body changes and attraction changes

Guillotined

So I'm curious as to how many people out there feel or felt that as their body or health habits have changed that they are attracted to a different type of person? Looks or personality? Especially those of you that have lost tons of weight. I can honestly tell that lately my attraction has turned to girls that are more active and in shape vs my long lust for nerdy girls.

Anyone else notice this? No beauty pageant answers...no BSing! lol

1223345

I find that as time goes my idea of what is attractive changes. I also find myself feeling differently about what I want to look like.

galenofedgewood

Nah. Unless I can be more attracted to my wife.

Oakley82

Definitely. It may be a part of my getting older, but guys who want to go have beers all the time and eat like crap is a total turn off. I look at a guy I dated briefly who goes through fast food drive thru's every day, drinks all the time, hates the gym and I am almost grossed out. He isn't in shape because of that lifestyle and he sees nothing wrong with it. There is *nothing* wrong with not having an "ideal" body, but I can't stand someone who is content with having an unhealthy lifestyle.

MrsTorresisBACK

I'm happliy married so don't really pay attention to that now but back in highschool when i was really heavy then lost alot of weight ....those that wanted to "just be friend" suddenly "wanted more"....thank God i was mature enough to know that they only looked at the physical and not the real me so i knew better to even give them the time of day. My husband now has seen me at my thinnest and at my heaviest and his love for me has NEVER changed and i adore him for that. That is how it should be...he loves the REAL me what ever size that may be.

I want to be back to my original size to be healthly and let's be real...to look better and gain more confidence.

Best of Luck!

odusgolp

Suddenly, I have this thing for goats... It's very odd.

escloflowneCHANGED

I still love nerdy/punk girls but I have found that I find very fit women attractive now, I never used to like abs on a women. Now abs, strong legs and shoulders are sexy!

Cp731

Always attracted to hotties, Im vein and Im a snob

TravisBikes

I read a story last year about how one study showed that the more "stress" a man had, and higher the cortisol levels, he was attracted to women who were not so skinny. And the less stress they felt, the more they were attracted to slimmer women.

I'm sure more can be found through a google search (as well as opposite studies that disprove it, knowing the internet).

So take it for what it's worth.


To me, bacon, will always be sexy.

LavenderBouquet

Nah. Unless I can be more attracted to my wife.

^^ This, but for my boyfriend :happy:

vjohn04

My husband now has seen me at my thinnest and at my heaviest and his love for me has NEVER changed and i adore him for that. That is how it should be...he loves the REAL me what ever size that may be.

^This. I love this.:flowerforyou: :flowerforyou:

It's a great feeling.

Zekela

Nope... never was attracted to skinny guys and never will... lol.. So, I'd never had dated a long distance runner (I enjoy their company on runs though :-)). My husband is awesome not being a runner!

bfpower

I think YMMV based on age level and situation.

I'm a bit more attracted to everyone (although my libido has decreased, oddly enough). Perhaps my struggle with getting back to a healthy weight has helped me be more open-minded about what 'attractive' is.

tracymat

Sorta agree. I have always been attracted to big, bald, tattooed... football player types.... taller than 6 ft... 250+.

Not that I'm not attracted to that anymore, but I just started seeing a guy that is tall and closer to 200 lbs. I don't think I would have given him a chance before.

Laura42012

Who says nerdy girls can't be active? I qualify in both categories.

RunsOnEspresso

For me, my attraction has changed as I've aged. It really doesn't have anything to do with weight. Younger me loved the punk rock boys. Older me is more like responsible, funny and kindness is far more important.

darwinwoodka

Hey, who says nerdy girls aren't attractive? ;^)

Lone_Wolf70

i found that when I was fat I was attracted to super hot chicks and now that im in better shape im attracted to super hot chicks.. Oh wait, I think I did this wrong.

Warchortle

I always felt really attractive girls would leave me if I ever dated them. I've found females attractive of every age, shape, and size, but because of my fear I would never even bother going for "fit" girls..

It's ironic because my very first girlfriend was a dancer, extremely pretty, but perhaps maybe I just thought it was a freak accident though. My personality type hasn't changed. I like intelligent, nerdy, and humorous girls, but I wouldn't mind being with a girl that has a 6 pack. I can't complain.. old high school friend of mine are starting to notice each other and she's got a tiny waist and big.... brains. <_<

sbbhbm

The things I'm attracted to are pretty consistent, as they're more personality related. Physically, I've pretty much always been attracted to more fit men, but have noticed I'm gaining a greater appreciation for muscularity than I used to have- mostly because it just affirms certain aspects of a personality, like determination and commitment. What has changed with my body changes though, are the type of people who are attracted to me.

meganrpelican

im in a relationship so im still attracted to my bf, however, as far as attraction goes with me he now cant keep his hands off me. it kinda hurts my feelings cuz he used to turn me down alot when i put the moves on him and i was heavier. he has always said i was perfect but...actions speak louder than words. maybe im being silly but this is the only time he has known me to be skinny. its not like i got heavy and thats what was wrong.

iWaffle

Suddenly, I have this thing for goats... It's very odd.

Oh baaa baaa baaaby!. *Friend request sent*

dirtnap63

Suddenly, I have this thing for goats... It's very odd.

Attraction is very capricious in nature

writetomab

Well the only thing I would say is that I have changed my views on the type of person I would want to be with. For me I would want to be with someone who shares similar goals and values, I.e. someone who loves to workout, leads a very active and healthy lifestyle, driven, determined and confident.

writetomab

Double post... MFP... Playing funny buggers!

CharlotteTheCoffeeLover

My attraction to other people has not changed, BUT the way I'm treated by men now vs 122lbs ago is shocking!! Before I can't tell you how many times no one held doors open and stuff like that, but the other day I had 3 guys run each other over to open the door forme.... I'm married so it doesn't matter really but its just odd to be treated so differently now....

Timshel_

I think a lot of the added "attractiveness" is just confience that comes with being comfortable with your body. So yeah...I hope I add some attrativeness...chiseled pecks and abs would be cool too.

Warchortle

My attraction to other people has not changed, BUT the way I'm treated by men now vs 122lbs ago is shocking!! Before I can't tell you how many times no one held doors open and stuff like that, but the other day I had 3 guys run each other over to open the door forme.... I'm married so it doesn't matter really but its just odd to be treated so differently now....

I hold the door for everyone.. this guy got really weird when I held the door for him he didn't want to walk through and kept telling me to just go in...

I was like okay...?!!!??

Guillotined

Lol I've had the same experience a few times with guys. I also hold the door open for everyone.