Just want to be normal :(

meeulk

You gained nearly 1KG per week???

Yes.

This is what I mean, I've always gained like this. I once gained 10kg in one month because I was out with friends every night and therefore snacking more, but I was also walking everyday for hours. This is not an over exaggeration. I'm being completely serious, I've gone to my doctor for years, she doesn't even want to do a hormone test on me even though i've asked several times.

I've recently gone off the pill in a bid to try and get my natural hormones back in order, I suffer almost every side effect of the pill including the constant fatigue.

If you have constant fatigue, you should have your thyroid checked. Gaining weight is also a sign of a sluggish thyroid. I know firsthand!

concordancia

If you aren't using the diary, how do you know how much you are eating?
Even professional dietician aren't very good at knowing how much they eat unless the weigh, measure and log.

helyla

Comparing yourself to others is meaningless at best.

I think also you might find a lot more benefit if you don't concentrate on weight loss or gain but health and wellbeing with the aim of health and happiness.
- Eat a healthy well-balanced calorie controlled diet.
- Engage in regular high-intensity exercise
- Adopt healthy sleep regime.
- Maintain healthy relationships with friends, family and the wider community.
- Engage in healthy pass-times/hobbies.

This will change your life. And you may just find that weight loss will be a welcome by-product of this sustainable approach.
kind regards,

Ben

I really like this response. I've found in the past that when I chose to change my lifestyle and be healthy, and losing weight was not my top priority, the weight came off anyways. I didn't obsess over the scale and did count my calories but didn't obsess. I knew what was healthy and what wasn't and I tried to make every meal a healthier version of what I would have eaten when I was gaining weight.

Stressing over your weight isn't going to help you lose it. It's only going to hinder you.

Try to take a step back, take a deep breath and start fresh with a goal of getting healthy, no being thin. The weight will come off with time and consistency.

ninakir88

Yeah, just because you see your friend eating and drinking whatever they want when you guys are out doesn't mean they are like that all the time. I eat and drink what I want too on the weekends but during the week I am very strict and work out. If you are really so worried about them, just ask them what they do to stay skinny, you might get some insight.

Either way, you have some good advice in here.

helyla

It can be sincerely frustrating to see that in people around you. I get that. But resenting their bodies only makes you further resent yours. It's a long process to change that sort of feeling. But with enough work on your own body, the mind will follow suit. You'll start feel more accepting of what you need to do.

This too!

cupboard_stalker

To the original poster - I get your frustration, i have felt this many times and it is so very unfair to put on like we both obviously do. You have some great advice here so i won't add anything by duplicating, but be carefull - having a job is not a weight issue, its an income and time issue, don't confuse that. You sound prejudice and thats unfair. Some jobs are physical and do burn calories, other jobs are sedentry like mine and burn nothing. Dont blindly follow the media and assume anyone who doesn't work is lazy, it doesn't always follow and is very unfair and hurtful to people like mothers and carers.

Good luck with your goal

LauraJo08

This is the mentality I had from age 12-21. I was naturally larger than all the other girls (5'8 by age 13, and 5'11 or so now) and unlike many tall girls, I was never even close to rail thin. As an athlete, I hung out with all these thin/fit/healthy girls who made it seem so effortless, and I was just so upset that I couldn't eat or live "that way."

It took a reality check for me to realize that cookie binges after school, or 2 big helpings at dinner were the reason that I wasn't fit and healthy. Even nowdays, a lot of my friends are thinner than I am, BUT I can run faster/longer than them, lift more, and I bet you that I have a equal if not lower body fat percentage than they do. What did I do? I stopped feeling sorry for myself, stopped worrying about looking like a twig, and instead, like other posters have said, focused on eating foods that were good for me, participating in consistent exercise that I enjoy, sleeping well, and working on my self confidence. I have never been happier, and nope I'm not "normal," if "normal" means crazy food and alcohol binges, but I am healthy.

sazroy

I lost 10kgs eating 1200 a day through Lite n Easy.

I went up to 1500, started to gain. Went back to 1200, lost a few more kgs. Then began to obsess so stopped counting, hence why my diary is blank for the past few weeks. I'd say i'm probably eating around 1500 ish a day now. My HRM shows i burn 1500-1700 a day just working and daily activities.

So you were on a VLCD (very low calorie diet ) for your body weight, height, age? For how long? If you were on that for any length of time you have very likely messed up your metabolism a little. Given what you are saying..that you started gaining at 1500 it makes sense. For your current weight as listed in your profile your BMR is close to 1500 - or it would be in a normal situation. This means that everything you do ABOVE laying in bed all day (so anything) needs more than 1500 calories.

In order to get back to 'normal' you will need to try to reset your metabolism. From a post last year by mommamuscles (I am not sure if this was the original source but it was good advice)

Heres some basics:
1. If you're coming from a VLCD, start with a metabolism reset, eating TDEE for 6-12 weeks (basically, until weight gain stabilizes)
2. If you are not coming from a history of VLCD, or once you have finished your reset, you will move onto your cut phase (provided your goal is weight loss) which is TDEE -15%.
3. Every 6-8 weeks, spend 1-2 weeks (personal preference, or when your weight loss stalls), eating at TDEE.
4. Ditch the scale in favor of the measuring tape and progress photos.
5. Dont overdo exercise, but do use it to accomplish your fitness goals.
6. Weight training is not "required" but is highly recommended as building muscle will assist with fat burning.
7. Clean eating is also not "required" but is highly recommended.
8. Recommended macros are 40/40/30.
9. Make sure you are calculating your activity level appropriately, using HOURS of activity, not calorie burn. Strength training most definitely counts toward your activity level.
10. If you net under BMR, you must eat those extra calorie goals so that you are not netting under BMR. One or two days of netting under BMR over the course of several months is not going to be a big deal. However, one or two days per week will affect your metabolism.

Basically, if you are gaining weight eating an amount of calories that 'should' be too low for your stats (which you are) then you can make a reasonable assumption that your metabolism is no longer normal.

My ENTIRE life was spent eating very little calories,

My whole life day in day out was Vegemite toast for breakfast, sandwich for lunch, meat and veg for dinner, and maybe a piece of bread after dinner, no snacks. This is how I've always eaten, no snacks, no appetite, yes alot of bread but doctors always said it's okay to have up to 5 pieces a day, so we did what the doctors told us. A doctor actually told my mum while I was little to feed me more sugar because I wasn't growing and sugar would help!!! (so angry about that)

Then when I did Lite n Easy and they suggested the 1200 cal plan, I was actually eating tons more, to start with I had to skip some of the snacks because I couldn't fit them in, eventually I became hungrier and was able to consume more, I lost 10kgs in 4 months, no exercise, kept it off so far. I stay with LnE for an extra two months because I plateaued, realised nothing more was coming off so decided to go out and do my own food.

someone mentioned cutting on the rice, I've probably only had rice two or three times in that 2 week period.

As for Genetics, my ENTIRE family is over weight (parents, brother, aunties, uncles, cousins, all of them).

A personal trainer told me I should consume LESS than my BMR. I didn't listen to her for a second, but can you see how I'm confused, one person says do this, another says do that, I'm terrified to do anything because one kg put on is just one kg in the wrong direction.

sazroy

Yeah, just because you see your friend eating and drinking whatever they want when you guys are out doesn't mean they are like that all the time. I eat and drink what I want too on the weekends but during the week I am very strict and work out. If you are really so worried about them, just ask them what they do to stay skinny, you might get some insight.

Either way, you have some good advice in here.

I know this girl, she's lazy and does nothing, I couldn't even get her to go for a walk with me. I KNOW she doesn't work out, she sits on her bum watching movies all day.

Timshel_

That math doesn't work. I suspect you are actually taking in more calories than you think.

Or maybe over estimating your exercise burn. I dunno.

skinnyinnotime

I'm not sure what you mean when you say 1 or 2 500 calorie meals...how many calories are you eating daily?

As for other girls making you sick...well you're not living their life so really not much point in worrying about what other people do or don't do. Focus on yourself. :flowerforyou:


ETA: I just read about your cals, so no need to answer again

sazroy

If you aren't using the diary, how do you know how much you are eating?
Even professional dietician aren't very good at knowing how much they eat unless the weigh, measure and log.

I eat the same thing every day pretty much, I'm eating what i used to eat when I logged, I'm just not logging it.

Mads1997

Geeze who cares what anyone else eats, whether they are lazy or not. You are pretty critical of others.. Worry about your own efforts.






And you don't need to double post

sazroy

You gained nearly 1KG per week???

Yes.

This is what I mean, I've always gained like this. I once gained 10kg in one month because I was out with friends every night and therefore snacking more, but I was also walking everyday for hours. This is not an over exaggeration. I'm being completely serious, I've gone to my doctor for years, she doesn't even want to do a hormone test on me even though i've asked several times.

I've recently gone off the pill in a bid to try and get my natural hormones back in order, I suffer almost every side effect of the pill including the constant fatigue.

If you have constant fatigue, you should have your thyroid checked. Gaining weight is also a sign of a sluggish thyroid. I know firsthand!

Checked. According to my doctor I'm within the "normal" range. I also had my cortisol tested and although my cortisol levels were very high, they were not high enough for my doctor to think it was worthy of medication. So my cortisol is higher than the average person but not high enough to deal with.. To me that means, yes your cortisol levels could contribute to your weight gain but because it's not extreme we wont do anything about it.

sazroy

I went up to 1500, started to gain. Went back to 1200, lost a few more kgs. Then began to obsess so stopped counting, hence why my diary is blank for the past few weeks. I'd say i'm probably eating around 1500 ish a day now. My HRM shows i burn 1500-1700 a day just working and daily activities.

Ah, the old guessing routine. Want exact results but don't keep measurements and such. Hmmm.... I was AMAZED at how fast a little snack here and little snack there adds up.

I've only been guessing for two weeks because tracking was making me obsessive, not many people realise but obsessive tracking of calories and reading food labels obsessively is actually an eating disorder, I'm helping myself mentally by not tracking at the moment, I refuse to have to log for the rest of my life, I just want to be happy. I'm eating the same foods as I did when I logged it, but instead of measuring out 15g of Baby Spinach for my sandwich I just go with what feels like about the same.

Ed98043

Everyone has given you great advice - I just want to to say that I'm an "easy gainer" too and it sucks. But it is what it is, and getting angry about it doesn't accomplish anything. Acknowledge that you aren't one of those people blessed with a fast metabolism, make a plan and move forward. I've managed to undo a whole year of weight gain in just the past two months by changing my eating habits. It can be done.

sazroy

To the original poster - I get your frustration, i have felt this many times and it is so very unfair to put on like we both obviously do. You have some great advice here so i won't add anything by duplicating, but be carefull - having a job is not a weight issue, its an income and time issue, don't confuse that. You sound prejudice and thats unfair. Some jobs are physical and do burn calories, other jobs are sedentry like mine and burn nothing. Dont blindly follow the media and assume anyone who doesn't work is lazy, it doesn't always follow and is very unfair and hurtful to people like mothers and carers.

Good luck with your goal

You took that completely the wrong way. I'm talking about a specific person, she is lazy, she wont apply for work, she scunges off of her parents. I was out of work for a year, I wasn't lazy, there was just no work available. I never said having a job is a weight issue nor was I being prejudice. I'm saying that I don't sit down all day, I move all day, because i'm at work. This girl sits and watches tv and facebooks all day, I know this, she used to be my best friend. And all night she drinks, actually she drinks during the day while facebooking and watching tv too. I can't see how my original post says that I "blindly follow the media" and "assume anyone who doesn't work is lazy".

bluebear_74

I really would suggest logging again. I stopped for awhile and told myself I'll know roughly how much I was eating but I ended up putting on weight because I always under estimated everything. Do you weigh your food so you know that 100g of what your eating is actually 100g and not 150g? I tell myself I can estimate the weight but I found I was always off.

If your worried about you metabolism have you tried doing things to speed it up? People say Green Tea helps, and also exercise (muscle requires more energy to function than fat, therefore more calories).

EmoJew

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