Friend was a b*tch because of car problems, need advice!

abrandnewme18

Hey guys. Just looking for some helpful advice and encouragement. So I just experienced this embarrassing incident today. Me and my friend were out and about and then my car broke down. I've never experienced any other kind of car trouble before, so I just called my mom. She told me to call AAA (we have a membership, but I've never used it before). I was honestly nervous to call but my friend made me do it, because she was being impatient and just wanted to leave. Anyways, I finally decided to call, and when I did she was laughing and saying stuff like "your voice sucks" etc. Now I don't think she was saying this stuff to hurt my feelings as she isn't very serious and jokes around a lot. But she DID hurt my feelings and made me feel like a freaking idiot. And to make matters worse, I am very young (I just turned 19 2 weeks ago) and know literally nothing about cars except how to drive them, so the whole situation already made me feel like a freaking idiot.

Anyway, the repair guy got there, and to make matters worse, he was really hot. My friend was laughing/mocking at me basically the entire time and I just felt so stupid. In the car ride home she was blabbering about this guy and she didn't even notice that I was pissed at her.

After she left, I just started to cry because of the bad day and because I'm really emotional now (thanks TOM). I feel stupid for not telling her that she upset me in the car ride, but I'm still pissed at her and still I want to tell her that she was a b*tch and was really rude. I'm a soft person and usually don't have the balls to confront people if they make me upset, but I don't want to let her get away with this. I'm not exactly sure how I should tell her though, especially since she's not a very serious person. Also, she tends to create drama (mainly with guys, but with girls too), and I don't want to start any. What should I do?

fara180

dana,

it's okay to feel upset. i went through something similar to this not too long ago. i was in my first official wreck a few weeks ago and it totally messed up my car and was really, really scary. my friend was with me and wasn't very supportive and didn't get why i was so upset. it's SCARY when your car lets you down like that, you had every right to feel nervous about it.

as far as your friend starting drama...it sounds like she was unaware of how upset you were. i doubt she would have acted the same way if she'd known but that's no excuse for her to be so rude to you, especially in front of other people or when you're on the phone. that's messed up. let this girl know that you didn't appreciate it and that you would have liked her to take things a little more seriously.

Surfrider

Pretty soon you wont have to deal with teenager friend drama anymore. (She sounds terribly immature)

abrandnewme18

dana,

it's okay to feel upset. i went through something similar to this not too long ago. i was in my first official wreck a few weeks ago and it totally messed up my car and was really, really scary. my friend was with me and wasn't very supportive and didn't get why i was so upset. it's SCARY when your car lets you down like that, you had every right to feel nervous about it.

as far as your friend starting drama...it sounds like she was unaware of how upset you were. i doubt she would have acted the same way if she'd known but that's no excuse for her to be so rude to you, especially in front of other people or when you're on the phone. that's messed up. let this girl know that you didn't appreciate it and that you would have liked her to take things a little more seriously.

Thanks Fara!
And oh gosh, that must have been scary. I would have died.

KevinsCatie

Just remember, its not the end of the world and life WILL go on, wether you are upset or not. So why waste the energy on it? I would just let it go this time, but next time she starts running her mouth, I'd give her the evil eye and tell her to shut her fat trap! Be asertive!! It really does feel GREAT!!!

iulia_maddie

You are so young.
I was so shy, and pretty much a pushover at 19. I consciously made the decision to start standing up for myself. And that was it.
You need to force yourself to do the same thing. Flat out tell her that she offended you, and that you expect an apology.
Other than that, don't stress too much over it. Friends argue, they make mistakes. I am sure she didn't even realise she hurt you.

carrieous

text her and tell her you dont want to hear anything out of her until she apologizes for being a *kitten* today.

and then stick to it.

KenosFeoh

And this is why I don't have any friends. I would never speak to her again.

SweetSilvia

Your friend was surely very rude to act like that in that situation. A good friend understands when making jokes is appropriate and when it isn't. From the way you described her, she seems very superficial and carefree to me and I think you should speak to her about her attitude because otherwise she will do it again and again. You have to make her understand that you were hurt and upset and if she refuses to think about her attitude, she's not a good friend .

I personally get very nervous in situations that involve car problems and I totally understand you.

Cheers.
Silvia