NON-FOOD/FITNESS ADVICE NEEDED

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  • Pink_turnip
    Pink_turnip Posts: 280 Member
    OK guys, my boyfriend and I have been together for 3 years, and it seems in the last year ALOT of people have been asking when we are going to get married. (Seems like they should be asking when we are getting engaged instead since they are 2 different things, let's not skip steps). His doctor asked, his coworkers, my friends, certain people in my family, his sisters, even my tutor from college. This is the problem:When people ask, I don't know what to say other than "that's up to him, he has to ask". But the more people ask the more uncomfortable it has started to make me. It's like they are saying, "dang, still not yet?" I don't want him to feel pressured and I don't want to be either, I want him to do it when he is ready. I know if I request that people stop asking me, they will jump to the conclusion that something is wrong. How can I diplomatically get people to stop asking without sending the wrong message?

    My boyfriend and I have been together for ten (that's correct, TEN years) and we're still not 'engaged'

    People ask me all the time. I usually respond with "it will happen eventually" or "we just want to be able to afford something nice" but if the same people continuously ask my response turns into "I will let you know when it happens" and then eventually "I'm done discussing this"

    It's not a fun question to be asked over and over again, and really it's no ones business but your own. There is nothing wrong with dating for a long time before getting married.
    It's been three years, darling. If he had any desire to marry you, he probably would have at least proposed by now.

    You asked for advice! Don't be so defensive.

    This is also not true, some people just wait longer than others. Also, maybe they have discussed that they want to get married at some point, but they also want to be able to afford it, rather than rack up huge debt in the process.
  • MeIShouldB
    MeIShouldB Posts: 578 Member
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    My boyfriend and I have been together for ten (that's correct, TEN years) and we're still not 'engaged'

    See, if we are going with somebody else's "time clock theory" LOL that means he should have asked you when you were a young teen (We all know how that tends to work out). You are 24 so ten years isn't actually that long for you. See, like I was trying to tell that other person...you can't put everyone on the same clock. Thank you for your input.
  • MeIShouldB
    MeIShouldB Posts: 578 Member
    OK guys, my boyfriend and I have been together for 3 years, and it seems in the last year ALOT of people have been asking when we are going to get married. (Seems like they should be asking when we are getting engaged instead since they are 2 different things, let's not skip steps). His doctor asked, his coworkers, my friends, certain people in my family, his sisters, even my tutor from college. This is the problem:When people ask, I don't know what to say other than "that's up to him, he has to ask". But the more people ask the more uncomfortable it has started to make me. It's like they are saying, "dang, still not yet?" I don't want him to feel pressured and I don't want to be either, I want him to do it when he is ready. I know if I request that people stop asking me, they will jump to the conclusion that something is wrong. How can I diplomatically get people to stop asking without sending the wrong message?

    My boyfriend and I have been together for ten (that's correct, TEN years) and we're still not 'engaged'

    See, if we are going with somebody else's "time clock theory" LOL that means he should have asked you when you were a young teen (We all know how that tends to work out). You are 24 so ten years isn't actually that long for you. See, like I was trying to tell that other person...you can't put everyone on the same clock. Thank you for your input.

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