Disliking your body....

Jennisin1

I'll admit it, I hate my body. Even though it's getting closer to what I wanted... I hate my "shape"... I have no *kitten*.. slim through the hips... insanely broad shoulders and rib cage... with prominent ribs which make me look like I have an extra set of boobs.. and will only get more prominent as I lose more weight.

I posted a picture on facebook of me in a Tank Top and was told I look kinda disgusting and need more "meat on my bones"... yet I am comfortably in the middle of Average body fat %. (trying to move to top of Athletic).

I am starting to get something of a waist from lifting.. but geez... I feel like I am going to do all the work and still not look great... maybe even start looking strange.

Not sure what I am looking for... other's who feel the same way? or ideas on body recomposition? of a shameless ego boost from a bunch of people saying I'm crazy and don't see myself correctly......

BrainsOnGains

You should try the body recomposition cleanse diet fad thing.

usernameMAMA

I have almost the same body as you. My ribcage is huge! I have to buy shirts that are big everywhere just to fit my ribs. Certain materials (nylon) are never going to work on my frame. You're not alone. I actually got excited to see this post because I thought I was a freak of nature, lol. My ribs are also tipped a little so one side sticks out more than the other...oh well. Things could be worse.

spirytwynd

Perhaps you could consult with a physical trainer to see how to tweak your workout to achieve the results you want. Remember to breathe and it helps to like yourself, even if you feel you are a work in progress. :-)

IntoTheSky

I used to think like this. Stop hating your body. It works. It is healthy. It means you are alive with little to no problems with your health. So what if it isn't shaped how you want it to be. I learned that if I respect it and understand that it is the one that I have and stopped hating it, started looking at it with admiration for all it allows me to do, and love it, I wanted to take better care of it and return the favor. I have abused it and misused it for years. I don't get another one, and yet, it has held me together quite well. Sure, I want to make some improvements, but it is because I love it, not hate it. If you stress less, it will happen. You may always have a bigger ribcage, just like I will always have wide, high set hips. But, they do their job and keep me moving. And for that, I am thankful, and proud of them for carrying such a heavy burden for so many years while I "hated" it. When you Hate a person or a thing, you don't ever treat it as well. Learn to love you and your body will look different to you and will love you back.

JesterMFP

I can understand where you're coming from with not liking your body. I also have what sounds like the exact same body type! Since I've reached my goal weight, I don't know... I struggle sometimes, but on the whole, I feel a lot better about my body. I've been working on accepting my body as it is, or at least within the limits its bound by. I will never look like Marilyn, or a Kardashian. I'll never be tall, never have big hips and I'll probably never have a bra size less than 36 because of my ribs. I have loose skin and a wobbly belly, and bony ribs. Standing under the harsh light of a changing room mirror is not fun. Before I lost weight, the top half of my body was 2 sizes bigger than around my hips - that's still the same!

However, I look so, so much better than I did 85 lbs heavier, I look like me now. It has helped to try to look at other people a bit more closely too and realise that most people aren't perfectly (whatever "perfect" is) in proportion. Some people are born that way, and they get to grace the covers of magazines and be photoshopped into further "perfection". The rest of us/them... they all have little flaws and imperfections. I've been paranoid about the boniness of my chest and ribcage, when I still want to lose fat on my belly. I've been noticing a lot of celebrities have the same thing though. I'm not a freak!

And even the people that I look at and think "wow, Id love to look like that" - the vast majority of them have their own hangups. And really, my body isn't so bad. It can lift heavy (for me) weights and run a little over 5 k (so far) and allows me to do everything I need to do in a day. I can get up and walk to my nearest town if I feel like it, or go out dancing. Not everyone can do those things, so I have to remember how lucky I am.

As obvious as it sounds, try to focus on the good bits. Focus on how you've improved and what you've achieved. You look fine; in your profile picture, you look plenty "normal". Whoever said that about your facebook pic obviously has their own issues, because who the hell says that to someone anyway? Keep up with the strength training, I love what a difference it's made to my body so far. I don't think you can change your hips, but you can build up your *kitten* if you're willing to gain a bit there. Find clothes that flatter your shape (I'm rubbish at that and still learning). Mostly though, it has a lot to do with what's in your head. Learning to accept yourself is going to come from inside far more than any further changes to your outside.

tasson

It seems like we are our own worst critics. I have skinny legs and hips with a plump belly and small breasts. I am in my mid 40's now, but when I was younger and would lose enough weight to reduce my plump belly, people would tell me that I looked too skinny.

dramallamaduck

I used to think like this. Stop hating your body. It works. It is healthy. It means you are alive with little to no problems with your health. So what if it isn't shaped how you want it to be. I learned that if I respect it and understand that it is the one that I have and stopped hating it, started looking at it with admiration for all it allows me to do, and love it, I wanted to take better care of it and return the favor. I have abused it and misused it for years. I don't get another one, and yet, it has held me together quite well. Sure, I want to make some improvements, but it is because I love it, not hate it. If you stress less, it will happen. You may always have a bigger ribcage, just like I will always have wide, high set hips. But, they do their job and keep me moving. And for that, I am thankful, and proud of them for carrying such a heavy burden for so many years while I "hated" it. When you Hate a person or a thing, you don't ever treat it as well. Learn to love you and your body will look different to you and will love you back.

This exactly. I used to hate my body. Looking in the mirror made me cringe. I've learned that in order to really take care of myself, I have to love the body I've got. Why would I want to care for something I hate?

drchimpanzee

You're on my FL. Just wait until I start posting shirtless pictures of myself. That'll show you what real pain is like LOL. Prepare the eye-bleach!

FireEngineRedHead

NOT that I recommend this AT ALL but I corset trained through my teens, and it changed my fat distribution from my waist to my hips. 40-30-40. My mom calls me plus size Barbie.

Edit: You look great the way you are, but I know that doesn't help anything.

VorJoshigan

So wait... you're complaining about having an extra set of boobs?

Sqeekyjojo

I do hope you've unfriended and blocked the morons who made nasty comments.


It's your body, it doesn't help you to hate it, you're not going to get your skeleton replaced by an Adamantine one (I'm first in the queue if it becomes possible!), so it's a waste of your time and mental energy to think about that sort of thing. Think about what your body does for you instead - stops you being a jellyfish like puddle on the floor, for example.

carrieous

If someone told me on FB that i looked disgusting i would delete and block them. how rude!

I have wide shoulders and narrow hips but i like them!

SimplyDenyse

I used to think like this. Stop hating your body. It works. It is healthy. It means you are alive with little to no problems with your health. So what if it isn't shaped how you want it to be. I learned that if I respect it and understand that it is the one that I have and stopped hating it, started looking at it with admiration for all it allows me to do, and love it, I wanted to take better care of it and return the favor. I have abused it and misused it for years. I don't get another one, and yet, it has held me together quite well. Sure, I want to make some improvements, but it is because I love it, not hate it. If you stress less, it will happen. You may always have a bigger ribcage, just like I will always have wide, high set hips. But, they do their job and keep me moving. And for that, I am thankful, and proud of them for carrying such a heavy burden for so many years while I "hated" it. When you Hate a person or a thing, you don't ever treat it as well. Learn to love you and your body will look different to you and will love you back.

very well said!! I was aboout to post about how I hated going to Zumba class and seeing my belly and big hips and thighs... The belly Im working on but the hips and thighs, even though I can reduce them they will never be super small like some peoples. I think back to my highschool years and it probably bothered me just as much then as it does today and I was 50lbs lighter then.. Its just the way my body is made, I must learn to love and accept it as is.

jennifer_417

Don't let others people thoughless (read: RUDE) comments make you hate how you look. Everybody looks different and has different preferences when it comes to appearance...doubtless there are those who will think you are stunningly beautiful.

jade2112

Whoever told you such a mean thing is an ***hole and should be ignored and blocked. That's just awful.