what your significant other eats

Kayla_292to165

So does it bother you what your significant other eats? It really has been bugging me lately.... like yesterday....He had 3 donuts for breakfast at church, a huge tbone steak with fries and corn on the cob for lunch, pork chops, cheesy potatoes, and rice for dinner. Then he had a bowl of cereal....then right before bed he ate a package of cheesy smoky links....Should I let him know I'm worried about him eating this way? He isn't obese, but I'm starting to really be concerned about his health....But I don't want to come across as a jerk about it either...

oregonzoo

Does he go to regular checkups?

Has he always eaten this way?

The way I feel, if his doctor gives him a clean bill of health and he has always eaten this way...

Then leave him be. Now you can always offer him healthier options but don't be upset if he turns them down. Remember this is YOUR thing, not his. And he isn't required to join you.

I know it's rough sometimes. My fiance eats in a similar manner. However, he always has and until he wants help it's not my business.
He doesn't try to shove one of his Rice Krispie treats down my mouth at night.

Kayla_292to165

No he didn't start eating like this until he became a mail carrier in June. during the week, I try not to worry too much about it because he doesn't eat a lot during the day because he's always too busy. But for a Sunday? And nope no regular check ups. I don't know the last time he went to the dr....

Alex_is_Hawks

a mail carrier? don't those people walks a **** ton of miles? My "step" brother is a mail carrier and the miles he racks up is HUGE...no wonder he's hungry....if his labs are ok and his doctor isn't worried then you shouldn't be.

wanna know what my SO ate for breakfast on saturday? 4 pieces of leftover ribs (2-3 bones per) and 7 pancakes (about 5 inches in diameter) and 3/4 cup of leftover corn (from the rib, potato, corn supper we had friday night)

he's bulking, and he's hungry....and he can...

I was so damned proud.

JustJennie1

a mail carrier? don't those people walks a **** ton of miles? My "step" brother is a mail carrier and the miles he racks up is HUGE...no wonder he's hungry....

I have never seen a letter carrier walking where I live. They all drive mail trucks.

OP: I'm with everyone else. If his blood work is fine and he has no issues and he's not forcing any of his food on you then leave him alone.

infamousmk

My husband has a physically demanding job. He eats the meals I pack from leftovers, which include macro-appropriate selections as well as acceptable portion sizes, and then he will grab snacks like hot dogs, candy bars, chocolate milk, Combos™, and nachos. He's not gaining weight and he's in reasonably good health.


So, I focus on my own struggles related to health and fitness and let him be.

_SusieQ_

It used to bother me. Now I just make sure the life insurance premiums are paid up.

oregonzoo

Here's another way I look at it. How would YOU feel if you were eating a treat you'd managed to fit into your calories...

And he just stared at you and said "are you REALLY going to eat that?" .

NicoleisQuantized

It used to bother me. Now I just make sure the life insurance premiums are paid up.

LOL

CakeFit21

It used to bother me. Now I just make sure the life insurance premiums are paid up.

This

OkieinMinny

It used to really bother me but like SusieQ said I just keep the insurance up to date and I just make sure I cook a healthy meal for dinner and that there are left-overs he can take for lunch - doesnt always work that way - and I figure he's a grown *kitten* man who knows better, he just chooses to eat the way he does --

clydethecat

my husband cleans pools for a living, and you have no idea how physically taxing that is.. he burns a lot of calories every day, and he eats like he does. i get him to eat good stuff when i cook, but he eats what he wants, he eats what tastes good to him. and he's a grown man, he can make those decisions. his cholesterol is good, his blood pressure is good, his doctor wants him to lose a little more weight, which hes doing.

let him have what he wants.

concordancia

I can't imagine knowing how many donuts he ate at a social function.

moonlitdreams2

It's ok to be worried. Try to keep less of that in the house?

lithezebra

Mine eats wheat, which doesn't bother me, but it means I have to be extra careful about cutting boards, the toaster, and anything that might have touched a wheat product.

sgv0918

When my SO complains about the way he looks and being uphappy thats the only time I bring up his diet. I figure he opened the floor for discussion. I let him order what he wants and I order what I want and he knows why I choose the things I do. His choices are improving. Baby steps

med2017

i think you should tell him how you feel, and that he should be eating healthier because its good for his overall health. theres nothing wrong with being honest with the person you love, thats what your there for, to make him a better person, just as he makes you a better person :flowerforyou:

better to kill a growing habit now then wait couple years till you wont be able to do anything about it

keem88

you can suggest things, but it's his health. if he wants to dig an early grave and not respect his body or how you feel about it then so be it. i've learned to not bother trying to change people, especially when it comes to health and lifestyle changes. just try to make food for both of you and hope that sometimes he is eating well.
that's what i do with my fiance, i know he eats like crap unless i am cooking. so at least for one meal maybe 2 if he's around for breakfast, he gets some better food than food court crap at the mall where he works

devil_in_a_blue_dress

Unless you have a specific health concern, I'd keep a lid on it. You can always encourage him to get regular check ups, keep lots of healthy food choices on hand, and try to incorporate activity into the time you spend with each other. But no, mentioning somebody else's food choices to me just isn't cool.

melsmith612

I'm confused... did you cook those meals for him to eat? Or does he cook them for himself? I think my husband would starve or live on nothing but precooked bacon and almonds if not for me making meals for him! :laugh:

kps31kms2

It only bothers me when I want a treat and he gets on my case about "staying the course" - yet he's chowing down on something yummy delicious! He has a very physical job so I'm not too concerned wtih what he eats - just eats at me when he knows I'm trying to get healthy and he eats my old faves right in front of me. Taunting me. Teasing me. Killing me softly with vanilla ice cream topped with chocolate syrup. :-)

BrendaLee

If he's eating like that every day, it sounds like a heart attack waiting to happen. Let him know you want him with you for a long time and that you'd like him to join you in eating healthy. He doesn't have to give up his goodies, but it's probably time for him to start thinking about his health and making good choices most of the time.

In the end, it is his decision, but there's no harm in inviting him along for the ride.

lithezebra

Does your honey have his cholesterol checked with his annual exams?

_CowgirlUp_

Letting him know you're concerned about his health is one thing. Telling or even suggestion to a grown, mature adult what he should & shouldn't be eating is another. He knows. He didn't fall off the pumpkin truck yesterday. When his health becomes a concern for HIM, he'll make the changes he needs to make. In the meantime, he's watching you and I'm sure he'll start moving over to the "healthier side" eventually but maybe not if his weight is decent and feels healthy and good about himself.

MM_1982

@Cowgirl. My favorite diet consists of Kashi, fun sized Twix, and a vodka tonic.