Parents, how often do you go out?
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I'm sad to hear not many are going out with their significant others as much
I feel like stress is released and a better mom after a good night with my husband0 -
almost never these days. we have no family to watch our kids and we are not leaving them with just any old teen babysitter. We also dont want our kids being watched any where other than our house and we dont want just any stranger in our house watching our kids. not to mention its expensive to hire a sitter for four hours and also spend a ton going out on the both of us.
so if we do go out - we go solo with friends. he stays home with the kids or I stay home with the kids. that doesnt happen very frequently these days however because he works nights and i work days and we have different days off.
we tend to have friends over for BBQ's more often than not for a few drinks and food. it's fun, easy and cheap. Not to mention kid friendly for anyone else who wants to bring kids.
I am not against parents going out and having a blast though, permitting its not every weekend. once a month, twice. hey everyone needs time and space as adults!!0 -
Honestly I'd rather have friends over for a couple drinks and board games than go to a club anyways. Then our kids get to play together and the adults get to hang out by the fire or something - we do this at least twice a month.0
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Every single week.
Although we did it maybe every other week for a few weeks when the kids (3) were really young.0 -
We don't get out very much. Our kids are getting older but we don't have the time with all the activities they are involved in. We do more together as a family. I look forward to the days that we have the time to go out on dates!!! Hahahaha.... I think it's great that you go out with each other. Every family, every couple is different. We all do the best we can to be happy and stay together!0
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I leave the house for work and to buy groceries. That about covers it. 0
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After getting a comment insinuating that we go out too much I am wondering ...
In general how often do you go out without the kids (anything recreational counts)
Do you And youe s.o. Go together or seperate?
How many kids and ages?
After having opposite schedules for a year, hubs and I now go out together one night a week leaving our 2 yr old with grandma for about 3 hours. I dont feel its excessive. We dont drink a lot hit clubs etc.
We try to have a date night at least once a month. We take the same car, so together. I have 3...2 that are sixteen(not twins step-sisters) and 1 that is now 10. We ave no family here, but the 2 sixteen y/o's can manage themselves and their sister.0 -
without the kids who are 12 and 10, 2-3 times a year to the movies, the last 4 years we have gotten away for 1 week, my mom watches them, sometimes she tell us to go out0
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I don't have kids and I don't think once a week is excessive...especially since you have a willing (she's willing, right?) and possibly eager built-in babysitter (grandparents can never get enough of the grandkids, right?).
Hahahahaa, I wish! My mil has babysat our kids 4 times in 9 YEARS!!! She can't travel across our city to babysit our kids but can travel to the other side of the country to babysit for her daughters kid and that's sometimes for over a week.
I understand!! Out of my parents AND my in-laws, none of them have even seen my son in 4 years...and he's only 8! He doesn't even know what having a grandparent is like.
I'm so sorry to hear this, it's just horrible for the children.0 -
After getting a comment insinuating that we go out too much I am wondering ...
In general how often do you go out without the kids (anything recreational counts)
Do you And youe s.o. Go together or seperate?
How many kids and ages?
After having opposite schedules for a year, hubs and I now go out together one night a week leaving our 2 yr old with grandma for about 3 hours. I dont feel its excessive. We dont drink a lot hit clubs etc.
Going out once a week together sounds fabulous! Go for it. Not excessive. The person insinuating as much is probably jealous!0 -
I have Pool nights every week, and my husband has his Pool night a different day. Our 5 year old LOVES to go to either my parents or my husbands Mom's house. Nearly every weekend one set of grandparents is begging for him. We let him because it's a win for everyone. And I do realize how increadibly lucky we are. Normally it's our pool nights, and then every other weekend that we both go out together. I have never had to hire a babysitter for evening/weekend recreation. If a grandparent wasn't available, we wouldn't go out.0
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Honestly I'd rather have friends over for a couple drinks and board games than go to a club anyways. Then our kids get to play together and the adults get to hang out by the fire or something - we do this at least twice a month.
Agreed! Either my friends have kids around the same age or they don't have kids at all but love the one's they know. Bonfires, river house, cookouts or just a movie at a friends and the kids are always welcome.0 -
My children are 8 and 6
Realistically we go out together about once every 3 months but we are away for a week this year without the kids !
We go out fairly regularly separately0 -
Heck you are only young once and I am sure the grandparents love having the kids. I know my parents did. Go out and enjoy. :drinker:0
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My situation is different. I am divorced, so the ex has them every Sunday. Me and the BF go out together pretty much every Sunday. Going out for a girls night happens once a month.
My kids are 3 and 6.0 -
I try to see my friends once a month and I almost never get to go out with my husband. We have a date night every 3 -4 months MAYBE. We have three toddlers ages 3, 3 and 2 and hubbs works 7 10 hour shifts every other week 3rd shift so it is tough to find the time.0
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I am 33 (34 next month), my husband is 35. We have an almost 13 YO Boy and a 7 YO Girl. We hardly ever go out. Even when Grama takes them because she wants them to stay OR if one goes to a friends house to spend the night and the other goes to Gramas. My husband works out of town from Mon-Fri and so I am a single mom all week, so no going out then. And when he gets home on the weekend he likes to relax. He does go hunting and fishing with his buddies and leaves the kids with me, so I do not get to go out and have any fun. But OH WELL. That is life. IF I want to go out while he is hunting or fishing I will get a sitter and go, but that never happens.
What is really not good is the fact that we had some problems last year and almost split and decided then that we would have a "kid free" date night once a month. That has only happened maybe 3 times since June of 2012 and it has been because I have planned it.
OK.. well I am done ranting. I am sure I did not help you LOL.. but I see nothing wrong with going out occasionally without your kids.0 -
I'm not a parent so I'll answer this one for my parents.... Zip, Ziltch, Nada! They used to say tell me they have kids to take care of but we're all grown up now and now they just prefer to sit in the house in different corners and be anti social lol! But I love them to death I just wish I could get em to have a little fun every now and then, maybe they wouldn't be so bitter then. I don't like when people use age as an excuse to not have fun. I get that everyone has fun different ways, but whatever it is you gotta find out what it may be and embrace it....you only live once and you're not getting any younger!0
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I don't have kids and I don't think once a week is excessive...especially since you have a willing (she's willing, right?) and possibly eager built-in babysitter (grandparents can never get enough of the grandkids, right?).
Hahahahaa, I wish! My mil has babysat our kids 4 times in 9 YEARS!!! She can't travel across our city to babysit our kids but can travel to the other side of the country to babysit for her daughters kid and that's sometimes for over a week.
I understand. I wish I could say it's my MIL, but it's my parents (they are divorced and both remarried). My father doesn't have anything to do with my kids (for example, they (my father and step-mom) don't even know their ages), and my mother is a very self-centered type. Deep down I know she loves my kids, but rarely asks to see them. My daughter (9 yo) has never stayed the night with my mom.
My MIL will see them, but only on her terms and only for a couple of hours. She says her nerves can't handle them. They are 11 (almost 12) and 9, and both very well behaved. It's life and we deal.0 -
Well my Husband and I probably have a date day once a month, we all go out as a family at least 3x per month and I like to go out with friends every other month or so.
This is for the winter...it probably doubles in the summer. lol.0 -
My husband and I try to go out every, or every other sat. Even if it's to grab a bite to eat or see a movie. Our kids are 8.5 and 5.0
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Hmmm I wonder if age of parents plays a role too. We are 21 & 25. I feel like my other friends with kids are out way more. Once they are sleeping they just leave them with grandparents and go to the club.
Thanks to everyone who imputs, I dont judge I feel its a personal choice based on how often you see your children and spouse, as well as what you can afford. We are lucky to have grandmas sitting services.
I do not have any kids yet, but I think once a week is awesome! Not many couples spend time alone without there kids anymore, it is important for your relationship. It does not make you bad parents. I think it is awesome, that you guys set a side a day for just you two, even if it is just 3 hours. It makes your relationship stronger. Great Job, I say ! (: Mommy and Daddy are happy kids are happy, simple as that !0 -
What is this ''going out'' of which you speak?0
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Maybe once a month. I have 3 kids 6,3,1.5 with 1 more on the way. It is hard to get timing down. But we have a good time when we do. I have only had one guys night out in the last 8 years, but I let her go out with her friends when she can and I watch the kids.0
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Our boys have grown up and left home but we are still parents. We tell our boys that they can come home whenever they want to but we have a social life so they had better not forget their keys. Lol.
Monday nights we go out for dinner then dance class, Wednesdays are my service club, Thursdays are his, Friday or Saturday nights we go out dancing and Sunday mornings we cycle together.0 -
I am a single mom to a almost 2 year old little boy.
I try to go out once every other week but I always make sure my little guy is already in bed for the night and my mom watches (keeps an ear out for him).
I always make sure I am home before he wakes up in the morning,0 -
Not often.. When my son was 0-3, he never spent one single night away from me.
I would like to get out more now that he is older.0 -
My husband is military and so we have never lived near family that can babysit so to me once a week seems like a lot. We generally only go out when once in a blue moon my husband and I wind up with a day off at the same time, usually national holidays. We take the kids to daycare and look at it as free babysitting! Otherwise, it's hard to justify the huge expense of paying for a babysitter for a five year old and an infant.0
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5yro, 3yro, 1yro. We don't live by family and babysitters are few and far between. The hubs and I have gone out without the kids maybe two or 3 times in the last 5 years. We go out individually for a couple hours with friends maybe once a month, sometimes more depending on friends' schedules as most of them (mine) are also parents. I do not think that once a week is excessive, however. I think if you have appropriate support for it and aren't abusing the relationship of the person who is caring for your children and they enjoy it or you're paying, it is completely appropriate.0
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My boys are 3 1/2 and 2 (as of this Sunday).
My husband and I are lucky if we are able to go out without the kids two or three times a year. We don't have family that live locally, and I haven't yet found a sitter.
I go out without him once every few months or so.0
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