Tell or don't tell friend

RenewedRunner

Ok situation:
I have a good girl Friend is away at training. Lets call her K. Went out tonight with my husband and some friends, run in to K's husband. He is at end of bar with 3 women, one of whom is pretty much the local w h o r e. He doesn't come to sit w us, and about 20 minutes later he comes to say goodbye, that he is going home. He leaves and the girls happen to leave at the same time. Another guy friend comes running inside to say he is going too and dashes out.

We stay for about another hour and leave to go to a different place. We pull up and as we do, K 's husband, the other guy, and two girls are getting in to the girls car. He looks guilty. I walked past him into the bar. He comes in about 10 min later w the other guy, the girls leave.

He proceeds to say "nothing" happened. I am pissed. I personally don't think it matters if they actually screwed or not. I feel if he is doing something he can't tell his wife, he is wrong wrong wrong. They don't have an open marriage and actually have been having a lot of prolems and he has a history of shady ****te. He tries to talk to me. I told him either he tells K or I am. He claims he would call her right that second but she is sleeping, that he rode to the other bar w the guys, and that he wasn't really going to get in the girls car but was merely walking them to the car and trying to warm up (though the slutty one hollered he had been trying to look at her panties all night.)

Soooo do I tell her? Do I get involvd? Is it really nothing? I would want to know if it were me, but I have a painful rlationship past so am I just allowing that to distort this??? I know he wouldn't act like that if K was here, and th fact that he kept trying to talk to me and was looking/acting guilty as hell makes m sooooo suspicious. I feel like the intent wa there. What if we hadn't pulled up?

Do I tell my friend?? Would you?

Hexahedra

Tell her the facts only, that he was out with three women, one of which is known to be very promiscuous. Describe what he did and said, but offer no opinion unless specifically asked. Let your friend judge for herself.

zrmac804

From your post, I gather that one hour and ten minutes passed between your witnessing K's husband leaving with one guy and 3 girls and your witnessing the girls going home alone. My gut feeling is that if K's husband is the chivalrous type, he may well be telling the truth. It takes time to negotiate oneself out of an awkward situation, especially if one or more parties are drunk.

Personally, I wouldn't get involved. If K asks, I would follow Hexahedra's suggestion and state just the facts.

Beezil

Stay out of it.

Terasome

although I think you are allowing your own previous experience to cloud your thoughts and feelings here I also think you may be right about K's husband/partner not being totally honest.

If she is a good friend then I would just say oh I seen your hubby out the other night with (insert male friend name), if she asks any further info only state what you know for certain, dont make assumptions whatever you do because it will only come back to bite you on the bum.

Snow__White

Stay out of it.

^^This

Dauntlessness

Tell her the facts then stay the hell out of it. More than likely she knows he is a slime-ball already.