I'm warning you (God, Universe, or whoever)

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  • BurtHuttz
    BurtHuttz Posts: 3,653 Member
    I'm so, so sorry to hear what you've gone through. Especially the loss of a parent; I can't yet imagine all of the feelings that you have to deal with as a result. May you grieve in peace and emerge intact.
    With love,
    Burt
  • ambskiii
    ambskiii Posts: 6 Member
    :flowerforyou:
  • bethgames
    bethgames Posts: 534 Member
    You poor thing. I will also pray that God ligtens your burden. He does test us some days, but never breaks us. Peace and Love Debbie!
  • iulia_maddie
    iulia_maddie Posts: 2,780 Member
    I am so sorry that you and your family have so much to carry right now. I hope you find that shred of comfort and the peace and quiet you need to mourn and heal.
  • LisaInUP
    LisaInUP Posts: 63 Member

    I really like how the stages have loops to them - the idea that we will circle through them up and down a few times before we can move on. Thank you for this.

    DITTO!
  • imchicbad
    imchicbad Posts: 1,650 Member
    Sometimes venting to complete strangers is the best thing to do. I dont always understand Gods plan, I would say Im sorry, but those words are just not enough and played out (i hate them myself). I had a similar situation with several deaths in the family years ago. I understand where your coming from and Im glad you got it out. You will heal with time. God bless you.
  • Alex_is_Hawks
    Alex_is_Hawks Posts: 3,499 Member
    ^^Ok and now for something completely different...aka....it's no longer about you.

    Debbie, I'm sorry for your loss, that's a lot of loss to process in such a short time. With time, it will get better and it will ache less. I believe in that.

    Please feel free to express yourself, you MAY have more luck expressing yourself in a blog, or on your wall, but if this works for you, then feel free to continue to do so.

    when my mother lost her fourth child in utero at 30 weeks, she was devastated and one of the things that helped her through the grieving process was talking about it, over and over and over and over and over....she admits now she may have drove some friends crazy, but they were friends and they stuck by her and helped her through her grief by tirelessly listening...

    perhaps some of the people here need to stop thinking about what YOU need to do to get through the grief but more of what THEY can do to help others work through their grief.

    I hope you find peace. I think the 12 hours you had with your mother sharing stories around the bedside as she passed on is a beautiful thing and a beautiful memory of how to say goodbye. Hold that close.
  • danasings
    danasings Posts: 8,218 Member
    I hope you find the strength from within yourself to achieve your goals.

    Ditto.

    And God bless you and your loved ones. :flowerforyou:
  • auroranflash
    auroranflash Posts: 3,569 Member
    I'm so, so sorry to hear what you've gone through. Especially the loss of a parent; I can't yet imagine all of the feelings that you have to deal with as a result. May you grieve in peace and emerge intact.
    With love,
    Burt

    Seconded. :heart:
  • mrssaucer
    mrssaucer Posts: 1 Member
    I understand your hurt, pain and frustration. One thing I can tell you God makes no mistakes, the things that we go through in our lives is not just for us, but also to help strengthen and encourage others who may experience the same crisis. He know what you are able to handle, but more importantly He does things to get our attention, to recognize Him and to give ourselves over to Him wholeheartedly. I not a person that will say they will pray for you and not do it, but right now I'm sending a prayer up for you and yours to be comforted in this grievous time. Please understand He knows what He's doing, just trust Him. Bless
  • EvgeniZyntx
    EvgeniZyntx Posts: 24,208 Member
    I hear your anger and hurt.

    I too am in the distress of loss at the moment as I am back home for my mother's final days. My thoughts at this moment go to you and yours. If you ever need a place to sound off, please do, if it can help and ignore the comments that do not help or strengthen you at this time.
    It was quiet here this morning and I finally had the time and strength to return to your thread. May you find beauty, strength and grace in the world around you that will help now.
    I imagine I carry what I consider as my great losses as small hard diamonds within, time has not lessened them, nor made them less cutting and they are precious to me now. Loss has so many facets, reflecting regret, pain and what is missing but also the joy that led to that, our personal attachments and shared moments.

    Peace to you.
  • Timshel_
    Timshel_ Posts: 22,834 Member
    Sorry for the loss and pain you are feeling. I'll throw in some prayers for strength and understanding.
  • kennethmgreen
    kennethmgreen Posts: 1,759 Member
    The coolest thing about this thread, for me, is the OP's response - in the midst of her grief - of patience and understanding toward differing opinions. If only more of us could be like that on a good day.
  • UsedToBeHusky
    UsedToBeHusky Posts: 15,228 Member
    The coolest thing about this thread, for me, is the OP's response - in the midst of her grief - of patience and understanding toward differing opinions. If only more of us could be like that on a good day.

    Seconded!
  • odusgolp
    odusgolp Posts: 10,477 Member
    The coolest thing about this thread, for me, is the OP's response - in the midst of her grief - of patience and understanding toward differing opinions. If only more of us could be like that on a good day.

    Amen!
  • bearwith
    bearwith Posts: 525 Member
    Bless you - I put a lot of weight on after my Dad died and then I went on this website and one of my friends now helps me train. I have decided that I need to look after my health and be selfish for once.

    I wish you peace and good health. Lots of hugs.
  • quirkytizzy
    quirkytizzy Posts: 4,052 Member
    :drinker:
    The coolest thing about this thread, for me, is the OP's response - in the midst of her grief - of patience and understanding toward differing opinions. If only more of us could be like that on a good day.
  • nicarey19
    nicarey19 Posts: 126 Member
    Hugs. If you need to talk you can message me:) I hope things get better for you.
  • jazzguy4him
    jazzguy4him Posts: 83 Member
    Get this book and read it now:

    https://store.jamesmacdonald.com/p-2116-when-life-is-hard.aspx
  • infamousmk
    infamousmk Posts: 6,033 Member
    The coolest thing about this thread, for me, is the OP's response - in the midst of her grief - of patience and understanding toward differing opinions. If only more of us could be like that on a good day.


    You have the best words.




    OP, I have suffered a great deal of loss in the last year myself... just this past week we almost lost (another) beloved dog, and the stress of not knowing if he would make it or not has taken a toll on my heart these last few days. Just know you're not alone out there, and it's okay to be sad and angry and just let it all out. What good are friends (even internet ones) if not for being there when you need them.
  • kathleennf
    kathleennf Posts: 606 Member
    Hey Debbie thanks for your post. My thoughts and prayers are with you. Hang in there! Know and believe that God will give you the strength to get through whatever He sends you- and go ahead and "yell" at Him- it's good, He can take it. Seriously. And lean on us- we are there for you. I will support you with my prayers, and if I can do anything else for you just let me know.
    kathleen
  • Cr01502
    Cr01502 Posts: 3,614 Member
    The coolest thing about this thread, for me, is the OP's response - in the midst of her grief - of patience and understanding toward differing opinions. If only more of us could be like that on a good day.

    Well said.
  • NavyKnightAh13
    NavyKnightAh13 Posts: 1,394 Member
    I understand how you feel. I watched my mom die back in 2009, lost everything that we had, was basically homeless until my husband (he was boyfriend at that time) allowed for me to move to where we are now, had to leave college, start all over, and then 11 months after that in 2010 lost my grandmother, then almost lost my father after that (he blames me for my mom's death) and then got married in 2011 and had a child in 2012. Between all the moving around, trying to start over in college and everything else, it has finally taken me this long to even begin to understand. Two years before my mom died, my mother in law passed away, so my husband and i both understand.

    Mind you I was 20 when my mom died, my husband was 21 when his mom died.

    And last year a really good friend of the family, whom I had ran the Komen run for passed away that same week.

    I know all too well, but the pain is only managed, it never goes away (for anyone that says it does, you have never experienced it) and holidays stink, but eventually you learn to move on. What you are feeling is completely normal, just take a deep breath and remember that you will heal, but it will take time. :flowerforyou:
  • mommy1126
    mommy1126 Posts: 146 Member
    It's okay to be mad at God. It's your right, and you are right, he will understand : ). You will get through this and find peace. When I lost my Dad, I was angry for a long time. I had not seen him in two years, although we talked often on the phone, and when I got the call to come to him, he was already in a coma. I spent the next two days with him, as his body slowly shut down. So, I understand your anger, it is natural. Just keep putting one foot in front of the other, and know that the memories that bring tears today, will one day be the ones that bring smiles.
  • Jtorres326
    Jtorres326 Posts: 157 Member
    YOU ARE SO STRONG. You let all those negative feelings out. Let yourself grieve, it's okay to be not be okay for a little while. I feel like too many people feel the need to be composed all the time. It's okay to scream, cry, curse, laugh, grieve, memorialize. Love be with you, my dear.
  • NewLIFEstyle4ME
    NewLIFEstyle4ME Posts: 4,440 Member
    :flowerforyou: :heart: :heart: :heart: :flowerforyou: DEBBIE :flowerforyou: :heart: :heart: :heart: :flowerforyou:

    {{{{ Hugs and please know that you and your family and friend(s) are in my thoughts and prayers...may these words bring a bit of Light and Hope into your heart and mind. I'm so sorry dearheart.... {{{ :heart: Hugs again :heart: }}


    “Give sorrow words; the grief that does not speak knits up the o-er wrought heart and bids it break.”
    ― William Shakespeare, Macbeth

    Death leaves a heartache no one can heal, love leaves a memory no one can steal. ~Ireland

    We must embrace pain and burn it as fuel for our journey. ~Kenji Miyazawa

    Life is eternal, and love is immortal,
    and death is only a horizon;
    and a horizon is nothing save the limit of our sight.
    ~Rossiter Worthington Raymond

    Oh heart, if one should say to you that the soul perishes like the body, answer that the flower withers, but the seed remains. ~Kahlil Gibran

    If the people we love are stolen from us, the way to have them live on is to never stop loving them. ~The Crow, written by James O'Barr, David J. Schow, and John Shirley, 1994

    The whole world can become the enemy when you lose what you love.”
    ― Kristina McMorris, Bridge of Scarlet Leaves

    “In this sad world of ours sorrow comes to all and it often comes with bitter agony. Perfect relief is not possible except with time. You cannot now believe that you will ever feel better. But this is not true. You are sure to be happy again. Knowing this, truly believing it will make you less miserable now. I have had enough experience to make this statement.”
    ― Abraham Lincoln

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