I think he is cheating on me.

felice03
felice03 Posts: 2,644 Member
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I met my special guy about five years ago. I like to think it was love at first sight...and I thought he felt the same way. We spent all of our time together. I always made him his favorite food, he loved my cooking. My favorite was just cuddling on the couch watching TV. I have never been so happy curling up with someone and just relaxing.

But lately, things have changed. I make him dinner and he doesn't eat...yet he is gaining weight. He goes outside and disappears for hours. He sits on the other end of the couch instead of next to me....that just broke my heart. That was always "our time".

I just don't know what to do. I just can't bring myself to follow him to see what he is doing...I am too afraid of what I might find out. Even if there is someone else I dont know if I could kick him out. I mean, as silly as it seems, I love that darn cat even thought he is breaking my heart.
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  • iWaffle
    iWaffle Posts: 2,208 Member
    Buy a dog and be happy. That is all.
  • SoViLicious
    SoViLicious Posts: 2,633 Member
    No get a cat---Oh then get another cat... or a bird
  • Jacwhite22
    Jacwhite22 Posts: 7,010 Member
    My dog would never do something like this to me. They are not sneaky or deceitful like those dirty cats......
  • VoodooLuLu
    VoodooLuLu Posts: 636 Member
    Maybe the new lovey dovey feeling is wearing off and he's starting to feel comfortable. Don't jump to conclusions ask him.
  • babydiego87
    babydiego87 Posts: 905 Member
    hes just not that into you, boo
  • FireEngineRedHead
    FireEngineRedHead Posts: 281 Member
    You tricked me so hard.
  • missyj1115
    missyj1115 Posts: 1,220 Member
    Take it from me..... If you think he is..... HE MOST DEFINITELY IS!!!
    It is nobody's fault but your own should you choose to stay with the SOB!!!
    Live day in and day out heartbroken or kick him to the curb and get on with your life with someone
    who DESERVES YOU!!!!! PERIOD!!!!
  • ScatteredThoughts
    ScatteredThoughts Posts: 3,562 Member
    You can win back his affection:

    http://www.etsy.com/listing/113695483/prissy-hissy-panties-catnip-toycat-treat
  • chubby_checkers
    chubby_checkers Posts: 2,352 Member
    Take it from me..... If you think he is..... HE MOST DEFINITELY IS!!!
    It is nobody's fault but your own should you choose to stay with the SOB!!!
    Live day in and day out heartbroken or kick him to the curb and get on with your life with someone
    who DESERVES YOU!!!!! PERIOD!!!!

    Yeah!
  • VoodooLuLu
    VoodooLuLu Posts: 636 Member
    @ Scattered he meows haha
  • felice03
    felice03 Posts: 2,644 Member
    Maybe the new lovey dovey feeling is wearing off and he's starting to feel comfortable. Don't jump to conclusions ask him.


    when I ask him, he just ignores me and walks away!
  • VoodooLuLu
    VoodooLuLu Posts: 636 Member
    give him some whiskas that will open him up
  • Danni3ll3
    Danni3ll3 Posts: 365 Member
    Wondering and worrying is going to make you sick. I would rather know (by asking him point blank, not spying) and deal with the results. If he is cheating on you, you need to ask, are you better off with him or without him. Depending on that answer, you may choose counseling or kick him to the curb. You are a special person and you deserve a decent relationship.
  • cindiva65
    cindiva65 Posts: 335 Member
    Sounds like he might be catting around. If he wont communicate with you don't *****foot around with this....follow him.
  • Dark_Roast
    Dark_Roast Posts: 17,689 Member
    just break up
  • LadyPakal
    LadyPakal Posts: 256 Member
    You know what you need to do to win back his affections...
  • salsera_barbie
    salsera_barbie Posts: 270 Member
    You know what you need to do to win back his affections...

    Yeah.....can of tuna
  • TX_Thundercat
    TX_Thundercat Posts: 2,437 Member
    Have you considered hitting him with a rolled up newspaper or taking away his toys?
  • LadyPakal
    LadyPakal Posts: 256 Member
    That - or is he neutered?
  • thepersonaboveyou
    thepersonaboveyou Posts: 8
    Try going into denial. It works for me.
  • ScatteredThoughts
    ScatteredThoughts Posts: 3,562 Member
    @ Scattered he meows haha

    Heh. I meant for the mods to remove my original post. *braincramp*
  • felice03
    felice03 Posts: 2,644 Member
    Have you considered hitting him with a rolled up newspaper or taking away his toys?

    I haven't taken them away. I did buy him this herb stuff he likes trying to keep him home.
  • summersbest
    summersbest Posts: 194 Member
    Attatch a kitty com to his neck when he goes out on the prowl and catch him in the act. If he still denies it, kick his furry *kitten* to the curb! ~
  • smantha32
    smantha32 Posts: 6,990 Member
    Don't let him go outside.
  • JHB2011
    JHB2011 Posts: 153 Member
    get a dog.
  • AllonsYtotheTardis
    AllonsYtotheTardis Posts: 16,947 Member
    Get a kitten. Then the first cat won't be able to stay away from you - all the jalousy!
  • amflautist
    amflautist Posts: 939 Member
    Too much.
  • BeachGingerOnTheRocks
    BeachGingerOnTheRocks Posts: 3,927 Member
    Stupid Toms. You can't trust them at all.

    I say get even. Get another one. One that's fluffier and prettier that purrs louder. If he can't see how special you are, then he's not worth your time.

    Oh, and take his family jewels away. He doesn't deserve those either.
  • mmddwechanged
    mmddwechanged Posts: 1,687 Member
    get a dog.

    This doesn't necessarily work. My dog is a cat inside. She prefers to sit in the sun than with me. She likes to do things her way and one day we found her perched on too of the fence post in our back yard ready to make a run for it!
  • whatshouldieat
    whatshouldieat Posts: 101 Member
    Straight out and ask him if he is emotionally or Se%%ually involved with another woman and sit back and watch his cues, if he looks directly at you and says no then its a no, if he gets in a panic well you have your answer. The body has so many clues when a person is lieing, from the eyes to hand gestures. The truth will be told. Other wise I see your flame is barely flickering and it needs to be relight which every relationship needs on a regular basis. Good luck to you and just know its ok to be single again.

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