Uninvited guests & Unexpected visitors

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  • Ayeshat
    Ayeshat Posts: 209
    I grab a knife from the kitchen.....
  • kiwiwizard
    kiwiwizard Posts: 59 Member
    I peek sneakily out the side window and then hunker down in my living room all quiet like until they stop knocking.
    LOL, me too. Even if they SEE me, I pretend I'm not there.

    LOL!
  • mishelnkiki1
    mishelnkiki1 Posts: 87 Member
    mess up ur hair, strip butt nekkid, and when u open the door, breath really heavily and say... WHAT IN THE H*** DO YOU WANT IM BUSY!!! if that doesnt get them to leave, i dunno what else will.
  • k8eekins
    k8eekins Posts: 2,264 Member
    How do you deal with it?

    I just deal. Friends pop around comfortably like family. Grew up with absolute strangers seated at my family's breakfast table early Saturday mornings following our family marketing excursion, to ask for help or to sell items for their childrens' fees and the like, so to accommodate or to host surprise uninvited visitors isn't out of the box for me.

    Edited to add: They too live within the gated community@friends, relevant to one of my homes. For some of my other friends, their names are on the approved list, so they can drive on in, whenever. Has to be said though, that my friends don't feel as though they're guests/visitors in my home and I sure wouldn't wish that on them; Not a smidgeon.
  • aszwarc
    aszwarc Posts: 200 Member
    A friend of mine had a policy that all visitors had to call before dropping by. She established that because her husband's parents lived only a couple of blocks away and had a habit of dropping in at very inconvenient times. Once my friend let friends and family know about the policy, then she just wouldn't answer the door if people came by unannounced. Even if the wooden door was open with only the screen door as a barrier to entrance, and her visible through it. She'd just pretend she didn't hear the doorbell.
  • twinketta
    twinketta Posts: 2,130 Member
    Who are the uninvited guests/unexpected visitors?
  • never124get
    never124get Posts: 163
    My ex-boyfriend decided that it would be okay to just drop by randomly one evening while my current boyfriend and I were sitting down to dinner. (We've been together for a little over a year ago, and my ex and I had been broken up for over two years at that point.) And our relationship didn't end on a good "I still want to be friends" kind of note...

    I peeked though the window next to the door and he was standing there. I did NOT want to answer so I asked my boyfriend to and that sent my ex away pretty quickly considering my boyfriend is 6'5" and my ex is 5'7" haha...haven't heard from him since, he never even said what he wanted which is odd....but he is in another state now and I'm more than happy, the more miles the better so there are no more "random drop ins".
  • LethainIowa
    LethainIowa Posts: 43
    Unless it's somebody I actually am happy to see, I simply don't answer the door. No law says you have to.
  • twinketta
    twinketta Posts: 2,130 Member
    My ex-boyfriend decided that it would be okay to just drop by randomly one evening while my current boyfriend and I were sitting down to dinner. (We've been together for a little over a year ago, and my ex and I had been broken up for over two years at that point.) And our relationship didn't end on a good "I still want to be friends" kind of note...

    I peeked though the window next to the door and he was standing there. I did NOT want to answer so I asked my boyfriend to and that sent my ex away pretty quickly considering my boyfriend is 6'5" and my ex is 5'7" haha...haven't heard from him since, he never even said what he wanted which is odd....but he is in another state now and I'm more than happy, the more miles the better so there are no more "random drop ins".


    Well there ya go, now you have advice and `life experience`

    Never open the door to strangers, keep it locked.
  • dgraboski
    dgraboski Posts: 125 Member
    I peek sneakily out the side window and then hunker down in my living room all quiet like until they stop knocking.

    LOL I am totally done this many times even if it was someone I knew but just wasn't in the mood I would say oh I was in the shower didn't hear you knocking
  • Mutant13
    Mutant13 Posts: 2,485 Member
    Unless its someone like my mum or something I generally won't answer. In this age of mobile phones, Facebook etc there is absolutely no reason not to call before you visit. It's just rude to force your presence on to people
  • lilmissbamaqueen
    lilmissbamaqueen Posts: 184
    I'm a single female that lives alone. Unless one of my friends texts or calls me and tells me they're coming or if I have an appointment with the cable guy or something, I don't answer the door.
  • shorty35565
    shorty35565 Posts: 1,425 Member
    I peek sneakily out the side window and then hunker down in my living room all quiet like until they stop knocking.

    ^^THIS! Even for pest control. They have keys, so most often I stay in bed & pretend to sleep. I'm not a people person haha
  • AllAboutThatTreble
    AllAboutThatTreble Posts: 156 Member
    I really hate that. One of my pet peeves. Besides for my best friend, who will usually text me as she's walking up to the door, I don't answer for anyone I'm not expecting.

    I was raised that it's extremely rude to stop by uninvited, and I have no tolerance for it. Especially since I usually lounge around in a messy room with only my birthday suit on.

    It's so inconvenient to throw on clothes and scramble to make my place look presentable just because you couldn't give me the courtesy of a quick phone call or text message to let me know you're coming.

    I don't even check to see who it is, I don't care. I just won't open the door.
  • jbutterflye
    jbutterflye Posts: 1,914 Member
    I'm Mexican, it's what we do.

    I am too but oddly it's in my family where it's taboo, and in hubby's who is not mexican where it seems to be okay? In my family where it's not okay I will adress the protocol for OP who by posting must not be ok with it either. I personally hate it. When said uninvited guest knocks, you evaluate whether any lights are on or loud movies or music telltale signs someone is home.

    You run around whisper/scrambling until you decide if you can pretend you're not home/or realize they must have driven two hours to see you or were in the area and something is wrong and they need your help and you must open the door. Then you open the door with this look on your face :blushing: or :huh: depending on what you were doing when they showed up and exactly who it is.

    Then you ask "What are you doing here!?!?" in that tone, and shake hands profusely and hug waiting for said emergency explanation or just wanted to see you. Then you ransack your cupboards for anything to give them to eat or drink, offer your restroom and whatever else may be needed, restaurant ideas, local hotel ideas, shopping or sightseeing locations, AAA card and a phone, or just a place to sit and wait out traffic. You never give up your bed. That would only invite the practice to continue. Sweaters is ok they will mail them back. Jackets for kids is your duty, with the phrase "he can keep it".

    All of this because two wrongs don't make a right, but 3 lefts do. The end.

    You're very gracious. :bigsmile:

    I just drop down onto the floor and crawl like a snake along the carpet to the nearest corner where they can't see me from the door. Then I lay there, all panicked and breathing heavily, not making a sound. And when they bang on the door and yell "Open up, this is the police!" I stay put, because I'm not falling for their trick to lure me out, see. Eventually they leave to get their warrant and then that's when I make my getaway.
  • Toria718
    Toria718 Posts: 396 Member
    I peek sneakily out the side window and then hunker down in my living room all quiet like until they stop knocking.

    ^^This! Unless it's my BFF, who knows my house is in a constant state of disarray and that I may or may not be naked, and could not care less.

    lol, my younger sister made the mistake of not calling before she came over...my house was trashed...as normal...and i was at the time naked. she now calls before she comes over lol
  • Mustang_Susie
    Mustang_Susie Posts: 7,045 Member
    If its not UPS, FedEx or someone I know, I don't answer, especially if hubby isn't home and it's just me and my daughter.
    Otherwise I make hubby answer the door.
    I did open to a "salesman" type of guy several months ago and he seemed somewhat suspicious.
    Told him I wasn't interested and closed (locked) the door.
    Found out that he was checking out the neighborhood and broke into the house of a single woman on our block.
    I don't like that I'm setting an example of how to be rude and deceptive to our daughter, but we live in a violent city and we just can't trust people...
  • LMT2012
    LMT2012 Posts: 697 Member
    I haven't had unannounced/uninvited guests since I was in my 20s.

    When I did, I didn't mind and would spontaneously cook for them.

    This
  • Skrib69
    Skrib69 Posts: 687 Member
    When I was single, I had an open door policy. Anyone could drop round provided I was decent, but they would have to just accept what I was doing which could range from cleaning the U-bend on the toilet to baking a cake. Most people thought I was joking when I invited them to turn up, but they got the hang of it pretty quickly because they usually got roped into whatever I was doing!! My girlfriend then moved in (and later became my wife, but that is another story!) and didn't like my 'open house', so it quickly stopped, but I still like it when people just turn up. :smile:

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