"on the wagon" , "off the wagon"... there is no WAGON!

For the last week I have been seeing posts everywhere about this stupid wagon.

Some are getting back on it, others claim to have fallen off it, yet others can't seem to catch the wagon to fall off of just to climb back on it again.

THERE IS NO WAGON!

You can't fall off something you refuse in the first place.

Do you really want to ride this wagon the rest of your life? Just to fall off and hurt yourself. Because from my point of view here, if you keep telling yourself you failed Or "fell off the stupid wagon" you are never going to find what it is you are trying to find.

There is no wagon.

There might be an off meal or a treat meal, or an I'm so exhausted I got take away Chinese food. But there is no wagon.

I've learned quite a bit here lately about living to the fullest. Watching people you love die slowly will do that to you.

My weight may stall for months on end, it may plateau. I may eat cake, I might eat Chinese, I drink.

But I have not fallen off any wagon. The whole notion just sounds painful.

Find some peace with your body. If you haven't reached goal, if you have reached goal or just midway to it. Make peace and LIVE without regret. LIVE and EAT with the people you love. Tomorrow is so not promised.

Tomorrow morning they could be gone, forget about the wagon and enjoy the food you ate that was made with love or shared with love and chopsticks over a DVR'ed TV show.

One meal, one day in such a structured world we live in with counting calories will not kill you. I promise.

I am in theory 19 pounds away from where I ultimately desperately wanted to be.

My body however has had other ideas, this has taught me where my Maintenance level is.

45 pounds lost is hellishly good to where I was this time last year.

If another pound doesn't drop off. That's fine. I didn't chase, ride, fall or otherwise involve wagons in the process.

It is what it is.

But I have found where I can comfortably eat to keep those 45 pounds away for the rest of whatever life I have through some of the worst stress you can go through.

But please back away from the wagons, there are no more prairies to cross with that wagon. You are enough as you are. Leave the wagons alone, they just seem to cause a lot of anguish.

Eat, and live and realize it's one meal. It's not going to kill you or magically make you regain all the weight you lost or undo the work at the gym.

Be at peace. It's nice to find, and comes when you leave the stupid wagon alone.
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  • agrant85
    agrant85 Posts: 92 Member
    Best. post. ever. !!!!
  • RoadsterGirlie
    RoadsterGirlie Posts: 1,195 Member
    What an awesome post.

    Just like there is no spoon - there is no wagon.
  • Seaglass1123
    Seaglass1123 Posts: 500 Member
    :heart:
  • codylee98
    codylee98 Posts: 37 Member
    You are incredible....thank you, thank you THANK YOU!
  • dhldc85
    dhldc85 Posts: 16 Member
    Thanks for that... Just what I needed to hear :-)
  • This is an incredible post and I appreciate you for it! :-)
  • _mrsgigi_
    _mrsgigi_ Posts: 38 Member
    well said!
  • Byrdsong1920
    Byrdsong1920 Posts: 336 Member
    PRRREACHHHHHHH PREACHA!!!!!!! Enuf already!

    Happy journey, and happier living!

    Shannon, Atl
  • Daysednconfused
    Daysednconfused Posts: 975 Member
    Very good post! :drinker:
  • Well put. I ate some cadbury eggs this week and simply logged them. I live in the UAE and when treats are here I indulge because life is too short for no cadbury eggs at Easter time. :)
  • :heart: Great post!!
  • Graelwyn75
    Graelwyn75 Posts: 4,404 Member
    Amazing post, and so totally true.
    Life is too short to be falling off wagons.
  • briggsf
    briggsf Posts: 28
    wow, i say this all the time... but no more!!! Thanks for your post, I feel like you were talking especially to me:}
  • SmartAlec03211988
    SmartAlec03211988 Posts: 1,896 Member
    I traded in my wagon for rockie road brownies.
  • novalh42
    novalh42 Posts: 102 Member
    :flowerforyou:
  • erinpd
    erinpd Posts: 96
    Simply beautiful. Thank you for posting!
  • AllonsYtotheTardis
    AllonsYtotheTardis Posts: 16,947 Member
    :drinker:
  • Danilynn1975
    Danilynn1975 Posts: 294 Member
    thank you.
  • HelenDootson
    HelenDootson Posts: 443 Member
    Beautifully put xx
  • GretchenReine
    GretchenReine Posts: 1,374 Member
    Beyond "love" this! Very well put! Now I can stop looking for a wagon (there aren't many of them in the city!) :drinker:
  • Railr0aderTony
    Railr0aderTony Posts: 6,803 Member
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  • This is fabulous!!!!!
  • jiggy_gibby
    jiggy_gibby Posts: 197
    well put!
  • Lmezz11
    Lmezz11 Posts: 619 Member
    Thank you. I needed to read this. :heart:
  • Alatariel75
    Alatariel75 Posts: 18,341 Member
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  • ezzirah
    ezzirah Posts: 4
    NICE! Well put!!!
  • HodderAL
    HodderAL Posts: 358 Member
    Wise words! I hope many people read this.
  • Robin_Bin
    Robin_Bin Posts: 1,046 Member
    Excellent post!

    (Just read another post about foods people considered "cheating", which is very similar to the "off the wagon" concept, I think. And I really don't understand who they think they're cheating or why someone would want to cheat himself or herself?)
  • RhonndaJ
    RhonndaJ Posts: 1,615 Member
    I like your post, but I view 'the wagon' as something a bit different than I think you perceive it.

    When I 'fall off the wagon' it doesn't mean that I've failed or done something horrible or painful. It just means that I've consciously stopped working towards the goals that I've set for myself. Nothing more nothing less.

    Running to catch up with my wagon? That's just the struggling effort I go through at times to get back to steadily working on my goals.

    And getting back on or being on the wagon? That just means I'm going through a streak where I'm keeping to my goals fairly easily and I can sit back and enjoy the ride.

    The problem isn't in the phrase, it's where a person's head is.

    As I said, I like your post, I think it's a good point to be made, but I like the phrase and I'll be continuing to use it as it fits in my life.

    Respectfully,
    R
  • mcfc4tony
    mcfc4tony Posts: 107 Member
    For the last week I have been seeing posts everywhere about this stupid wagon.

    Some are getting back on it, others claim to have fallen off it, yet others can't seem to catch the wagon to fall off of just to climb back on it again.

    THERE IS NO WAGON!

    You can't fall off something you refuse in the first place.

    Do you really want to ride this wagon the rest of your life? Just to fall off and hurt yourself. Because from my point of view here, if you keep telling yourself you failed Or "fell off the stupid wagon" you are never going to find what it is you are trying to find.

    There is no wagon.

    There might be an off meal or a treat meal, or an I'm so exhausted I got take away Chinese food. But there is no wagon.

    I've learned quite a bit here lately about living to the fullest. Watching people you love die slowly will do that to you.

    My weight may stall for months on end, it may plateau. I may eat cake, I might eat Chinese, I drink.

    But I have not fallen off any wagon. The whole notion just sounds painful.

    Find some peace with your body. If you haven't reached goal, if you have reached goal or just midway to it. Make peace and LIVE without regret. LIVE and EAT with the people you love. Tomorrow is so not promised.

    Tomorrow morning they could be gone, forget about the wagon and enjoy the food you ate that was made with love or shared with love and chopsticks over a DVR'ed TV show.

    One meal, one day in such a structured world we live in with counting calories will not kill you. I promise.

    I am in theory 19 pounds away from where I ultimately desperately wanted to be.

    My body however has had other ideas, this has taught me where my Maintenance level is.

    45 pounds lost is hellishly good to where I was this time last year.

    If another pound doesn't drop off. That's fine. I didn't chase, ride, fall or otherwise involve wagons in the process.

    It is what it is.

    But I have found where I can comfortably eat to keep those 45 pounds away for the rest of whatever life I have through some of the worst stress you can go through.

    But please back away from the wagons, there are no more prairies to cross with that wagon. You are enough as you are. Leave the wagons alone, they just seem to cause a lot of anguish.

    Eat, and live and realize it's one meal. It's not going to kill you or magically make you regain all the weight you lost or undo the work at the gym.

    Be at peace. It's nice to find, and comes when you leave the stupid wagon alone.

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