What is your wedding advice to a newly married couple?

SteelersfanChris

Never go to bed mad.

This.

The importance of this advice can never, ever be overstated. I've been married for almost 4 years now and we made a pact to never go to bed angry. In 4 years we've never gone to bed without resolving problems and we're in a really happy, healthy marriage. I'm all for procrastination but not when it comes to making things right with an argument.

pettmybunny

I agree with LuckyLeprechaun on the going to bed angry thing. We've done it before. One time, it took 2 days for us to be able to discuss the matter calmly. (it was about kids, responsibilities and punishments--I won't go into the details). After the second day, about 9:00 at night, we were able to talk it out and come to an agreement. We don't have the 12 or 20 or even more years that some of you have, but we're going on 6. And in another 10 years, all four of those kids will be out of the house (hopefully), and we won't have that issue coming between us any more!

Remember the quote, "This too, shall pass". It may take 10 years, but eventually it will pass. (Gosh, I hope the kids don't act like self centered ignorant twits that whole 10 years, it'll make it seem like 100 (did I mention that we have two teenagers and two tweens who act worse than the teenagers? :sad: :sad: :laugh: :laugh: ))

I love some of the funny quips. I have to do a matron of honor speech and I may steal one or two for it!

Breckgirl

I have a gift that I give to all newlyweds and you could do this too. Get two boxes, put 150 sheets of stationary, 50 envelopes, and an ink pen in each box. Now when I give this as a gift I make the box sonething special but any box will do. On your wedding day and every anniversary after, write each other a letter telling them how you feel about the previous year you spent with them. You can recap happy times, trying times, funny things, or things that they may not have even known about (like every morning when my husband left for work he kissed me goodbye and told me he loved me, when he was gone I asked God to keep him safe and watch over him, I never told him that but I would put it in the letter). When you have the letters written put them in an envelope and seal it, put the year on the front of the envelope and put it in the box. DO NOT GIVE THE LETTER TO YOUR SPOUCE! Write the letters every year and on your 50th anniversary give each other the leters to read. Also, if it looks like you are seriously going to get a divorce, read the letters. It may help you remember what you ment to each other through the years and change your minds.

Good Luck and love each other deeply.