A somewhat sad NSV

jody664

So yesterday I had a really big fight with a friend. One of those can't-sleep-now, friendship-ending kind of fights. It was ugly. It was emotional. And the urge was there to "soothe" myself with some donuts, ice cream, or other fattening foods. But I did some self-talk and convinced myself that 1) I would feel worse if I ate a bunch of crap, 2) it would not change the situation one bit, and 3) was I really going to let this derail me from my goals? Isn't this the kind of silly thinking that got me up to 200+ lb in the first place?

So I drank a huge glass of water instead.

The situation still hurts, but I feel proud of myself for not letting a very emotional situation get me off track.

mjpbgtd

Those fights are the worst! Sounds like you've made a lot of progress learning how to take care of yourself rather than "hurt" yourself. Congratulations and good luck moving on.

elexichoccyeater

Poor you xxx horrible when that happens xxx you should be so proud of yourself though xxxx

Alidecker

Sorry to hear that about your friend, but good job on learning to deal with it without food. It is a difficult thing. I was happy when I realized this also, especially when I learned to deal with stress by exercising.

dark_angel1554

Fights can be so stressful! Good for you for keeping things into perspective and making good choices.

CrazyTrackLady

I'm very proud of you! I am sorry to hear about your emotional difficulties, but you handled it with amazing will power, strength and courage.

Hang in there, it can and will get better.

michelefrench

congratulations on not turning one bad thing into two!!!

caseythirteen

While I am really sorry you had that kind of a fight with a friend, I think it was a huge victory for you! Being able to make those choices in such an emotional time is an excellent accomplishment. I love point #2 - that turning to junk won't change the situation. That's so true and worth remembering over and over.

AwesomelyAmber

Fabulous victory!!! I have to stop myself from self-sabotaging due to stress and what not sometimes too... it can be soooo easy to turn to food, when you learn that you don't have to do that ...it is the BEST feeling!

eep223

That's a HUGE nsv. Figuring out how to deal with emotions without food is about 90% of the battle for a lot of us! Well done, but sorry you are having a rotten time of it right now. Taking care of yourself will help you to feel better!

KenosFeoh

Wonderful. I hope I remember this the next time the kitchen is "promising" to soothe me.

jody664

Thanks everyone! I really appreciate the encouragement from you all.

DeeC01

Well done - those situation make me rave alohol and Chinese taake-out!! The whole f*k it - whats the point is benggood when I feel like this.......... That you stayed strong, shows great will power - keep it up.

SDHudgins1976

That's a HUGE NSV! I'm so sorry you had to go through the situation though...

(I have found since starting to exercise hopping on my exercise bike helps... then conveniently enough if I'm still wanting that ice cream, I've just burned the calories, though most the time I don't want it anymore!)

grdnr03

although the nsv occured through a rough moment! You did learn something about yourself, you didn't give in to self loathing, congrats!

Its_All_Gongfu

That was a true, and brutal test...And you OWNED it!! :drinker: Be proud!

highmaintnance

That's great that you were able to avoid temptation. I'm sorry that it took this difficult event for you to see just how strong you are.

lhgalant

good for you! emotional eating can be so hard to overcome!! you just proved you have so much control!!! congrats! but, truly sorry about the loss of a friend =(

jody664

Thanks again for all your kind words and support. While writing my post, I realized that I can't control the situation (if my friend can't see my point of view and support me in it, there's nothing I can do to change that), but I CAN control my reaction to the situation. So even though I'm sad today, I have a sense of peace about it and not allowing it to wreck the good work I've already done.

Thanks again for your words of support!

iLoveMyAR15

Sorry to hear about your fight but your willpower is AMAZING!!!!! Great job

joleenl

I too have lost a friend during this journey. Dealing with emotional eating is challanging and every situation that is hard will be a new challenge. One small victory at a time it can be done. Good for you!

muffle1969

That is a major, major accomplishment! I hope I do as well as you if faced with a similar situation, or even half as well. I'm sorry for the situation, but you should be very proud you didn't fall into an overeating trap as a result.

Beastette

I am seriously proud of you. That's amazing. I'm sorry about your fight, and I hope you work it all out...and that you feel/look fabulous doing it.