Would you feel bad for this boy?
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It's not your job to be policing other people and telling them they're doing it wrong. It's freedom of choice. Looking down on others because of the decisions they've made isn't virtuous at all.
QFT!!!0 -
Why would I feel bad? Not everyone wants to be healthy and if they ever decide that they want to they can do that too.
A little boy can't make his own decisions. Ultimately, that falls back on the parents.0 -
you don't know anything about these people.
maybe the family is overweight but it could also be that they are half way thru their weight loss journey and today was a cheat day for them.
i see tons of posts from people and their "cheat days"
don't judge people until you've taken the time to learn their back story.
So much truth...0 -
Why would I feel bad? Not everyone wants to be healthy and if they ever decide that they want to they can do that too.
Yeah, that is fine for adults, but they are setting their own child up with bad health habits. I'm gonna hope you just missed the point, and don't think it's fine for parents to do that.
But if they've grown up with the same bad health habits, they will pass them along because it's the norm to them
That's my point..... the kid is doomed.
Unless the kid grows up and learns a better way. I grew up with bad eating habits, and I was always a heavy kid/teen/adult. I'm changing my life and I'm teaching my kids for the better.
So, doomed for now, yes. Not completely doomed for the future.
Exactly. I think you all are underestimating the number of people on this site who grew up exactly like that. It sucks, but when fat kids grow up, we have to take control to undo the damage our parents raised us with. So they're setting him up for failure, but that doesn't mean he won't eventually overcome.0 -
So sad. A few weeks ago I stopped for a drink at a near by gas station. I noticed a young girl probably my sons age - 4. Her mother gave her a fountain pop. She's 4 years old!! Does this bother anyone else?
Yes.
It clearly should've contained vodka.0 -
you don't know anything about these people.
maybe the family is overweight but it could also be that they are half way thru their weight loss journey and today was a cheat day for them.
i see tons of posts from people and their "cheat days"
don't judge people until you've taken the time to learn their back story.
yeah, that's it....
This...I can look at someone's profile picture and judge them for how they look - I can sit in a restaurant and judge people for what they eat...No wait, I can't!! Unless I am perfect of course......0 -
So sad. A few weeks ago I stopped for a drink at a near by gas station. I noticed a young girl probably my sons age - 4. Her mother gave her a fountain pop. She's 4 years old!! Does this bother anyone else?
Yes.
It clearly should've contained vodka.
AHAHAHAH :drinker:0 -
So sad. A few weeks ago I stopped for a drink at a near by gas station. I noticed a young girl probably my sons age - 4. Her mother gave her a fountain pop. She's 4 years old!! Does this bother anyone else?
Yes.
It clearly should've contained vodka.
Total WIN! haha
WOW - no joke and I'll admit it but I judge the **** out of those people sorry...and I bet soooo many others on here do too!
I got honesty going for me I guess.0 -
Based on some of these posters, I think I should stay out of the public realm until I reach my goal weight. Because I'm still gonna be a fatty until I reach a certain point and god forbid I have a slurpee along the way.0
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I the grocery store a few weeks ago there was a little boy with his mom...neither was overweight. I was buying apples, and they were walking by. This is what I heard...
Boy: Mamma, what's that?
Woman: Apples. Come on, lets find your cookies.
Boy: Can I have a apple?
Woman: No, those are yucky.
Boy: Why?
Woman: They're yucky. Come on, let's go.
It made me sad.0 -
YES!!! For being judge by someone based on his appearance. Don't judge a book by the cover.
I have learned not to judge others. I certainly don't want anyone judging me. My kid is 12, and he is definitely overweight. He is also active and eats a normal diet. And when I say normal, I mean he does indulge in pizza, hot dogs, slurpees, and what not. He also eats broccoli, asparagus, and all of his other veggies. He orders water 99% of the time. If he asked for a slurpee I would tell him yes. I would also probably explain that it has a lot of sugar in it, so he should stay away from other foods that have a high sugar content for the rest of the day. Such as fruit. We don't know that this kid has a slurpee a day, or of if that was his first in six months. You can't judge just because of the weight.
When my child is in between growth spurts, he is heavier because the weight that he put on has not distributed. He is of a solid build, as is his dad. He goes thru cycles where he puts on 20 pounds, and then grows six inches.
Either way, you can't assume that he will be doomed from the start. These parents are telling their child that he is limited to a medium. MODERATION. While it is more than a small or none at all, it is smaller than a large and a giant cup. I could make the same argument against parents who refuse to allow their child to have the drink. That child will have the potential to be doomed once he is old enough to make his own choices.
If you saw me at the grocery store, you would have seen a woman whose cart was loaded down with fresh fruits, fresh veggies, lean meats, water, and no junk food. If you see my on a cheat day or an outing to a restaurant, you would probably see me ordering an unhealthy meal (and enjoying every bite). I worked hard and I will enjoy it.0 -
Based on some of these posters, I think I should stay out of the public realm until I reach my goal weight. Because I'm still gonna be a fatty until I reach a certain point and god forbid I have a slurpee along the way.
Agreed! But, if you do happen to fall for that slurpee....I will probably be there too!0 -
Let's be honest, it was probably a fruit cup filled with sugar...:noway:0
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Welcome to the future generations of America...
I'm already taking care of his parents in the nursing home.
He's next.
Yeah, that's sad...0 -
I think people should avoid judging others when they don't know the entire situation.0
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I feel bad for all of them. Perhaps they are trying the best way they know how. There should be help available for all.0
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Based on some of these posters, I think I should stay out of the public realm until I reach my goal weight. Because I'm still gonna be a fatty until I reach a certain point and god forbid I have a slurpee along the way.
Agreed! But, if you do happen to fall for that slurpee....I will probably be there too!
:drinker: To the slurpee!0 -
I personally hate when you see kids under the age of 10, and they're already obese. The parents are the same way. I feel like they should be setting a better example for their children, and teaching them how to eat right. Parents often just don't say no to their kids, and don't have to time to cook at home so they just buy frozen food and eat out. I think that's a terrible example to set for your children.
If my parents had taught me how to eat right, I'm sure I wouldn't be like this now. However, when you're home alone from 13 on and have to cook for yourself, then your dad takes you out to get fast food for dinner everyday, you pick up some bad habits. But I'm determined to get healthier and when I have kids, I'll teach them to eat right.0 -
Why would I feel bad? Not everyone wants to be healthy and if they ever decide that they want to they can do that too.
yes not everyone wants to be healthy, but this poor child isn't being given the choice, his parents are making the choice for him! To even give him the choice between fruit or pepperoni, one or the other?? Seriously? Where is the sense in this?0 -
were these the people you saw??
A friend of mine went to high school with Honey Boo Boo's mom. He showed me a recent picture of HBB. She's even fatter now. It's sad.0 -
Why would I feel bad? Not everyone wants to be healthy and if they ever decide that they want to they can do that too.
yes not everyone wants to be healthy, but this poor child isn't being given the choice, his parents are making the choice for him! To even give him the choice between fruit or pepperoni, one or the other?? Seriously? Where is the sense in this?
But how does judging him and his parents change this? While it may make no sense to you and I...what do we gain from the OP? What does his family gain from the OP?0 -
While I have my own opinions on what went down in that interaction, I try very hard not to judge parents or parenting actions.
As a mom I know it's hard to make good decisions all the time, and heaven knows, I've made some bad ones. But what drives me nuts more than anything else is people judging me on those decisions, especially if those making the judgement don't have kids themselves.
That said, fruit should never be limited for anyone unless it's covered in sugar.
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Why would I feel bad? Not everyone wants to be healthy and if they ever decide that they want to they can do that too.
yes not everyone wants to be healthy, but this poor child isn't being given the choice, his parents are making the choice for him! To even give him the choice between fruit or pepperoni, one or the other?? Seriously? Where is the sense in this?
But how does judging him and his parents change this? While it may make no sense to you and I...what do we gain from the OP? What does his family gain from the OP?
I don't think we were meant to gain anything from the OP. I think he/she was just making an observation, and wanted to know if we shared an opinion with them. It's also a topic that often sparks a lot of debate, obese children. I think the point of this topic is to be able to discuss this with others, and hopefully teach others about the effects they could have on their children. I don't think it was meant to be overly judgemental.0 -
when you're home alone from 13 on and have to cook for yourself, then your dad takes you out to get fast food for dinner everyday, you pick up some bad habits.
I was lucky, my mom was a single mother and worked nights, but taught me how to cook. I raised my little brother from the time I was old enough to stay home alone and use a stove. Yes, frozen foods are there for convenience purposes, but here, the markets aren't expensive for fresh fruits and veggies. My daughter, age 4, will go into the fridge herself and grab fresh mushrooms or carrots (already peeled and cut by me) to eat as a snack. Today, for lunch, she asked for cucumber, mushrooms, red pepper and cheese. This is her favourite things to eat I am truly blessed 0 -
I think people should avoid judging others when they don't know the entire situation.
I am fat as ever and my 2 kids are skinny as rails. I was skinny all my life as well but muscular because I was very athletic. I wonder how many times in the past yr PPL have looked at me and judged me for eating all the food and starving my kids HA! And yes we could have very well been at the icee machine I love those effers! So do my kids but they get them maybe once a month.0 -
While I have my own opinions on what went down in that interaction, I try very hard not to judge parents or parenting actions.
As a mom I know it's hard to make good decisions all the time, and heaven knows, I've made some bad ones. But what drives me nuts more than anything else is people judging me on those decisions, especially if those making the judgement don't have kids themselves.
That said, fruit should never be limited for anyone unless it's covered in sugar.
I totally agree that they're your kids, and therefore it's your choice to parent however you please (aside from abuse and such). And I think everyone knows that nobody can be perfect, and there'll be those fast food days, but I think OP was more talking about the people who go out every single night, who only give their children fruit from a syrup-filled can. The people who are at the far end of the unhealthy spectrum, you know? I'll definitely admit to shaking my head when I'm in a store and I see morbidly obese kids.
My boyfriend's nephew is 6 years old, and over 100 pounds. His parents, grandparents, and anyone else who feeds him enevr says no. He gets fed bags of doritos, pizza, and drinks soda constantly. He sits inside and plays video games and watches TV. I think that's sad, when a 6 year old weighs that much.0 -
when you're home alone from 13 on and have to cook for yourself, then your dad takes you out to get fast food for dinner everyday, you pick up some bad habits.
I was lucky, my mom was a single mother and worked nights, but taught me how to cook. I raised my little brother from the time I was old enough to stay home alone and use a stove. Yes, frozen foods are there for convenience purposes, but here, the markets aren't expensive for fresh fruits and veggies. My daughter, age 4, will go into the fridge herself and grab fresh mushrooms or carrots (already peeled and cut by me) to eat as a snack. Today, for lunch, she asked for cucumber, mushrooms, red pepper and cheese. This is her favourite things to eat I am truly blessed
I don't blame my dad, he just suddenly became a single parent who left the house for work before 5am, and came home around 6pm. Nobody could blame him for not wanting to cook. I just wish he had taught me how to make healthy habits. I was fed relatively alright when I was younger. I would just eat whatever was put in front of me, then go back outside and play or whatever. But then I moved in with my dad, and he couldn't really cook or anything, and I didn't know how. So I ate unhealthy all the time. But now I know better, and I'm determined to be more healthy! I think it just shows how you're teaching your child bad habits. You need to teach them how to be healthy, or they'll wind up obese.0 -
I think people should avoid judging others when they don't know the entire situation.
I am fat as ever and my 2 kids are skinny as rails. I was skinny all my life as well but muscular because I was very athletic. I wonder how many times in the past yr PPL have looked at me and judged me for eating all the food and starving my kids HA! And yes we could have very well been at the icee machine I love those effers! So do my kids but they get them maybe once a month.
Damn, now I seriously want a slurpee..0
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