Feel like I failed

supernatural234

I had an amazingly healthy week and today I just had this urge to stuff my face with horribly unhealthy goodies like a milkshake or something. Unfortunately, my mom asked me to bake her some cupcakes for her class and so I made this ridiculously good batch or homemade funfetti cupcakes with buttery whipped cream-like frosting (a whole pound of butter in the frosting!). I told myself I wasn't going to touch them because I knew it would trigger a binge, but I could not resist. I ended up eating equivalent to one cupcake with a big gob of the butter whipped cream that tasted like freaking ice cream. I'm disappointed and feel like a failure. I feel like I should have had more control in stopping myself but I couldn't an I knew just how unhealthy those cupcakes were, too... Ugh! I'm skipping lunch and my afternoon snack because I'm pretty sure the cupcake was more saturated in calories than two meals combined. I know that this sounds pathetic, but I seriously feel upset about it. How do you guys cope with this kind of defeat?

**My ticket makes no sense, it's supposed to say that I am trying to maintain 103 pounds.

PhotogirlTX

You had one cupcake. This means you still know how to enjoy life! Get over it! :-) Eat healthy for the rest of the day, and continue on your journey tomorrow. You got this!

I take time to enjoy anything I want, I I have still managed to average a 2 pound lose each week, in the past 15 weeks. You can't deprive yourself, but you can make sure you don't eat a cupcake EVERY day!

You are going to be OK!! Just get back on the wagon and keep working!

Samantha9000

You didnt fail You had ONE cupcake! That is better than having 3! Dont starve yourself for the rest of the day. That will not help you at all because you will still be hungry later and you will feel the need to eat everything in sight! I know that feeling. Just make sure that what you eat later is good for you. You wont be a failure until you give and stop trying.

Food is Fuel.

devan44

One cupcake isn't failure it's success. I would have eaten 5.:blushing:

amann1976

that cupcake ain't going to kill you and why didnt you send me a couple of them????

skipping a meal will do more damage than that cupcake.


stop beating yourself up you should be able to enjoy things you like from time to time. try to live the 80/20 or 90/10 lifestyle

supercatie18

Your ticker makes it look like you are trying to gain weight

tinak33

One cupcake isn't failure it's success. I would have eaten 5.:blushing:

^^^What she said..... :ohwell:

One cupcake won't hurt you.
Don't skip meals. Eat well and maybe a little light the rest of the day.
Back to normal tomorrow!

Blondie251975

Unless you allow it to derail you completely, which you won't, it is not a fail. It is a splurge. You ate it, period. Throw in an extra work out, make up for it later in the week....don't starve yourself though, as that may lead to a binge. Forgive, forget, move on.

The good thing about food, is that you get the opportunity to make choices many times throughout the day. Make the next choice, and the one after that, and the one after that, count.

Amy11108

If you skip lunch and the afternoon snack are you just going to binge at dinner? Have a small healthy lunch with some protein, some veggies if you get hungry in the afternoon, and get back on track! It is not all or nothing!

cortana01

One cupcake isn't failure it's success. I would have eaten 5.:blushing:

^^^ me too :blushing: :laugh:

chels0722

It is only one cupcake. You could have eaten more and you didn't. So be proud of yourself.

And don't skip your next meals! I can't emphasize that enough!

Skipping meals will lead to more triggering cravings and you may just end up binging again.

Just go about your day normally.

supernatural234

You didnt fail You had ONE cupcake! That is better than having 3! Dont starve yourself for the rest of the day. That will not help you at all because you will still be hungry later and you will feel the need to eat everything in sight! I know that feeling. Just make sure that what you eat later is good for you. You wont be a failure until you give and stop trying.

Food is Fuel.

I need to remind myself of this more often. Food is fuel. Thanks.

Lizzy622

Just count it into your log like everything else. I doubt it is actually 2 meals worth. There are no forbidden foods, just foods we need to really keep under control and not have too much. Don't spoil the fun of a delicious treat with guilt.

andrederosier

Not a failure at all. Depriving yourself of things leads to guilt which isn't good in the long run. You have to move on and that means still getting in the good nutrients your body needs the rest of the day. No one is perfect and even the best eater will have a couple "naughty" treats. Heck even the most horrible eater will slip in some healthy food item. Instead of feeling tempted devise a plan. Think if I have this what do I need to do to recover? If you can come up with a solution have it, if not skip it. If that cupcake that good, put in an extra 30 minutes during each workout this week.

Squamation

I know exactly how you feel. I'll be doing great and then just want to grab every brownie or doughnut I see and devour it. But if I do- then I feel so ashamed.

Try not to sweat it too much. If you really did eat healthy the rest of the week then it shouldn't have an impact on the scale or your body measurements.

For me it helps if I can pinpoint what I'm craving and then find the healthiest way to get it. Like doughnuts (or a cupcake) is pretty much fat and sugar. So find a healthy fat like: nuts, peanut butter, olives, avocados and then a healthy sweet: fruits, graham crackers, yogurt. And see if eating them instead will help squash your cravings.

It won't taste anything like the cupcake with butter cream frosting- but it won't bring the guilt either.

ComputerHabit

Try 3 boxes of GS Cookies and a Gallon of milk in one sitting. Then do that for 3 weekends in a row.

ComputerHabit

Try 3 boxes of GS Cookies and a Gallon of milk in one sitting. Then do that for 3 weekends in a row.

Oh and on those same weekends drinking at least 6 beers a night and a few shots of Vodka. And some cokes and some other stuff you can't recall cause you were totally wasted from the beer and the drinks.

Ed98043

Are you not trying to gain weight like your ticker says? I mean, I understand that you want to do it in a healthy way but that's a lot of drama for a single cupcake. Do you have an ED?

lucypeaks

i allow for a treat like some chocolate in my calories every day, making sure im still within my cals and sat fats-definitely keeps me from binging!!

chels0722

Try 3 boxes of GS Cookies and a Gallon of milk in one sitting. Then do that for 3 weekends in a row.

Challenge accepted!!

jennfranklin

The simple answer is YOU DIDN'T FAIL!!! If you skip meals because you feel guilty, you will end up eating more again later because of hunger. And It will be one viscious cycle!

ComputerHabit

Try 3 boxes of GS Cookies and a Gallon of milk in one sitting. Then do that for 3 weekends in a row.

Challenge accepted!!

Thumbs up.

TrailRunner61

I make room in my cals for treats weekly, usually on Friday or some event or birthday party we have to attend. If I didn't, I'd feel like I'm on a diet and I'm not! It's all about moderation, not starving yourself and setting yourself up for a binge.

hausisse

Did you enjoy the cupcake? Then don't feel badly. Just keep eating healthily most of the time! I mean, everybody makes a conscious decision to have a treat every now and then, including myself. Sometimes you just need to shirk your responsibilities. A little bit of that is good for your mental health, I should think.

vkc1978

One cupcake is far from being a failure Just go take a long walk and youll not only burn some of those calories, but youll feel better and way less guilty.

To be honest, A big reason i work out is to be able to 'afford' my vices (wine and fried foods)... oooooh yeeeaaaa, i cant quit those.

postrockandcats

A life without cupcakes is not a life I'd want. One, even the whole tray of cupcakes isn't going to derail your progress. It's just one day. Enjoy the treat, log it and keep eating the healthy foods, too! It's actually more dangerous to fear foods than to actually eat them. Look how stressed you got with that mindset! You can do this!

nicarey19

i allow for a treat like some chocolate in my calories every day, making sure im still within my cals and sat fats-definitely keeps me from binging!!

Me too. I don't eat a ton of sweets. But my anniversary was on Tuesday and we got a cheese cake. Today is my third day in a row I have had a piece. And it is so yummy. But I make sure I stay in my cals! I consider this a win, because the old me would have ate 3 pieces in one setting! If you dont ever indulge you will over indulge eventually.

Sparlingo

I ate a cupcake yesterday. On purpose -- it was delicious. I didn't skip meals for it, and the scale was down this morning.

If you're going to enjoy a cupcake, ENJOY it . If you've structured your diet in such a way that a single cupcake indicates failure, then your parameters are unrealistic and this journey will be joyless.

If you love cupcakes, eat a cupcake!

Pookylou

I think it was a victory if you would have previously binged on the cupcakes and only ate one, that is great progress. And we all deserve a bit of a treat from time to time.

supernatural234

Try 3 boxes of GS Cookies and a Gallon of milk in one sitting. Then do that for 3 weekends in a row.

Challenge accepted!!

Thumbs up.

skinnyinnotime

Oh my it's not defeat it's a cupcake.

You'll be fine, it's not going to undo all of your work!


ETA: I just came across this, ideal for you: http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/915343-for-those-struggling-with-bad-decisions