Birth Control

cynthials

Barrier methods and FAM charting here. It's nice but certainly not without worry...

Everything hormonal had rotten side effects for me - not just discomfort, but dangerous - blackout migraines, for one. Blech, no thanks.

I'm hesitant to get the Paragard and my doctor is fairly deadset against giving it to anyone who's never conceived. Honestly, I'd rather just get a permanent procedure (Essure) done and nip the problem in the bud, but any doctor I've ever went to absolutely refuses out of liability concerns. And yeah, it makes complete sense as to why they would (having never had children; nor wanting any), but it's disappointing nonetheless.

I discussed the Essure procedure with my OB/Gyn yesterday. He is no longer performing it. His clinic found that when women would come back for the 3 month checkup post-insertion (that is the length of time the mfr recommends for the scar tissue to form in the tubes), they were finding that 10% of patients were still not blocked. This follow up procedure requires an HSG (pushing dye through the tubes to determine full, partial, or no blockage). If the patient is not completely blocked at 3 months, they must continue on alternate BC and undergo another HSG at a later date, until it confirms full blockage. He felt that a 10% failure rate was too risky and too high to recommend it to his patients so he is only doing tubal ligations for permanent BC now.

tristan83

Barrier methods and FAM charting here. It's nice but certainly not without worry...

Everything hormonal had rotten side effects for me - not just discomfort, but dangerous - blackout migraines, for one. Blech, no thanks.

I'm hesitant to get the Paragard and my doctor is fairly deadset against giving it to anyone who's never conceived. Honestly, I'd rather just get a permanent procedure (Essure) done and nip the problem in the bud, but any doctor I've ever went to absolutely refuses out of liability concerns. And yeah, it makes complete sense as to why they would (having never had children; nor wanting any), but it's disappointing nonetheless.

Do you not want kids ever? I don't ever want kids and my doctor will not do anything except give me the pill because she thinks I will change my mind. I wanted assure (?) done and she won't even consider it. :grumble:

Chiny

Barrier methods and FAM charting here. It's nice but certainly not without worry...

Everything hormonal had rotten side effects for me - not just discomfort, but dangerous - blackout migraines, for one. Blech, no thanks.

I'm hesitant to get the Paragard and my doctor is fairly deadset against giving it to anyone who's never conceived. Honestly, I'd rather just get a permanent procedure (Essure) done and nip the problem in the bud, but any doctor I've ever went to absolutely refuses out of liability concerns. And yeah, it makes complete sense as to why they would (having never had children; nor wanting any), but it's disappointing nonetheless.

Do you not want kids ever? I don't ever want kids and my doctor will not do anything except give me the pill because she thinks I will change my mind. I wanted assure (?) done and she won't even consider it. :grumble:

You should find another doctor then, there are doctors out there that WILL give you an IUD and you have no kids. It also depends on age, they're more reluctant to do it when you're young.

Chiny

Another Mirena user here and LOVING every minute of it!! I've heard bad things about the copper one (can't confirm any of it since I've never had one) and opted for the Mirena, going on 6 years and my 2nd Mirena I don't regret it at all!

tristan83

Do you not want kids ever? I don't ever want kids and my doctor will not do anything except give me the pill because she thinks I will change my mind. I wanted assure (?) done and she won't even consider it. :grumble:

You should find another doctor then, there are doctors out there that WILL give you an IUD and you have no kids. It also depends on age, they're more reluctant to do it when you're young.

I can't have an IUD because my uterus is too tiny for one. She doesn't want to permanently fix me (LOL) because I am married and 27. Oh well... Pills it is! I love my doctor as she is an awesome doctor but we definitely disagree on this.

Barneystinson

Do you not want kids ever? I don't ever want kids and my doctor will not do anything except give me the pill because she thinks I will change my mind. I wanted assure (?) done and she won't even consider it. :grumble:

You should find another doctor then, there are doctors out there that WILL give you an IUD and you have no kids. It also depends on age, they're more reluctant to do it when you're young.

I can't have an IUD because my uterus is too tiny for one. She doesn't want to permanently fix me (LOL) because I am married and 27. Oh well... Pills it is! I love my doctor as she is an awesome doctor but we definitely disagree on this.

It’s the same story here. The doctor advised against IUDs not only because of the non-childbirth thing but also because she feels I have a higher risk of insertion / puncture issues with a smaller uterus. I know there are a couple local doctors that will give them to women who have not had children, but I’ve got another problem with the puncture risk. I’m also leery of plunking down that much money with a risk it will have to be fully removed in short order. My health insurance doesn’t cover the procedure and eh, that’s too much of a gamble at this point. It does, however, cover permanent surgery like Essure or tubal litigation. I don’t want kids. I’ve asked myself that question since I was quite young and have never had the desire to be a parent. My fiancé has also never wanted children. I’m hoping that by the time I’m 30, married with zero children maybe then maybe I may be able to find a doctor who will perform Essure without an onslaught of questions or a complete refusal to do so in the first place. I have a friend, 29, who had the procedure performed and she has no children. Maybe there’s hope. Or maybe my fiancé should go get a vasectomy!

Not to go all Feminazi, but just as much as I’m RIGHT ON about rights to having children, I’m all for as equal of rights as possible to NOT have them. Somehow our medical establishment is still a bit behind the times and doesn’t always share my zest about not having them. I had a former doctor basically question my sanity at age 23 for stating I was interested in Essure.

MsRitz

Not to go all Feminazi, but just as much as I’m RIGHT ON about rights to having children, I’m all for as equal of rights as possible to NOT have them. Somehow our medical establishment is still a bit behind the times and doesn’t always share my zest about not having them. I had a former doctor basically question my sanity at age 23 for stating I was interested in Essure.

Unfortunately, there are too many cases of women swearing they will never ever want kids, only to change their minds later in life. Something about turning 30 and realizing that you may have only 5 years left to have kids does weird things to people.

The doctors are terrified that these women will sue them in 10 years for ruining their lives/marriages, but I agree with your point.

Add me to the list of FAM charters too. I'm one of the rare statistics that had the horrible birth control side effects. For me at least, my quality of life has gone way up since I got off the drugs.

KatieM7

When I went in to a tubal ligation consultation the Doctor stated that he doesn't like to perform the procedure even if the person is sure that they don't want to have anymore children. The reason for that is that he has had many women sit in his office and swear that they don't want to have anymore or even not have any period. Then he finds out later that they decided that they wanted to have more and it was pretty much too late. I am sure that is why the Doctor is refusing to do it is because he wants to make sure that you are for certain. I decided not to go with the tubal or the essure, when I was set that I wanted it done, for me it just didn't feel right. However there are those that get it and don't regret it. Good luck I hope that it works out in your favor!