Disappointed when I heard this.......

RobinV_Seattle

Girl, you just keep on doing what you're doing!

I'll repeat the Goodwill idea - it's so much less expensive, especially for jeans! And, see if you can't find those "perfect fit" buttons for pants - when I first started losing weight 2+ years ago, I used them for my pants so I didn't have to buy every size on the way down. Gonna need to find some again soon, now that I think of it, lol

I think sometimes our friends and family hear us being frustrated and, rather than "nag", they think they should just encourage us to go the easier route. I don't think it's sabotage - at least not consciously - they just might not be comfortable if they think they're coming across as critical - especially with something sensitive like weight loss.

Either way - you are doing this for you. And you CAN do it!

mona_patty

You are doing great!! I understand how hard it is when people we care about are not supportive...I also come from a family that eats for fun It's hard. The best thing you could do is get her excited with you so you can go eat healthy together!! Or maybe even exercise together. Since she is pregnant, she may be more open to eating healthy for the baby!
I love what you said about being a 'foodie' but in control of your life :drinker: That is perfect.

I also am very sensitive and critical comments get under my skin more than I should let them. These people who say we need to be strong for ourselves are so right. You are really doing a fantastic job of getting yourself healthy and she should be trying to be like you, not criticizing:noway:

Keep doing what you are doing and get where you want to go

she will make something healthy, unhealthy LoL I've made veggie chili for her. Don't think she liked it. I exercise alone. We are in different fitness level. We used to go "walk" together but it wasn't much of a workout for me..... I eat pretty healthy if I don't eat with her....... my food diary is open lmao

Macstraw

Don't let what she says affect anything you're doing. What you're doing is for nobody but you. You should be proud of what you have accomplished so far, & what you've already done should tell you that you can keep going to your ultimate goal. No need to keep buying clothes after every few pounds or inches, revel with pride in the fact that the clothes that once fit are now loose. As fr guaging clothing expenditures - set goals where you have stuff picked out to treat yourself too when you reach a particular milestone. Most of all, the best revenge you can get on her for her sabotage is to keep losing & smiling the whole time you do until you're happy with where you are......

LOL not into revenge though haha but u made me laugh..... I haven't bought clothes for 2 months. I am actually in need of clothes. PLUS I HATE SHOPPING i haven't made time to go. my clothes fit too big,

LOL, I'm glad you understood what I meant by "revenge". You should be proud that your clothes are now so much too big that you need to go shopping. I understand what you mean about hating shopping, my wife & I are the same way so we try to have an idea of what we need before we go so that we can just go in & get that & not have to browse or walk around the store trying to figure it out on the fly.......

Macstraw

You have made incredible progess and should celebrate the milestones. Getting new clothes, even just one item now and then, can be part of that. Pardon my bluntness....Your sister does not sabotage you -- you let her sabotage you. You've made too much progess to let someone's comments derail you. I used to let my mother derail me, and I had to kindly but firmly assert myself and to avoid the situations that were a problem for me until I could be stronger. Don't let anyone else rule your life.

SO TRUE i sabotage myself by giving in and eating bad with her. We always ate out before together and eat. That was our thing. so I feel like this keeps us close like before and I can't control myself when I eat out with her. I feel comfortable. It is my fault. I have to be strong.... Thanks

You don't have to stop going & you definitely don't have to not eat when you do go out with her. Just make smart choices about what you order & maintain portion control. More importantly, allow yourself the occasional day to indulge a little without feeling the slightest bit guilty - one day will not hurt what you are doing for the long run. The key is to indulge reasonably & remember what your goals are.........

Macstraw

Why would you care what other people say? You know what you're doing, judging by your progress. You're doing it right; you're doing it for yourself and for your health. Just keep it up and ignore terrible advice from clueless people. The only person who sabotages you is yourself - you can't blame the words or actions of others.

this is all new to me, hearing. ppl saying comments. I just don't know how to react. and I have had positive feedback but also jokes about how I don't eat. etc. I can't help it but it hurts. I am too sensitive. I need to harden up LMAO you all made me feel good. Thanks!!!

Reactions are simple - to good comments just a "thank you" is sufficient, to bad comments just a blank look should do the trick. If you feel compelled to respond to a bad comment all you need to say is that what your doing is for better health & how you feel, that you're feeling great since you started doing it. If the person feels the need to continue making comments just tell them you appreciate their input but the subject is now closed to discussion....

Macstraw

a little disappointed. I started @ 198 lbs, now I weigh 161 lbs, I am 5'3". I have a lot more to lose. A lot of people only get to see what we look like in clothes but they don't see us when it's taken off. I still don't have the body I want, I am still overweight.

Well I hear my sis say to me "maybe you should stop losing weight and be happy with your weight now and buy yourself clothes that fit" it saddens me.... I am right now at a moment where my clothes are fitting big. I can't keep up buying clothes every time I lose lbs or inches, etc

Just bummed. I hate to think she sabotages me. I know in part of my weight loss is cause I eat by myself. I tend to eat more with my sister....

Thanks for reading. I needed to vent......

appreciate your vent but your sister may just be more superficial than evil or maligning. it could simply be she is one of those people who mistakenly feels the people around her reflect on her. i read your post as more like she is emphasizing/concerned with your clothes not fitting maybe looking baggy or in her eyes sloppy. i'm really into fashion and kind of heading toward the same place you are now and having your attitude about how and when to buy clothes. however there is this other part of me that feels the way your sister does and it will be a challenge to resist the urge to buy clothes along the way to be more "presentable" and favor the practical. maybe tell her you'd like her help shopping and go to clearance rack and if it's that important to her maybe she will pitch in, if not you get one or two things on clearance not a big deal. i think there is an underlying tone of concern and acceptance in your sisters advice just using the wrong words maybe. i hope this helps you see it from her side and take your own options into account and find a happy medium. great success by the way that's a big weight loss and no wonder your clothes are starting to fit strangely. PM me if you'd like ideas of what kinds of clothes to target to take you from your current weight to goal that can transition thru your weight loss. or friend me.

This is not the 1st time she says stuff..... this is the 1st time that I weigh less than her. I will try to just be positive.

& there's the issue on her end. That can't be your concern, you need to take care of you. If weighing less than you is so important to her then she can do something about it after the baby comes. either way, it has absolutely nothing to do with what you're doing for you, just keep doing what works best for you....

CCusedtodance

Sometimes I think our weight loss is a little threatening to others in our lives. When they see our success they don't feel like they measure up. Don't let anyone sabotage you. You can make it to your goal.

^^^^^This

I also second the idea of shopping at Goodwill and other second hand stores until you reach your goal. Shop the ones that are in the wealthier neighborhoods, sometimes you can find clothing with the tags still on it. A lot of people think "ooooh I can't wear clothing someone else wore!". However if you think about it, many of the clothes we buy in the store have been tried on (sometimes by multiple people) and handled by multiple people prior to us buying it. Just bring them home, cut off the tags and wash immediately. Avoid personal things like underwear and you are set.

jadelyndsey

a little disappointed. I started @ 198 lbs, now I weigh 161 lbs, I am 5'3". I have a lot more to lose. A lot of people only get to see what we look like in clothes but they don't see us when it's taken off. I still don't have the body I want, I am still overweight.

Well I hear my sis say to me "maybe you should stop losing weight and be happy with your weight now and buy yourself clothes that fit" it saddens me.... I am right now at a moment where my clothes are fitting big. I can't keep up buying clothes every time I lose lbs or inches, etc

Just bummed. I hate to think she sabotages me. I know in part of my weight loss is cause I eat by myself. I tend to eat more with my sister....

Thanks for reading. I needed to vent......

Could I just ask, does your sister happen to be slightly larger too? It could be jealousy. I would have replied with "No, because I love myself enough to know that I deserve a better and healthier body. "Being happy" with being overweight would only serve to to be happy in being unhealthy, which isn't a good thing".

dakitten2

Dont let anyone derail you from reaching your goal. Luckily all of my family supports me.

And dont go out and buy all new clothes yet! I waited until clothes were literally falling off and then I hit the consignment shops. Only during this winter have I bought brand new clothes but still not a complete wardrobe. I'm 18 pounds off my goal and hoping that might be one more size drop. I'm wearing medium tops and size 10 pants/jeans. I doubt seriously that I would ever be able to wear small tops (too much boobage) but wouldnt mind being a size 8 in pants.

So stick with your goal of what you want for YOU!

danelledawnc

Sometimes I think our weight loss is a little threatening to others in our lives. When they see our success they don't feel like they measure up. Don't let anyone sabotage you. You can make it to your goal.

Yes it is I guess. During Christmas, I told my brother, I don't drink sodas anymore and he gives me one.... and of course I drank it.... I can't help it..... I got to be strong!!!! Thanks

Zevia (www.zevia.com) - or any soda sweetened with Stevia!!! I've never been a huge soda lover either way, but keeping Zevia in my life makes it easier to say no to sugar laden ( or in most cases the most evil High Fructose Corn Syrup) soda. Sugar laden soda now tastes absolutely terrible to me, too Zevia gives me that bubbly fizz I need every once in a while Zero Calories, no sugar (sweetened with Stevia), sure it may be more expensive than regular soda, but once you break the habit or craving of sugar, the cost doesn't matter because you just aren't buying as much as if you stuck with soda. You're only using it as a treat and the added benefit is when someone shoves a sugar pop in your face, you will have more will power to say no. AND "DIET" soda is worse for you than real soda sweetened with sugar - the chemically made sweeteners reek havoc on your body, so be sure to stay away from those!!!!

BeccaBollons

Don't forget that in a few months your sister is going to have some weight of her own to lose. It takes a long time and is difficult to shed baby weight! Stay friends with her and don't let her get you down! She is going to think you are "too thin" while she gets ever bigger

chevvy50

you stay strong lovey stay on mfp vent as much as you like we are here !!! unlike some ; ))

K_Serz

a little disappointed. I started @ 198 lbs, now I weigh 161 lbs, I am 5'3". I have a lot more to lose. A lot of people only get to see what we look like in clothes but they don't see us when it's taken off. I still don't have the body I want, I am still overweight.

Well I hear my sis say to me "maybe you should stop losing weight and be happy with your weight now and buy yourself clothes that fit" it saddens me.... I am right now at a moment where my clothes are fitting big. I can't keep up buying clothes every time I lose lbs or inches, etc

Just bummed. I hate to think she sabotages me. I know in part of my weight loss is cause I eat by myself. I tend to eat more with my sister....

Thanks for reading. I needed to vent......

Im confused. Are you bummed out that you dont have the body you want, but keep losing weight. Losing weight so fast that you can buy new clothes fast enough.... orrrrrrrrr

Bummed that you think your sister is jealous and wants you to stop?

You should be proud of both. Offer to take your sister on the journey with you, at least that way if/when she quits or gives up you at least gave her the opportunity to come along and enjoy this with you. What a great gift she would be passing up too!

Keep up the great work! I need a new belt and my pants look really stupid too, but oh well, I know the reason why they look goofy which makes me feel fine about it.