of trousers that you might have had to struggle with a few months ago, or they don't fit you at all, you'll know what you're doing is working!

Beethoven1827

SO many variables. I love it when people comment on my weightloss - it's not that I need their validation, but I like compliments! But on the other side, I know my mother-in-law is losing weight, she's lost over 40lb since the summer, and has gone down more clothes sizes than I have, but to be absolutely honest I'm not sure that I'd have noticed if she hadn't said, and am very sure I wouldn't have commented! Thinking about it more, she *must* look slimmer than she has for the past few years, and is much more like she was when I first met her. But since I've seen her at around this size before, it hasn't startled me into thinking how different she looks. Does that make any sense??

quirkytizzy

People may notice a change but may not want to say anything yet because weight is such a sensitive topic for most people.

This. Weight is a really touchy subject, especially among loved ones, so it can be hard for other people to say anything.

I've lost 21 pounds and feel it's a pretty big difference, but no comments yet. It can be very frustrating. Yes, we're doing this for ourselves but yes, we are also human. It's natural and normal to want recognition for our efforts.

kellster111

I found that people really started to notice when I started to buy clothes in the right size, I was still fitting into my "big" clothes and using belts to hold up trousers, when i got smaller clothes all of a sudden people started to comment.

Cyclingbonnie

No one seems to notice for me either. I'm not letting it get to me too much. Most people who are around me don't know I'm trying. My husband does and is being very supportive. My MIL does, but doesn't seem to think it is important (not in a mean way, she is 92 and a little senile I think she sees me the same way she did when I was 20 something). Two workout buddies know and my ex Daughter-in-law. Everyone else doesn't. I kind of think since most everyone I know have lived through me losing and gaining this first 40 that will be coming off so many times, they don't want to bring it up if they have noticed. Also, although I have noticed some shirts aren't as tight as they were, I really haven't noticed visibly myself. So I'm not going to hold my friends to a higher standard of observation :-).

I'm not going to go to the jealousy thought, or mean thought. I'm going to the place in my head that says they love me and support me at any size that I am. The weight loss is for me. When they see me happy that will be for them to comment on.

olores

50lbs. until hubby really said anything great about it! Hummmm....sometimes even our loved ones don't know quite how to take a significant loss. He came around though good thing I really wasn't bothered as others were my support system. Keep on doing YOU!!!

d2footballJRC

People have a tendency not to say much til it's a significant loss. I've now lost 140ish and people really started saying stuff around 60-80lbs down. Once I hit those numbers people were like...woah dude...

ToFatToBeSick

It depends on how you personally carry your weight. I tend to lose weight evenly and don't really have a "problem area" such as stomach, arms and so on. It takes a little bit more time if the weight loss is over your entire body and not just one area. I think I was at the 20 pound mark however when people began to notice by just looking at me.