a little personal, but I need an honest opinion

kimberly428

He hasn't paid anything in 3yrs.....take the $$
what a crappy situation...shame on him

Agreed!

leavinglasvegas

I'm still waiting for child support from 10 years ago, so I feel your pain. That being said, I still wouldn't settle. You really should research free legal aide. If he can pay some of it and support himself at the same time, theres something funny going on.

I don't know where you are exactly. But in Michigan the father would be locked up then released to a state work program mingled with welfare recipients. Especially if he needs to depend on assistance for himself. He then has a choice, follow the rules of the program and find a job and allow the state to check up on his attendence and income while they garnish his wages, or sit his *kitten* in the slammer.

Don't settle without your own legal counsel!!!!

lornainak

I agree with HOPEful27. He can't afford the payments yet he can afford the lawyer...

What a crappy situation you find yourself in... I would take the money but do you have to forfeit the other $20K in arrears he owes you by signing the settlement? So you forfeit the $20K and he takes you back to court anyway to reduce to child support for the three younger ones. Sounds like he is going to do that anyway. He will have three more to support once your third oldest hits 18. I don't know the ages of the younger 3 but he should make the child support on the last 3 of the 6 children you have had with him.....just my thoughts !

Phoenix_Rising

$5,500 is all? Or $17,000 (24 checks at $500 each, or 24 checks totaling $12,000?)



And I disagree with your family -- what you chose is your decision and does not impact your children. You handle your finances, you do what you see fit for them. Accepting or battling this -- you have to do what you can sleep with at night, you know?

I'm very sorry you are in this circumstance.


(And I'm in a mood, so lemme add that I hope he rots in hell.)

NotSurprised

I totally understand your families sentiments, I don't know his situation but yeah if he's doing that receiving on purpose the government checks just so he doesn't have to pay his fare share then he's a piece of *kitten* not really living just suffering in his own misery of patheticness. is that even a real word anyway I say it's & that's that.;-) Definitely take the guaranteed money unless of course he is hiding money which you know of & can prove. He has already went two years doing what you said government assistance & hasn't paid at all. I don't know why he has not been doing jail time for his scumbagatudeness, but yeah take him for whatever he has your children & you certainly deserved always let alone two years of not receiving anything from sad to say father of your children. May God Bless you with whatever it's your heart desires.

Jason

logiesmom

Ok....Can I just say something here??

6 KIDS???? You look AMAZING!!!!

Just throwing that out there.

Take the money girl!! You and your children deserve it.

imagymrat

Ok....Can I just say something here??

6 KIDS???? You look AMAZING!!!!

Just throwing that out there.

Take the money girl!! You and your children deserve it.

lol, thank you, I work really hard to kep fit, and my anger towards my ex drives me to look even better, he actually has brought out the best in me! if only he knew what gift he gave tome by cheating on me and leaving us. At the time I thought I would just fall apart, we are stronger then we know. The reason he isn't in jail is because in Toronto,, i'm Canadian, our laws don't do support recipients any favours. He cannot ever do jail time for money owed. That being said, the cheques are for 500.00 each, and the 5,000.00 is to have the back support payments retracted, so i'd be letting him off the hook for thousands of dollars. The problem is, I need repairs done to my home and I have two sons that have braces and i'm struggling with two jobs to make ends meet. Guaranteed money is so hard to resist. I know he has money tucked away, he travels 2-3 x's a year to visit his gf in Japan, she's a teacher. He bought a 2009 Ford F150 with cash. He works under the table, my eldest son followed him and we found ou the employer who was paying him cash. Once confronted he claimed that my ex was not employed by him and that was that. I've taken out newspaper ads asking for help from anyone who may know of his employment status. I've called my local MP, although sympathetic, in the end was of very little help. He now lives with his mom and is living off her wealth, which is endless..since his father passed they have more money then they know what to do with. To make a long story short, they have no desire to see the kids, not him, not his mom, not his sisters. They sent back the graduation tickets I sent for my seconds son grad saying that unless I chose not to attend he couldn't stand to be in the same room with me??! craziness. I just want peace in my life, since his support order was made, he takes me back to court at least one every other month, i'm jus plain tired of it....I think i'll take the money and run, I have untill Friday to decide.


Just a side note. I did get free legal counsel and found out that it doesn't matter where he got the money to get a lawyer or any costs involved in taking me to court will hold any legal argument. It comes down to him being allowed to obtain legal counsel and no judge will question it..that really sucks, as far as the money for the supprt payment, that's good old bank of mom.

MattySparky

I wish I could help you. Your ex deserves to be tied up in a dark basement for a few weeks and tortured.

iplayoutside19

Ask your family members who are against you settling to help you make ends meet until he pays.

If no one will take you up on it...settle.....and get a lawyer...somehow.

XFitMojoMom

I wish I could help you. Your ex deserves to be tied up in a dark basement for a few weeks and tortured.

OOOO! How Paul Bernardo of you!:laugh: