Support after a death

DivaJadelyn
DivaJadelyn Posts: 280 Member
in Motivation and Support
My 19 month old daughter had a very hard birth, and a very hard life and after a beautiful wonderful but short and difficult life she passed away on March 17th after a traumatic admission to the hospital on March 13th. Everything from March 13th revolved around her, between her care and her goodbyes then her final arrangements... everything. I can't even describe as it's still too hard.
And now, life proves that it must go on, despite my desire for it not to and I am confronted with the promises I made to my little girl that I am determined to keep. One of those promises is finishing and maintaining my health and weight-loss goals, so I am not taken too soon from her older sister. I just find myself having difficulty with turning that promise into inspiration. I need some help, I need some support and motivation. I need both a kick in the backside and a shoulder to cry on. I also need the world to know Ileanna's story and to let her light touch them so that maybe it can one day touch me again.

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  • ArtGeek22
    ArtGeek22 Posts: 1,429 Member
    ((((((HUGS)))))) Wish I could hug you in person and share in your sorrow. When my grandmother died it was very hard so I know what it feels like, and have great aunts and uncles on the verge. It is never easy to lose someone, especially in this case your child. All I can say is that she is running around in heaven right now, laughing and giggling as happy as can be, with no more pain.

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  • mkeller234
    mkeller234 Posts: 121 Member
    As a father of a 16 month daughter, I cannot even image the pain that you must feel. I'm very, very sorry to read about your loss. Now is probably the time to seek out family, maybe even grief counseling.
  • DivaJadelyn
    DivaJadelyn Posts: 280 Member
    My only real solace is knowing that she doesn't hurt anymore... and I would never ever condemn her back to that body that hurt her so much. I just want to be the best I can for her... but my ache for her is almost all consuming.
  • ArtGeek22
    ArtGeek22 Posts: 1,429 Member
    My only real solace is knowing that she doesn't hurt anymore... and I would never ever condemn her back to that body that hurt her so much. I just want to be the best I can for her... but my ache for her is almost all consuming.

    "Let not your hearts be troubled. Believe in God; believe also in me. In my Father's house are many rooms. If it were not so, would I have told you that I go to prepare a place for you? And if I go and prepare a place for you, I will come again and will take you to myself, that where I am you may be also." - John 14:1-3

    "The Lord is near to the brokenhearted and saves the crushed in spirit." - Psalm 34:18

    When my grandmother passed, I found this verse very comforting since it told me that God had prepared a place for her, as He has for Ileanna, where she will be free from sorrow. It also comforted me that he was with me through it. I hope these verses comfort you too :heart:

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