Refuse to discuss fitness.

brittaney10811

Does anyone have a person they have discussed fitness and diet with, and ultimately have vowed to NEVER discuss it again with them because:

1) they are too heavy and unmotivated and don't want to hear about it??
or
2) think they know better than you about EVERYTHING and constantly "one-up" any accomplishment, NSV or PR you've had??


because i do. they've been on a fitness journey, and started well before i did. but i've done well and yet they still feel the need to preach to me about how right their own fitness program is versus mine. who cares what program anyone does, as long as they are dedicated and it does the job?? I get so tired of it.

to me, this person ALMOST seems as if they've gained back some of what they have lost. at very least, they've been stuck at the same spot for months. but i'm still going, and actually picked up momentum this past month or two. ironic the excuses have started rolling in as to why they can't eat well, work out hard, etc etc.

maybe it's insecurity. i don't know. but either way, i've vowed to just not discuss it anymore. i get ticked off way too fast. :explode:

tartsul

i work with that person too. we were doing MFP together and both doing really well. then we both got sick and had to take a break from the gym. i guess she never went back. i've kept it up and even stepped it up a notch with strength training, and have my calories at maintenance. now she always tells me that i'm too skinny, and i'd better not lose any more weight, etc. i've told her countless times that i haven't lost any weight in several months and that i'm just doing strength training to tone up. it's really frustrating because she used to be a great source of encouragement for me and now i am feeling BAD for how GOOD i am feeling and how HAPPY i've been about how i look!
anyways, that being said, i am sorry about your circumstances. i have been working on ignoring the comments here and i encourage you to do the same. we are responsible for our own actions, not the actions of others. we can't change them, the best we can do is persevere. keep up your good habits, and keep on using MFP for encouragement!

tmauck4472

yeah pretty much most of the people on here. I'm good with what I do and it def works for me. So sorry others don't agree and then I feel the need to defend myself and I go off in a rant and end up with a headache and you'd think I'd learn to just stay away from posts that I know a certain group is going to jump on it and I feel so bad for the people asking the question because I know in the end they will follow the advice and end up failing yet again because the advice is far from the truth. The TRUTH is whatever works for you, find it and stick with it and don't listen to others who "THINK" they know your body better than you do.

Whipppets

Everyone I work with.. They always complain about how fat they are and when the free food comes
along they fight each other for it.. Disgusting so I do not even waste my breath on them.

brittaney10811

thanks for the responses. i actually hardly EVER talk to this person anymore, which makes our relationship strained. we do fine otherwise, but the topic of fitness ALWAYS comes up when we are with family and i have just started keeping my mouth shut during it. there's so many things i want to say.... want to call them out when they're buying the BS their trying to tell me. So hard not to...