What Do You Look For In A Partner?

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sugarandspice27
sugarandspice27 Posts: 521 Member
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What appeals to you most when dating? What do you first notice and what do you seek in the long term? Any specific turn-ons, must haves, physical traits, status, or personality?
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  • triciab79
    triciab79 Posts: 1,713 Member
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    Must haves

    Smart (very smart)
    Funny
    Hardworking
    Family oriented

    Turn ons

    Geeks :heart:
    Guys who can cook
    Good dads

    Physical traits

    Taller than me (I'm 5'4" so its not much of a bar)
    Bigger than me (I'm 118 so again not hard) (I like em bigger though so 190 plus is preferred)
    Broad shoulders

    Status
    I couldn't care less

    Personality

    Happy
    Kind
    Goofy sometimes
    Slow temper
    physically affectionate :bigsmile:
  • _noob_
    _noob_ Posts: 3,306 Member
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    Must haves

    Smart (very smart)
    Funny
    Hardworking
    Family oriented

    Turn ons

    Geeks :heart:
    Guys who can cook
    Good dads

    Physical traits

    Taller than me (I'm 5'4" so its not much of a bar)
    Bigger than me (I'm 118 so again not hard) (I like em bigger though so 190 plus is preferred)
    Broad shoulders

    Status
    I couldn't care less

    Personality

    Happy
    Kind
    Goofy sometimes
    Slow temper
    physically affectionate :bigsmile:

    Sorry, I'm taken.
  • sunsnstatheart
    sunsnstatheart Posts: 2,544 Member
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    Hot
    Will put up with me
  • _SABOTEUR_
    _SABOTEUR_ Posts: 6,833 Member
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    Will put up with me

    I call BS. Nobody can do that surely?
  • diodelcibo
    diodelcibo Posts: 2,564 Member
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    6"0'
    Athletic build.
    Brunette
    Cooks good bacon ( the better she cooks it the higher her desirability)
    Good squat, deadlift and bench form.
    Intelligent.
    Hard-working.
    Respectable job.
    High sex drive.
  • _SABOTEUR_
    _SABOTEUR_ Posts: 6,833 Member
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    I prefer taller guys (I'm 6ft5)
    Someone who is individual and doesn't follow trends

    Turn offs:

    Arrogance
    Unintelligent (I don't mean book smart. Just have a good knowledge about something interesting)
    Unpassionate/unambitious
  • sunsnstatheart
    sunsnstatheart Posts: 2,544 Member
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    Will put up with me

    I call BS. Nobody can do that surely?

    Let me pinch her *kitten* and make sure she's real. Hold on . . .
  • NormInv
    NormInv Posts: 3,302 Member
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    Anyone who has a hard and fast rule about height like 6-0 or 6-5 whether man or woman, in my book, is a 'bag! A real 'bag!

    God I hate these lists you guys are compiling. I am gonna have a meltdown. Yeah, like you are such a catch. Grow up.
  • jbutterflye
    jbutterflye Posts: 1,914 Member
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    wise-intelligent
    affectionate
    good sex drive
    funny/ good sense of humor
    adventurous
    easy going
    unconventional
    creative
    open minded
  • NormInv
    NormInv Posts: 3,302 Member
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    wise-intelligent
    affectionate
    good sex drive
    funny/ good sense of humor
    adventurous
    easy going
    unconventional
    creative
    open minded

    Ok now this is a proper list. Thank you.
  • sissiluv
    sissiluv Posts: 2,205 Member
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    In men, gentleness and a kind demeanor.
  • WannaDizzolve
    WannaDizzolve Posts: 270 Member
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    intelligent
    funny
    emotionally self-sufficient (non needy)
    non judgemental
    gets me and likes/loves me anyway
    likes my dogs and they like him
    creative
    he must smell good.
  • SerenaFisher
    SerenaFisher Posts: 2,170 Member
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    What appeals to you most when dating? What do you first notice and what do you seek in the long term? Any specific turn-ons, must haves, physical traits, status, or personality?
    I am in a long term relationship, but the initial turn ons were we met when I wasn't at my best and he was interested, he was taller, he had broad shoulders, he was somewhat athletic, he had beautiful eyes, and he was kind to me. He bought me a flower for our "first week" together. He was 19 and I was 21. :) Now we're old :laugh: :drinker:

    I always joke and tell my friends that my old desires are nothing like my new desires, my old list was
    Chemistry
    Love
    Feelings
    Hugs
    Kisses
    Joy
    More Love!!!

    And now it's more
    Have a job
    Have a decent credit score
    Do not fall asleep earlier than 10pm
    And if you do not snore? I AM ALREADY IN LOVE! :flowerforyou:

    But seriously, we can make lists all we want, they will hold no relevance when you meet the right person. As for the guy that got all offended by peoples wants and desires, or at least appeared to be, you get over it... They answered a question. :ohwell:
  • geebusuk
    geebusuk Posts: 3,348 Member
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    Anyone who has a hard and fast rule about height like 6-0 or 6-5 whether man or woman, in my book, is a 'bag! A real 'bag!

    God I hate these lists you guys are compiling. I am gonna have a meltdown. Yeah, like you are such a catch. Grow up.
    So it makes someone a "'bag" if they attracted to a specific type of body, rather than specifics of their character?

    I can't help that I tend to be attracted to women that have certain attributes.
    If they didn't matter to me at all and it was all about character I'd presumably be bisexual equally.

    If that makes me a "'bag", fair enough - I much prefer the idea of that than to forcing myself to be with someone I'm not physically attracted to.


    Me?
    Presuming they do meet the general 'attraction' thing; a bit of a sense of adventure maybe - not the normal 9-5, go to the pub, stay in for a movie type (all of which are fine, but without anything else, I tend to find a bit dull.)
  • NormInv
    NormInv Posts: 3,302 Member
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    Anyone who has a hard and fast rule about height like 6-0 or 6-5 whether man or woman, in my book, is a 'bag! A real 'bag!

    God I hate these lists you guys are compiling. I am gonna have a meltdown. Yeah, like you are such a catch. Grow up.
    So it makes someone a "'bag" if they attracted to a specific type of body, rather than specifics of their character?

    I can't help that I tend to be attracted to women that have certain attributes.
    If they didn't matter to me at all and it was all about character I'd presumably be bisexual equally.

    If that makes me a "'bag", fair enough - I much prefer the idea of that than to forcing myself to be with someone I'm not physically attracted to.


    Me?
    Presuming they do meet the general 'attraction' thing; a bit of a sense of adventure maybe - not the normal 9-5, go to the pub, stay in for a movie type (all of which are fine, but without anything else, I tend to find a bit dull.)

    what bothers me is that someone will date a 6-0 but not a 5-11. They might say ok, for someone real great I will date 5-11. But then someone super great comes along at 5-10; are you gonna go bye bye? You say , ok I will do the 5-10, but then a 5-9 comes along who knocks your socks off. Thus height is a poor criterion to pick a partner.

    Yeah Im bitter!
  • chessgeekdavidb
    chessgeekdavidb Posts: 208 Member
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    I'll start with a pulse and then negotiate from there :bigsmile:
  • _SABOTEUR_
    _SABOTEUR_ Posts: 6,833 Member
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    wise-intelligent
    affectionate
    good sex drive
    funny/ good sense of humor
    adventurous
    easy going
    unconventional
    creative
    open minded

    Ok now this is a proper list. Thank you.

    Why? It's just a list of arbitrary terms who's meaning will vary from person to person.
  • sugarandspice27
    sugarandspice27 Posts: 521 Member
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    I'll start with a pulse and then negotiate from there :bigsmile:

    Sounds reasonable. :)
  • NormInv
    NormInv Posts: 3,302 Member
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    ok to each their own.

    To me, saying you want to date a 6-2 or a DDD is very shallow and probably will result in you ending up with a bimbo.
  • sugarandspice27
    sugarandspice27 Posts: 521 Member
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    wise-intelligent
    affectionate
    good sex drive
    funny/ good sense of humor
    adventurous
    easy going
    unconventional
    creative
    open minded

    I'm with you on this one. And if he wears glasses, that's just a nice perk.

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