I feel like quitting..
Austadophilus5
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My friend dropped seventeen pounds. Want to know what I dropped? Nothing. In fact, I gained. I'm so disappointed with myself...I just can't get over it. I don't like msyelf and I can't stick to anything, so why did I even think I could do this. Why shouldn't I quit and forget about this? I feel psycho...like I'm one of those people who are obsessed with their weight. That's what I feel like I'm becoming...
I jsut can't get out of this mindset, nor can I fight my food addiction...
I jsut can't get out of this mindset, nor can I fight my food addiction...
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As long as you don't quit, you're still a winner in my book. :flowerforyou:
Maybe try giving us some of your stats so we can help?
Age / Weight / Height
How much you're eating, how long you've been counting, what kind of job you have & if you're doing any workouts
We're here to help
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Just throwing this out there, I have no context about the relationship between you two: Maybe use this situation as a time to re-evaluate why you are friends. If it's purely based on competition to the point one person wins and the other loses, personally I'd try to find new friends. We have enough "keeping up with the Jones" in the world.
Or maybe ask your friend for some advice as a test to see how much support you get. A real friend will help you.0 -
Did your friend do some things that you didn't do? What are you doing to help your weight loss?
It sounds like you have a lot bad feelings about yourself and your ability to lose weight. It's natural to be disappointed, but it's awesome if you keep trying!0 -
As long as you don't quit, you're still a winner in my book. :flowerforyou:
Maybe try giving us some of your stats so we can help?
Age / Weight / Height
How much you're eating, how long you've been counting, what kind of job you have & if you're doing any workouts
We're here to help
I agree tell us more details and we'll see if we can help. Send me a friend request if you want to check in.0 -
Age: 20 years old
Height: 5.4
Weight: 252 lbs (just weighed)
I've only been doing this for three weeks so maybe I'm just freaking out. I'm just stressed out from my life. But my aunt gave me her elliptical and I've been trying to do fifteen minutes everyday. But lately, I feel lack luster towards myself and my abilities. I want to do strength training too, but I don't know how to start.
And my diet isn't really straight. I tried eating better, but I spaz and eat. I feel so weak all the time. Plus there's an Mcdonalds right in my work place and I try to avoid it...I just...fail.0 -
I go through this all the time so add if you need a friend, when i first started my firend lost loads of weight and i stayed the same i was happy for her but felt annoyed for myself (lets face it we are all selfish) i had lost 9lb a little while ago managed to put it all back on because i was stupid with my diet now its a case of loosing it all again...
Add me as a friend it seems likew e have a lot in common and can chat properly (if you want ofc)
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My advice is to stop comparing yourself to your friend and concentrate on yourself.
What is the point in quitting? You want to make changes and that isn't going to happen if you go back to what you were doing before.
How long have you been doing this....and what exactly is it that you are doing?0 -
My scale is not being nice to me either. It really makes me want to rip thru a pack of cookies. Feel free to add me- ive being at it about 3 weeks too.
Edit to add this time around- I lost 38 last year and found 25 of them again.0 -
it looks like you've only been at it a month. Give it more time!!!!0
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Don't quit, focus on you only. You've gotta think, how bad do you want it? If you're determined enough than stick to it, track your calories and look for help on mfp 0
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My friend dropped seventeen pounds. Want to know what I dropped? Nothing. In fact, I gained. I'm so disappointed with myself...I just can't get over it. I don't like msyelf and I can't stick to anything, so why did I even think I could do this. Why shouldn't I quit and forget about this? I feel psycho...like I'm one of those people who are obsessed with their weight. That's what I feel like I'm becoming...
I jsut can't get out of this mindset, nor can I fight my food addiction...
"I don't like myself and I can't stick to anything, so why did I even think I could do this? Why shouldn't I quit and forget about this?"
I hope you understand that this attitude is the reason why you've never succeeded. Please change your self talk. You deserve better.0 -
Don't feel too bad. I've had about four bad days of overeating in addition to a mildly bad month and I've gained about five or six pounds! The ab definition beginning to show is now covered up again and my thighs are even fatter and my clothes are tight. Yesterday I said that today I'd get back on schedule, but I didn't. Instead I ate and didn't do my morning workout nor anything else I needed to have done by today. I'll need a small salad and a couple of medium apples just to get through the rest of the day and even then I'll have exceeded my calorie limit by about 1500 calories. But, you know what? I'm going to slap that s#!* in the face and go and do my second workout just as planned, put in writing what needs to be done tomorrow, and write down my eating plan. Come tomorrow I'm just going to go by the list.
You're not alone in feeling disappointed with yourself and frustrated. I feel the same way. Start making healthy choices and a plan - just as I'm doing- right now and make the rest of the day a good day and then carry on from there. 0 -
If your friend lost 17 pounds in 3 weeks, either she is doing something other than diet and exercise (which you want no parts of) or she is really really big. A healthy goal is 1-2 lbs a week. At times, you will be slightly over or under that, but 17 lbs in 3 weeks doesn't sound right to me.
Keep making positive changes to your diet and keep on exercising. You'll see results in time.0 -
The gain might have been water retention, especially if this is the first time you've really worked out.
As for the McD's in your workplace, you should ease yourself into avoiding it. Maybe try eating something healthier there and start bringing your lunch most days. There's no shame in having something from there every now and then as long as it fits in your calories and the rest of your day is pretty good, IMO.
As for strength training, I have heard good things about NROL, which might be a good place to start. Also, look up Youtube videos and pay attention to their form.
Basically, just keep logging calories and working out and you should see results.0 -
Austa, try setting a calorie goal.
My home --> Goals --> Custom --> Set your cal goal to 2000
I eat Mcdonalds pretty much every other day, I get a McDouble and take off either half the bun or the whole bun (each part is 80 or so cals). I also eat chocolate and Ice Cream everyday, if I were trying to deny myself everything I loved, then I think I'd feel like quitting too!
Try to pre-log things you're going to eat for the day. So before you go to work, decide if you feel like mcdonalds or taking a sandwich and put that in so you know that it fits into your calorie budget.
Eat things in moderation. This morning I dished up 6oz of Yogurt-- but I realized in the middle of eating that I really wasn't hungry! So the dogs finished it for me. Listen to your body. 0 -
Age: 20 years old
Height: 5.4
Weight: 252 lbs (just weighed)
I've only been doing this for three weeks so maybe I'm just freaking out. I'm just stressed out from my life. But my aunt gave me her elliptical and I've been trying to do fifteen minutes everyday. But lately, I feel lack luster towards myself and my abilities. I want to do strength training too, but I don't know how to start.
And my diet isn't really straight. I tried eating better, but I spaz and eat. I feel so weak all the time. Plus there's an Mcdonalds right in my work place and I try to avoid it...I just...fail.
Well, you've only been at it for three weeks. Give it more time, more effort and KEEP GOING! I, personally, wouldn't worry about strength training until you can be consistent with the elliptical for your 15 minutes. Add strength training after a week or two of consistent use.
If you crave certain foods, and I know I did, make healthier versions at home. This way, you get what you crave, you know whats in it, you don't get slammed with ALL of the bad numbers of take out (lets face it, you can make it "healthier" but it'll still pack a punch). There are recipes for free ALL OVER the net and if you'd like, send me a friend request and I can try helping. I was a cook by profession for over 10 years and have learned other tricks along my journey. ANYBODY here can help, for that matter.
Remember, drink your water, do your elliptical, give it more time and KEEP GOING! :flowerforyou:0 -
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You need to tell yourself you can succeed and then stick to it. Of course it's hard. If it were easy, everyone would be in shape. As soon as you want it bad enough, you'll find a way to make it work.
I've been overweight my entire life and I've done the yo-yo dieting thing. I'm also 5'4'' and I started at 240 lbs, so we're really similar, except I'm 32, so you have an age advantage on me. I decided 8 weeks ago that I was tired of being overweight and I was going to do something about it. The temptations are everywhere and I go over my calories and sometimes do a little less exercise than I planned, but I've been able to lose 26 lbs. in that time frame.
It never gets easy, but it does get easier. If you can force yourself to eat right and exercise for a week, you'll start forming new habits and it won't be quite as hard as it is today. Good luck! Everyone on this site is here to support you.0 -
The elliptical keeps shutting off because I'm so slow. I don't know what to do. I'm just tearing myself from the inside out. Maybe I'm using it wrong.
Anyways, thank you all for your amazing advice and encouragement. I feel so much better honestly.0 -
I've waited my whole life to quote Don Draper from Madmen. "Listen, I’m not here to tell you about Jesus. You already know about Jesus. He either lives in your heart or he doesn’t." The thing is this; People can tell you a hundred different methods for weight loss. You can compare yourself to anybody in the world. You can spend money on ridiculous magic pills, or do things perfectly sensibly. But at the end of the day, if the desire to stick to this whole thing, and truly change yourself isn't there, then nothing anyone else says or does matters.
Rather than just immediately chucking it all in, take a day or two and ask yourself what you really want. If you want to change, then do it. If you want to lose weight, and get healthier, then do it. If you're not willing to stick with it through all the setbacks (and lets face it, setbacks are par for any course, especially weight loss and fitness) then nothing anyone else says or does matters. You can get out of the mindset if you really are willing to change.
Fortuitously, a friend dropped this video into my inbox this morning. Please watch it.
http://youtu.be/lsSC2vx7zFQ 0 -
I agree that if you believe that you can't lose weight then you won't lose weight. We are all proof that it can be done and you are no better or worse than any of us. You can do this - you just need to want it more than failure and McDonald's. I suggest you go to the Introduce Yourself board, start a thread about your situation and request friends. Be active on these boards, read the Success Stories board, search for threads that interest you and read them, and start logging your food and exercise. Look for people that are successfully losing weight and send them a friend request with a note explaining that you could use support and inspiration. Seeing what other people are eating and their workouts will inspire you to keep trying. And remember...you're human. You will make mistakes. You will not do this perfectly but keep trying. Also, consider that losing weight doesn't require what you may be thinking it requires. Read this thread and consider trying it out for a month. You can actually eat quite a bit of food and still lose weight.
http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/937712-in-place-of-a-road-map-ver-3-00 -
I've felt that way until recently. Even now I'm kind of on the fence. I suggest taking your measurements because sometimes the scale doesn't move or even goes up but you're still getting results in your measurements. For a good few weeks my scale was going down but my measurements weren't. That's what really frustrated me. Seeing results on the scale but not seeing them on my actual body was brutal. I recently started running and am seeing results again. This week I lost 1/4inch around each thigh and the same around my chest. It's not much, but at least things are going in the right direction.
I have an elliptical and can't do more than 15-20 minutes in a row on it. It makes me feel inadequate when I see people on here who use it for 45 minutes at a time. I don't understand how they can do it. It takes some time but just keep doing what you're going, be active as much as you can, eat healthy foods, and it'll happen. It's frustrating that it doesn't happen as quickly as we think it should.
Feel free to add me for support!0 -
It sounds like instead of the logging and eating a certain number of calories, you are trying the "I'll just torture myself by always eating less than I really want to, skipping meals I really wanted, always thinking I could have done better, and always feeling guilty about it." If you aren't logging and counting calories, please try it for a while. When you do, all of the above goes away and you can actually enjoy every single thing you eat and have much better control over things.
Have you read anything on strength training yet? That can get you started.0 -
"I don't like myself and I can't stick to anything, so why did I even think I could do this? Why shouldn't I quit and forget about this?"
I hope you understand that this attitude is the reason why you've never succeeded. Please change your self talk. You deserve better.
This. Be kinder to yourself and you'll find you're much stronger than you think. Giving up now will only ensure that, six months from now, you'll be asking yourself where you'd be if you'd started when you said you would.
Make this time count. Time will pass either way.0 -
Stop looking at your friends success as a negative. She is living proof its possible. You need to do this for yourself. If you want a macdonalds have one but log it here then try and exercise to burn some of it off. Its not the end of the world to have a burger. A brisk 30 min walk around the block should make some impression on the calories you consume. You don't need to become a marathon runner of triathlete to be healthy.
This is not a diet site. Its a lifestyle change tool. I had no clue whatsoever how many calories and how much fat were in certain items that i thought were "healthy". I made cauliflower cheese with low fat cheese sauce thinking yeah veggies.. low fat sauce.. My eyes almost popped out the sockets when i put it on here and looked at the calories. I also had no idea how many calories different exercises burned off.
Take each day as it comes. I used to obsess over food all the time and obsess about my weight and yanno what... spending so much time thinking about food and being healthy MADE ME MORE HUNGRY. It takes time to change the way you think. I am the classic yoyo dieter. I lost 40lb.. put 50lb back on. lost 30 put 20 back on. I was driving myself insane. Starting out is the hardest part of this journey and your here... You already took that step.
There are a tonn of wonderful people who will ad you and support you every step of the way, there are forums for venting and or advice, recipies etc..
Your not alone, doing this is tuff but its not impossible. The weight you want to lose took time to put on so in turn it takes time to come off. But it WILL come off.
Feel free to hit me up with a FR, that applies to all.
Good luck on your journey. You CAN do this xxx0 -
I've waited my whole life to quote Don Draper from Madmen. "Listen, I’m not here to tell you about Jesus. You already know about Jesus. He either lives in your heart or he doesn’t." The thing is this; People can tell you a hundred different methods for weight loss. You can compare yourself to anybody in the world. You can spend money on ridiculous magic pills, or do things perfectly sensibly. But at the end of the day, if the desire to stick to this whole thing, and truly change yourself isn't there, then nothing anyone else says or does matters.
Rather than just immediately chucking it all in, take a day or two and ask yourself what you really want. If you want to change, then do it. If you want to lose weight, and get healthier, then do it. If you're not willing to stick with it through all the setbacks (and lets face it, setbacks are par for any course, especially weight loss and fitness) then nothing anyone else says or does matters. You can get out of the mindset if you really are willing to change.
Fortuitously, a friend dropped this video into my inbox this morning. Please watch it.http://youtu.be/lsSC2vx7zFQ
X a million!
I struggled for a long time. "I'm fat, I've got to do something, I'll start monday." Monday would come and I would make up an excuse why I couldn't do it that day. Then it was "oh I'll start next Monday." My point is, until it clicks in your head you're basically just torturing yourself. Like anything else in life, YOU have to be ready to change, before any progress will be made.0 -
Heyy don't get like that. Just give yourself time to succeed! I know it sometimes feels like everyone ELSE loses weight and we ourselves don't, can't, it'll never happen to us, but it will. And ignore the friend's journey. She will feel exactly the same as you do about this but about something else, I can guarantee. We all have our downfalls, our weak points and our bad days. But you're doing great, stick with it and be kind to yourself. Theres very few other people who are gonna love you as well as you can love yourself
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Please don't quit. It has been a disappointing week for me also, but I refuse to let disappointment defeat me again. Just look at the things you did that you feel were positive and focus on them. Take a good look everything and move on from here. You can do this...Remember this may not be a sprint for you, it could be a marathon..But it will be worth it.... I have another 85-90 lbs to go ...a long journey, but I will not let one week spoil my chances to be who I deserve to be...By the way, this is my first post...Usually not a big poster, but I think you are worth it!!!0
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My friend dropped seventeen pounds. Want to know what I dropped? Nothing. In fact, I gained. I'm so disappointed with myself...I just can't get over it. I don't like msyelf and I can't stick to anything, so why did I even think I could do this. Why shouldn't I quit and forget about this? I feel psycho...like I'm one of those people who are obsessed with their weight. That's what I feel like I'm becoming...
I jsut can't get out of this mindset, nor can I fight my food addiction...
this was me a hundred times before trying to loose weight either by myself, with friends, in a contest. It never worked. I always ended up just as fat or fatter than before I started!
I have now lost about 45 lbs (finally) and this is how I did it:
1. Started a paleo lifestyle
2. I read all the paleo books, watched all the documentaries, and learned the science of the lifestyle and WHY it was so good for me. When I was bored on saturday I watched movies on netflix about the american food industry and read books. that kept me from "bored eating".
3. I found a good support system online of people who were doing the same thing I was
4. I focused on my diet instead of exercise. for a few months I didnt have an exercise plan. I focused solely on my diet. perfecting it as best as possible. Sure, I still took walks or meet a friend at the gym every now and again but it wasnt my focus..I didint have a plan. I put all of my energy into my diet
5. I taught myself that this is a lifestyle change. I am not doing this temporarily. I will do this forever. my body will reach the weight it wants to stick at and thats fine and thats healthy! until then, I will keep enjoying the weight loss.
6. once I felt in control of my diet, I hit my exercise. I am still working on that. It is still a struggle. but, I have a plan and I stick to that plan. and I plan on change it up as my body and strength changes
7. I realized what food really was. food wasnt a blanket or something that made me feel good or bad or sad or lonely or depressed. food was fuel. food was the ticket to health.
8. I realized that the size of my pants or whether I could look good in a bathing suit no longer mattered. I was overweight, obese actually and thats scary. What matters is my health. I will literally killing myself by stuffing my face with foods I thought were healthy (low fat cookies, baked chips, low fat cheese, etc) and then over exercising because of guilt.
9. I gave myself structure. I have a planned schedule every day of the week, things I must accomplish. Monday-gym-bible study. Tuesday-work-yoga class with co workers. Wednesday - Work - circuit training class at gym and then dinner with bff, thursday work-night class (getting MBA), Friday work-gym, saturday -relax-chill-grocery shop-meal plan Sunday-food prep for the week - circuit training class with bff. my plans are all focused around my health: mental, physical and spiritual. 0
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