New and tired of hiding how i feel

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I am 39 and i have done everything as a mother for 20 years now.
I didn't worry about me or my health. i would go without eating to make sure my kids had.
I gained alot of weight with my kids and have never lost any of it.
i would get so frustrated because i hardly eat and couldn't figure out why i never lose weight.
Since i been doing this i noticed i am not reaching my number i am allowed to have a day.
i am frustrated and depressed. i could use some friends on here for support.