What Do You Look For In A Partner?
sugarandspice27
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What appeals to you most when dating? What do you first notice and what do you seek in the long term? Any specific turn-ons, must haves, physical traits, status, or personality?
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Must haves
Smart (very smart)
Funny
Hardworking
Family oriented
Turn ons
Geeks
Guys who can cook
Good dads
Physical traits
Taller than me (I'm 5'4" so its not much of a bar)
Bigger than me (I'm 118 so again not hard) (I like em bigger though so 190 plus is preferred)
Broad shoulders
Status
I couldn't care less
Personality
Happy
Kind
Goofy sometimes
Slow temper
physically affectionate :bigsmile:0 -
Must haves
Smart (very smart)
Funny
Hardworking
Family oriented
Turn ons
Geeks
Guys who can cook
Good dads
Physical traits
Taller than me (I'm 5'4" so its not much of a bar)
Bigger than me (I'm 118 so again not hard) (I like em bigger though so 190 plus is preferred)
Broad shoulders
Status
I couldn't care less
Personality
Happy
Kind
Goofy sometimes
Slow temper
physically affectionate :bigsmile:
Sorry, I'm taken.0 -
Hot
Will put up with me0 -
Will put up with me
I call BS. Nobody can do that surely?0 -
6"0'
Athletic build.
Brunette
Cooks good bacon ( the better she cooks it the higher her desirability)
Good squat, deadlift and bench form.
Intelligent.
Hard-working.
Respectable job.
High sex drive.0 -
I prefer taller guys (I'm 6ft5)
Someone who is individual and doesn't follow trends
Turn offs:
Arrogance
Unintelligent (I don't mean book smart. Just have a good knowledge about something interesting)
Unpassionate/unambitious0 -
Will put up with me
I call BS. Nobody can do that surely?
Let me pinch her *kitten* and make sure she's real. Hold on . . .0 -
Anyone who has a hard and fast rule about height like 6-0 or 6-5 whether man or woman, in my book, is a 'bag! A real 'bag!
God I hate these lists you guys are compiling. I am gonna have a meltdown. Yeah, like you are such a catch. Grow up.0 -
wise-intelligent
affectionate
good sex drive
funny/ good sense of humor
adventurous
easy going
unconventional
creative
open minded0 -
wise-intelligent
affectionate
good sex drive
funny/ good sense of humor
adventurous
easy going
unconventional
creative
open minded
Ok now this is a proper list. Thank you.0 -
In men, gentleness and a kind demeanor.0
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intelligent
funny
emotionally self-sufficient (non needy)
non judgemental
gets me and likes/loves me anyway
likes my dogs and they like him
creative
he must smell good.0 -
I am in a long term relationship, but the initial turn ons were we met when I wasn't at my best and he was interested, he was taller, he had broad shoulders, he was somewhat athletic, he had beautiful eyes, and he was kind to me. He bought me a flower for our "first week" together. He was 19 and I was 21.What appeals to you most when dating? What do you first notice and what do you seek in the long term? Any specific turn-ons, must haves, physical traits, status, or personality?
Now we're old :laugh: :drinker:
I always joke and tell my friends that my old desires are nothing like my new desires, my old list was
Chemistry
Love
Feelings
Hugs
Kisses
Joy
More Love!!!
And now it's more
Have a job
Have a decent credit score
Do not fall asleep earlier than 10pm
And if you do not snore? I AM ALREADY IN LOVE! :flowerforyou:
But seriously, we can make lists all we want, they will hold no relevance when you meet the right person. As for the guy that got all offended by peoples wants and desires, or at least appeared to be, you get over it... They answered a question. :ohwell:0 -
So it makes someone a "'bag" if they attracted to a specific type of body, rather than specifics of their character?Anyone who has a hard and fast rule about height like 6-0 or 6-5 whether man or woman, in my book, is a 'bag! A real 'bag!
God I hate these lists you guys are compiling. I am gonna have a meltdown. Yeah, like you are such a catch. Grow up.
I can't help that I tend to be attracted to women that have certain attributes.
If they didn't matter to me at all and it was all about character I'd presumably be bisexual equally.
If that makes me a "'bag", fair enough - I much prefer the idea of that than to forcing myself to be with someone I'm not physically attracted to.
Me?
Presuming they do meet the general 'attraction' thing; a bit of a sense of adventure maybe - not the normal 9-5, go to the pub, stay in for a movie type (all of which are fine, but without anything else, I tend to find a bit dull.)0 -
So it makes someone a "'bag" if they attracted to a specific type of body, rather than specifics of their character?Anyone who has a hard and fast rule about height like 6-0 or 6-5 whether man or woman, in my book, is a 'bag! A real 'bag!
God I hate these lists you guys are compiling. I am gonna have a meltdown. Yeah, like you are such a catch. Grow up.
I can't help that I tend to be attracted to women that have certain attributes.
If they didn't matter to me at all and it was all about character I'd presumably be bisexual equally.
If that makes me a "'bag", fair enough - I much prefer the idea of that than to forcing myself to be with someone I'm not physically attracted to.
Me?
Presuming they do meet the general 'attraction' thing; a bit of a sense of adventure maybe - not the normal 9-5, go to the pub, stay in for a movie type (all of which are fine, but without anything else, I tend to find a bit dull.)
what bothers me is that someone will date a 6-0 but not a 5-11. They might say ok, for someone real great I will date 5-11. But then someone super great comes along at 5-10; are you gonna go bye bye? You say , ok I will do the 5-10, but then a 5-9 comes along who knocks your socks off. Thus height is a poor criterion to pick a partner.
Yeah Im bitter!0 -
I'll start with a pulse and then negotiate from there :bigsmile:0
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wise-intelligent
affectionate
good sex drive
funny/ good sense of humor
adventurous
easy going
unconventional
creative
open minded
Ok now this is a proper list. Thank you.
Why? It's just a list of arbitrary terms who's meaning will vary from person to person.0 -
I'll start with a pulse and then negotiate from there :bigsmile:
Sounds reasonable. 0 -
ok to each their own.
To me, saying you want to date a 6-2 or a DDD is very shallow and probably will result in you ending up with a bimbo.0 -
wise-intelligent
affectionate
good sex drive
funny/ good sense of humor
adventurous
easy going
unconventional
creative
open minded
I'm with you on this one. And if he wears glasses, that's just a nice perk.0 -
Anyone who has a hard and fast rule about height like 6-0 or 6-5 whether man or woman, in my book, is a 'bag! A real 'bag!
God I hate these lists you guys are compiling. I am gonna have a meltdown. Yeah, like you are such a catch. Grow up.
Someone sounds hangry.
I said I prefer taller (this is also an arbitrary term whose definition will change from person to person) men. I didn't specify a height. I had an ex who was 5ft7. Thanks for dropping by though.0 -
intelligent
funny
emotionally self-sufficient (non needy)
non judgemental
gets me and likes/loves me anyway
likes my dogs and they like him
creative
he must smell good.
Smelling good! THIS!0 -
Someone who makes the most of what God gave them.0
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Personally I would prefer to date a man who's taller than me, myself being 5'10, but if someone at 5'9 comes along who 'knocks my socks off' as you said, their height wouldn't be a disqualifier. I would venture to say that's how it goes for most people.ok to each their own.
To me, saying you want to date a 6-2 or a DDD is very shallow and probably will result in you ending up with a bimbo.0 -
Someone who makes the most of what God gave them.
Great and original response.0 -
Confidence is the biggest turn on. Being happy with himself.
Other than that - being open minded, intelligent, non-judgmental, having goals/ambitions and a good work ethic
Turnoffs:
insulting people, being mean, being closed minded0 -
To me what is in their heart is the most important. A person who is intelligent and is a good person inside (really good not the superficial good type) are qualities that are the most attractive to me.0
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Any man I date has to have a great big.....brain. :laugh:0
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To me what is in their heart is the most important. A person who is intelligent and is a good person inside (really good not the superficial good type) are qualities that are the most attractive to me.
I like this.
P.S. Your About Me section is hilarious! 0 -
For me when I met my Husband I was impressed with his honesty, loyalty, morality, passion, Spirituality, compassion,unselfishness, Kindness, sense of humor. I did not care what his appearance is because that can change so quickly. He had a full head of black hair when we married and now it is getting thinner. He weighed less also. I pity people who base who their decision for a Partner for life based on appearances. I did not base my decision on how wealthy he is because that can change also. In case anyone is taking the OP Post seriously I am listing the qualities in my Husband that I looked for and found. I never would have looked twice at Him if He had been a man lusting after other Women. I married a man who only has eyes for me, and He married a Woman who only has eyes for Him.
The standard I set for my 2nd marriage as we just celebrated our 11 years of Marriage is, He had to be" opposite of everything my X husband was. " My Husband had to become my Best Friend proving he was trustworthy before he could become my trusted Husband, Partner and Soul Mate for life.0
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