content but not at goal - getting re-motivated

acstansell

My sticktoitiveness has not been very sticky lately. I've been falling off the wagon and not feeling that bad at the time - it's when I feel the bloat that I want to slap my Saturday self silly. Trying to go to the gym at least three times a week, but I won't make any progress when I can't keep my pie hole closed. I've tried the scale reset... It's kinda working. What have you done to pull out of the comfort zone, content with where you are but knowing its not your "goal"... ?

Tips would be great... I had the greatest willpower and motivation and then I hit the size I am currently and some personal things happened and I got thrown off track. I want to get back on and am really struggling - I'm not done!

Bos3kd

You could try the superhero approach. Pick your favorite superhero/heroine or admirable figure (not Don Draper), and keep in mind what would they do. Try to mimic their example of will power. It sounds corny, but Aragorn works for me. I really want Anduril, but that's the Kings reward, and if that's my goal, I shouldn't get that until i'm down like 150lbs and completely changed everything.

Regarding food, i watched something on Netflix that had a cool twist. It needs to not be " i can't have that', it shoudl be more 'i can have that, but i don't want it'.

Call me and we can talk if you like.

Have a good day!

chymerra

when i started last year, my goal was to get back to a size 2/4. i hit that goal in october of 2012. but i wanted more; i wanted my ab definition back and more muscle definition all around so that was my next goal. to further reinforce my decision, i signed up for tough mudder so this forces me to maintain and get my butt in gear.

pick another few goals you want to hit and work towards them. sign up for a race or something like that so you are accountable and motivated to keep going.

acstansell

I've signed up for two 5ks to walk them, I'd really like to run them eventually.

I'm having trouble resetting my mind to realize "a goal is good, but you're not done yet"

acstansell

You could try the superhero approach. Pick your favorite superhero/heroine or admirable figure (not Don Draper), and keep in mind what would they do. Try to mimic their example of will power. It sounds corny, but Aragorn works for me. I really want Anduril, but that's the Kings reward, and if that's my goal, I shouldn't get that until i'm down like 150lbs and completely changed everything.

Regarding food, i watched something on Netflix that had a cool twist. It needs to not be " i can't have that', it shoudl be more 'i can have that, but i don't want it'.

Call me and we can talk if you like.

Have a good day!

What? Don Draper's not a good role model???

You know first hand that for the first 60lbs that my willpower was crazy good! I would splurge, but only on occasion and that attitude you mentioned (I could have that, but I don't want that) was my mantra....

I need to get that mantra back. I'm comfortable. I need to do something to shake me out of my complacency.

Whipppets

Wake up everyday and think how can I improve my fitness. It could be eating better, adding a couple minutes
to your exercise, or getting more sleep. Each day try to improve.

Bob the trainer on BL had the best line when a contestant thought he had reached his goals.
He told him he still had plenty of fat to lose and that thinking he was fine would only lead him back to his
fat ways. He told him to work harder.

kitka82

I lost 60 pounds and reached my goal size (8/10), 15 pounds above my goal weight of 150. My progress stalled for over 2 years before I learned that I needed to be eating more to reset my metabolism and reach my goals. I am content with my size, but not with the tone of my body. So my plan is to lift weights, run, and eat to fuel my body properly.

My goal has always been "bikini body." Well, I have worn a bikini for the past two summers, so now what? After a while, my superficial goals did not hold up, and led to unhealthy body image and eating habits. I still want to get to 150, but overall I want to reduce my body fat, and get stronger. I would love to be able to do a pullup.

It helps to focus on your performance goals. You get so much more satisfaction from finishing a race or hauling heavy weights than you do from just looking hot. I mean, if all you want is to look hot, I cannot judge because I have been there too. Just saying.

Davina_JH

tagging to read any more responses later.

jerber160

I know how you feel. I have some shorts I bought last summer that I won't be able to wear this summer.. but just barely,, and they were really small.... I'm kind of hanging around for a few more weeks until I am going to HIT it hard... I think I have so many issues.... doctor and nutritionist appointment, I'm rehearsing a show and am afraid of injuring my knees at gym, so until the show is running and I'm not teaching actual choreography, I'm staying away.....2-3 more weeks.... then hopefully WHAM gonna attack it... but this waiting thing is a little hard...and I'm edging in the wrong direction

NutellaAddict

Think...do you really want to be that same person you were 50+ lbs ago? Tired all the time, lazy, no energy? Yes it might be EASIer to say ahh f@#k it I'm not going to the gym but how does that benefit you? You joined for a reason, stay motivated for the same reason. (Look good naked, healthy so you don't die early...etc...)

acstansell

Think...do you really want to be that same person you were 50+ lbs ago? Tired all the time, lazy, no energy? Yes it might be EASIer to say ahh f@#k it I'm not going to the gym but how does that benefit you? You joined for a reason, stay motivated for the same reason. (Look good naked, healthy so you don't die early...etc...)

THIS is what I need to remember- I remember all to clearly how I felt when I was 280... and it sucked. I also know that when I work out consistently I FEEL better!!!

I need to hold on to and remind myself why I started, what I want, and where I want to be - and what it's going to take to get there!!! I keep saying "I can't" - I can't understand why I'm overeating, why I'm doing this or that - the problem is I DO UNDERSTAND.

I'm being lazy and complacent. I'm not fighting as hard... it never started out as a goal for smaller pants it always started as a goal for a better me.

MY EXCUSES ARE JUST THAT!!!

I need to get just as mad at myself as I was when I started... and I need to go back to kicking my own butt.

You all are awesome - and THIS is what can make this forum great!

GeekTink

Leave yourself notes. That's how I keep myself motivated. I went on my calander online and posted pictures of clothes I would REALLY like to fit into, on random dates throughout the next 6 months. Every once in a while I get a reminder that I have an event and BAM! Beautiful clothes I can't wear yet. Makes me determined to jump right back into it. Also leave myself sticky notes all around the house. My one on the mirror says "Damn girl, looking good. But what about bikini good?" It helps me focus on what I want.

Great jobso far! Keep up the great work!

jerber160

Wake up everyday and think how can I improve my fitness. It could be eating better, adding a couple minutes
to your exercise, or getting more sleep. Each day try to improve.

Bob the trainer on BL had the best line when a contestant thought he had reached his goals.
He told him he still had plenty of fat to lose and that thinking he was fine would only lead him back to his
fat ways. He told him to work harder.

this is so cute... the more sleep part....my mind has been racing at night... or else i've been having wild dreams and waking up exhausted.