bullying in the workplace

RoadToHappiness92

I started a new job about a month ago and the other people I have been working with have made a few comments I have overheard.

Yesterday one of the receptionists asked someone else if they think I am pregnant or just fat and then this morning one of the other PT's was like to the receptionists.. "Oh I was going to tell you something but I can't now" nodding her head my way.
I thought this was a great job, and it is.. But these comments are making me feel really insecure and down on myself, and like I don't want to go to work...

Should I bring it to the bosses attention, or is that causing too much drama?

_the_feniks_

Grow a set and talk to your coworkers first.

skinnybunny_x

Is this junior high, or a big girl job?

Who cares what these people think or say? If they're attacking you, they're obviously insecure and possibly jealous. Take it as a compliment that they care so much to talk about you.

If it were me, I'd tell them that I WAS pregnant, but they're comments made me so upset I lost the baby. Rofl

_noob_

document everything you can and find a lawyer to sue under "harassment due to hostile work environment".

RoadToHappiness92

Grow a set and talk to your coworkers first.

Rude.
Dude, my coworkers have been there 10x longer than me and are mostly teenage girls. What's going to stop them?

RoadToHappiness92

Is this junior high, or a big girl job?

Who cares what these people think or say? If they're attacking you, they're obviously insecure and possibly jealous. Take it as a compliment that they care so much to talk about you.

If it were me, I'd tell them that I WAS pregnant, but they're comments made me so upset I lost the baby. Rofl

I work in a Gym

JessikaBlayne

document everything you can and find a lawyer to sue under "harassment due to hostile work environment".

this

_the_feniks_

Grow a set and talk to your coworkers first.

Rude.
Dude, my coworkers have been there 10x longer than me and are mostly teenage girls. What's going to stop them?

So because they are teenage girls, they won't listen to you, understand or have a reasonable response? Yeah... clearly they are the problem.

chels0722

Get all up in their business and call'em out. Bi***es that say things behind your back won't have the guts to to stomach your confrontation.

1ConcreteGirl

Bullying, verb: Use superior strength or influence to intimidate (someone), typically to force him or her to do what one wants.

This isn't bullying, it's just rude.

Act like an adult and confront people instead of acting like a child yourself.

chubby_checkers

They're teen girls, so it shouldn't be any surprise to you that they act like that. If it really bothers you, put cat turds in their purse when they aren't looking.

Cr01502

Make fun of them too.



It's just a big game BABY!

MintyStarshine

Bullying, verb: Use superior strength or influence to intimidate (someone), typically to force him or her to do what one wants.

This isn't bullying, it's just rude.

Act like an adult and confront people instead of acting like a child yourself.

How is asking about advice in a sticky situation acting like a child?

skinnybunny_x

They're teenagers?!

Wow.

Children can be cruel. They're immature, stupid, and have low self esteem.

Demonstrate mature behavior, and be nice to them. They'll thank you for it in ten years.

Dunkirk

Does the boss know about what's happening, and would he/she be prepared to stop it from happening?

moustache_flavored_lube

Bullying this is not

Pixi_Rex

Before going higher... go directly to your co-workers like an adult and talk to them, if they get worse or don't stop take it to your boss. If that doesn't stop take it higher.

Teenagers or young adults or adults in genreal will more than likely cease when you bring it up. It has been my experiance that actually speaking up gets you further than sitting back and crying about it..

So pull up the big girl panties, confront the situation head on and then go from there.

doc800

File it in the who cares bin. Should it happen, no but it did. Unless they have a direct impact on your job then my feeling is in time things will play out to your advantage. Great thing about dumb people is they do dumb things. If you wait you you will be able to extract a pound of flesh later lol.

Rage_Phish

This is why whenever i start a new job, i instantly kill the largest co-worker. this earns me respect and lets all others know i'm not one to be messed with.

_SusieQ_

Grow a set and talk to your coworkers first.

Rude.
Dude, my coworkers have been there 10x longer than me and are mostly teenage girls. What's going to stop them?

You sound about the same age frankly.

If you truly are older and didn't lie on your profile, then you should act like it and just tell them to stop being so immature. At some point you have to act like a grownup and stop worrying about high school games.

SneakyWaff1es

Rude.
Dude, my coworkers have been there 10x longer than me and are mostly teenage girls. What's going to stop them?

You should stop them. If you can't be grown and talk to them about it you think they'll take you serious if you run off and tell the boss?

1ConcreteGirl

Bullying, verb: Use superior strength or influence to intimidate (someone), typically to force him or her to do what one wants.

This isn't bullying, it's just rude.

Act like an adult and confront people instead of acting like a child yourself.

How is asking about advice in a sticky situation acting like a child?

Asking for advice is not acting like a child. Bringing it to the boss's attention before talking to her co-workers about it is acting like a child.

BrennLinn

What you need to do is walk up to them and tell them if they have a problem or something to say then they should address you instead of acting like immature 16 year olds. I dealt with catty women in the work place and I didn't put up with it. Dont let them walk all over you because it will become a little game to them and it will only make your life more miserable.

markymarrkk

tell them bishes this: ay yo! MY BACK IS NOT A VOICEMAIL... SAY IT TO MY FACE.

Contrarian

This is why whenever i start a new job, i instantly kill the largest co-worker. this earns me respect and lets all others know i'm not one to be messed with.

This is also what I do. It sends a powerful message. A powerful message, indeed.

Calliope610

Is worrying about what other co-workers say about you behind your back in your job description? No, ok, then get back to doing what you are being paid for.

On a serious note, if you want to survive the real world, ingrain this in your psyche. "It's none of my business what others think of me, it's none of my business what other say about me. It is my business to strive each day to reach my potential."

AnabolicKyle

Grow a set and talk to your coworkers first.

seriously this^^^^^^^


so much fewer problems less drama etc!!!!!!!

MireyGal76

I'd do something like this:

wait til they are talking again and approach.
speak with kindness and state... I heard you wondering if I am pregnant, or just fat.

I am not pregnant. And really, you may think I am fat... But I am taking steps to fix that.

Next time, just ask. It's not like I could possibly think you were any more rude than I think you are now.

EmmaJean7

I'd do something like this:

wait til they are talking again and approach.
speak with kindness and state... I heard you wondering if I am pregnant, or just fat.

I am not pregnant. And really, you may think I am fat... But I am taking steps to fix that.

Next time, just ask. It's not like I could possibly think you were any more rude than I think you are now.

:flowerforyou:

Pimpmonkey

They're teen girls, so it shouldn't be any surprise to you that they act like that. If it really bothers you, put cat turds in their purse when they aren't looking.

You're my new hero!

k8blujay2

Just quit!