kids are mean

DanceForever904

i was in walmart mcdonalds getting my fiance some food (i dont eat mcdonalds) and a kid (about 10yrs old) points to me and yells out "your fat" i grabbed my food and just walked out. im so mad and upset (and i know i shouldnt be) but i am!

DoingitWell

Sorry that happenned to you. Take solace in knowing that his mother was probably horrified that her child behaved that way. I know I would be.

sparklelioness

Kids can def. be nadty. Their little moral systems are still developing, and of course how their parents speak to (and around) them, has a big effect. Dont let it bug you too much. Youve lost 70 lbs, you're doing great

Tuffjourney

I would have smacked my kid right up side the head and then make him apologize. Just plain rude....and by the way you look great. so eff that damn brat :flowerforyou:

salcha76

Wow.....wow....omg....I can't imagine what the kid hears at home if they just blurted that out! On a nicer note....I got hugged by a special needs girl who said I was soft & squishy like a marshmellow:) So much sweeter when not backed w/malice...

Cr01502

Best to not let it get you down.

sally_jeffswife

don't feel bad kids say lots of things and alot of times don't understand what they are really saying or the meaning of it. My 5 yr old sometimes when I am excercising really hard and sweating and have to take a drink is like Mom why are you stopping to take a drink. You gotta do what the ladies doing you don't want your tummy to grow all big and round. And I just have to laugh and say yep you're right honey just needed a drink. they don't say things to be mean when they are really little they just say things without thinking about it. if it was an older kid though then that is really rude I woulda just said be careful what you say God may cause you to gain weight when you get bigger. Don't worry about it you look great, I don't even know what that kid was talking about.

Sarahkoolkatkitty

As a mom of 4, I have to say a 10 year old should know better. I'm guessing that kid is not learning the right way to treat others from his parents or has a condition which limits his ability to filter. I'm sorry that even happened. You definitely do not look fat in your picture!

bethierose

At 10 years old, that is out of control... I am so sorry that happened to you. You are doing great! I would have "accidentally" punched him.. haha

sunsnstatheart

I would have smacked my kid right up side the head and then make him apologize. Just plain rude....and by the way you look great. so eff that damn brat :flowerforyou:

Yes. Smack the children. Always good advice.

KenosFeoh

Kids are such a-holes. That's when you point at him and say "you're rude (or mean)."

Well, not really. For some kids, even negative attention is pay-off enough. Best no attention.

chunkydunk714

I would have smacked my kid right up side the head and then make him apologize. Just plain rude....and by the way you look great. so eff that damn brat :flowerforyou:

YUP!!

little fker! grr :mad:

StacieHof

Young kids make dumb comments my oldest of 5 was at the DMV with my husband and pointed to the guy in front of them and asked my husband "Daddy who is that bad man!" My poor husband was so embarrassed but she was only around 3.5 or 4 years old. I agree with the others saying if a 10 year old says things like this it's a parenting problem. So not all kids are mean...some parents are stupid! Hope you have a better day and try to see your here working on your issues this poor kid is going to have a rough life.

PatsyFitzpatrick

i was in walmart mcdonalds getting my fiance some food (i dont eat mcdonalds) and a kid (about 10yrs old) points to me and yells out "your fat" i grabbed my food and just walked out. im so mad and upset (and i know i shouldnt be) but i am!

10 is old enough to have known better. I taught my kids to reply with what Bill Cosby taught us watching his TV show Fat Albert. It is simply SO.....
Most kids are impulsive and in today world Fat has other meanings like cool.....Yea he was rude.

Be happy do not let 10 yrs old take your joy.

Patsy

Sorashi

Not only kids, also grown ups, but heh don't let it get you down, it should make you stronger.

jennsavage3

Oh, no! He was probably showing off to someone, but hopefully he did realize that was a totally crappy thing to do...this might haunt him for a while. Sorry you had to go through that! You look awesome in your pic!

BunkyBumBum

10 is too old for that, and I hope the parent had a serious talking to.

However, this reminds me of when my son has just turned 3, we were on a bus and this woman got on and sat down, she was really big, like, sitting with legs apart and stomach almost touching the floor. She was the biggest person I have ever seen, and the biggest person he had ever seen. My son was staring at her and I discreetly distracted him, but he kept looking toward her despite my efforts. Eventually he blurted out, "That lady has a really big belly!" and I quickly shushed him and hoped she hadn't heard because she was far enough away and he didn't yell. The woman did hear, she turned to him and told him, "You're a mean little boy and you owe me an apology!" My son apologized because she told him to, but the look on his face at that moment made me want to get up and kick her face in, he was 3, he didn't understand why it was okay to tell someone they have really long hair, that their hair is super curly, or that they are as tall as his Daddy but it wasn't okay to tell someone they have a fat belly. What he did understand was what it meant to be a mean person, and for someone to call him a mean person really confused and hurt him, demanding he apologize just really sent home that he had done something wrong and he didn't understand what. Luckily our stop came up and we got off, the bus driver said something sympathetic to me, and when we got home I talked to my son about how sometimes people's differences make them feel sad, or bad about themselves and that we shouldn't point them out.

It still bothers me years later. I don't know what I should have done, being a city bus she could have been totally off her nut and I didn't want to engage her based on prior experiences with bus-nut jobs. I would have apologized if I knew she had heard him, but I didn't think she had, the bus is loud, he didn't say it loud, and she was a good distance away looking at something else, and I certainly wasn't going to try to get her attention "just in case she did hear" because if she hadn't, I'd be calling her attention to it.

Kids can be mean, 10 is old enough to know better, and kudos to you for not retaliating (I don't know that I'd be so level headed), but I wanted to add this for people out there that have taken harsh comments from young kids - the little ones don't know what they're saying, they just make observations and if you feel like they said something really hurtful, the proper response is not to yell at them and call them mean, it's to tell them, "It really hurts my feelings when you say that", or ignore it and understand that they're still trying to learn how to be people. It's super hard to teach tact to a toddler and as a parent you can't just shove a sock in their mouths every time you're in public (that's illegal, who knew?) Heck, my son is 5 and today at the grocery checkout he was yelling about having an itch in his butt crack that he couldn't itch and he wanted me to itch it. Yeah.

jcreazy

I would have insulted him back. That is just me though.

sassafrascas

I agree at 10 his intent is malicious and it is a result of bad home training. I have had younger kids like 4 say stuff like wow you are fat but I chalk it up to them not having been around people my size. During my walk today and elementary school was being released many kids were walking home and no one said anything. Just remember you are a beautiful person. Kids say the dumbest things.

amosmoses88

If you're fat, that must make me a hippo. Kids are cruel and they do hurt even though we know it's just a kid that lacks correct discipline. But brush it off. YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL and I LOVE YOUR YOUR CURVES!

adk88

My five year old niece asked me if my bathing suit bottoms were too tight once and asked why I had "fluffy bits". I still can't wear that bathing suit without a tank top now.

I don't think they meant any harm, but I agree that I hope his parents had a good talking to him! There's no excuse for that at that age!

janatarnhem

You have lost 70 lbs - congratulations...That child is just mean. At 10, they should know better and his parents will/should/would be ashamed. please don't waste your time going over this any more.:flowerforyou:

Healthy_fresh_start

when my son was about 2 and half he was refusing to eat anything healthy. we sat down and had a big talk about foods thats good for you and foods that not and how they make you unhealthy and overweight so its important to eat a balanced diet.

we got on a bus about a week later and a rather large lady got on. my son yells

"mum look, shes fatter than me. thats because i eat my peas and sweetcorn and she eats cake and fudge. they wont give her enough energy to play all of her games you know, will it mum!!"

i was HORRIFIED!!! He never meant to be nasty, it was just his level of understanding at his age, but still, i wanted to run and hide!!!

DanceForever904

10 is too old for that, and I hope the parent had a serious talking to.

However, this reminds me of when my son has just turned 3, we were on a bus and this woman got on and sat down, she was really big, like, sitting with legs apart and stomach almost touching the floor. She was the biggest person I have ever seen, and the biggest person he had ever seen. My son was staring at her and I discreetly distracted him, but he kept looking toward her despite my efforts. Eventually he blurted out, "That lady has a really big belly!" and I quickly shushed him and hoped she hadn't heard because she was far enough away and he didn't yell. The woman did hear, she turned to him and told him, "You're a mean little boy and you owe me an apology!" My son apologized because she told him to, but the look on his face at that moment made me want to get up and kick her face in, he was 3, he didn't understand why it was okay to tell someone they have really long hair, that their hair is super curly, or that they are as tall as his Daddy but it wasn't okay to tell someone they have a fat belly. What he did understand was what it meant to be a mean person, and for someone to call him a mean person really confused and hurt him, demanding he apologize just really sent home that he had done something wrong and he didn't understand what. Luckily our stop came up and we got off, the bus driver said something sympathetic to me, and when we got home I talked to my son about how sometimes people's differences make them feel sad, or bad about themselves and that we shouldn't point them out.

It still bothers me years later. I don't know what I should have done, being a city bus she could have been totally off her nut and I didn't want to engage her based on prior experiences with bus-nut jobs. I would have apologized if I knew she had heard him, but I didn't think she had, the bus is loud, he didn't say it loud, and she was a good distance away looking at something else, and I certainly wasn't going to try to get her attention "just in case she did hear" because if she hadn't, I'd be calling her attention to it.

Kids can be mean, 10 is old enough to know better, and kudos to you for not retaliating (I don't know that I'd be so level headed), but I wanted to add this for people out there that have taken harsh comments from young kids - the little ones don't know what they're saying, they just make observations and if you feel like they said something really hurtful, the proper response is not to yell at them and call them mean, it's to tell them, "It really hurts my feelings when you say that", or ignore it and understand that they're still trying to learn how to be people. It's super hard to teach tact to a toddler and as a parent you can't just shove a sock in their mouths every time you're in public (that's illegal, who knew?) Heck, my son is 5 and today at the grocery checkout he was yelling about having an itch in his butt crack that he couldn't itch and he wanted me to itch it. Yeah.

its one thing your son said that but she was just as wrong for being a b word about it sorry hun

Sballard418

One time my daughter was 2 or 3 she is now 4 1/2 said That lady looks like a monkey (she was really really old and had droopy jaws ) I turned around expecting to see a monkey on her shirt or something but no My husband was so embarrassed I've never seen him so red.

10 is definitely old enough to know better. I agree

I tell my daughter to think things in her head that she doesn't have to say them out loud because it could REALLY hurt someones feelings. It was definately a parenting fail and I hope the little squirt got his smart phone laptop Ipad and playstation taken away....(kids are so spoiled)

Timshel_

don't feel bad kids say lots of things and alot of times don't understand what they are really saying or the meaning of it. My 5 yr old sometimes

Yup. My 8 year old uses the term fat pretty much for anyone not looking like Adonis. He has never said it to anyone directly, but he has said it a few times as we drive around or such. We correct him.

It's a learning process for them, so don't be too hard on them.

DanceForever904

don't feel bad kids say lots of things and alot of times don't understand what they are really saying or the meaning of it. My 5 yr old sometimes

Yup. My 8 year old uses the term fat pretty much for anyone not looking like Adonis. He has never said it to anyone directly, but he has said it a few times as we drive around or such. We correct him.

It's a learning process for them, so don't be too hard on them.

i never said a word to him cause i know his grandmother was furious so i just let her handle it

Alyssah09

Yup! they can be little bratts some times. I have a 3 year old who told me yesterday that I couldent sit in the chair at the kitchen table because my butt was too big...

jessmart83

That is horrible! I am sorry but I would have smacked him and his parents! I wouldnt let it get you down, kids are mean in general. My daughter, when she was about 4, we were in line at the store and she blurted out as loud as she could, "Mom the lady in front of us has a big butt!" I was mortified!!!!

BrendaLee

Kids need to be taught to be polite and kind, and they're not.

aminer31

My mom would have smacked me hard for that. I am sure he is learning from bad parenting which seems to be standard these days. Sorry it happened to you, be proud of your accomplishments!