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awonin

Hang in there you are doing what's good for you! My husband is usually very supportive but just doesn't get how to cook healthier. When's it's his turn to cook sometimes I just have to eat something else. He gets a little offended by that. Just saying you are making better food choices has worked better for me with my family since then they don't pick on me when I have dessert (abouit once a week). I do consider it a lifestyle change not a diet. It's difficult enough to convince yourself you can do it without having other people undermine you. Don't compromise. I make healthy meals for my family and they can choose to eat what I cook or not ! The 7 year old doesn't always like this but she needs to be healthy too. You are only in control of yourself! Ignore them completely maybe they will come around. I support you and what you are doing.

glovepuppet

tell your hubby to buy his own snacks. you're not his slave.

tell your friend and your sister to shut up or get out. you're not their whipping boy.

from the sounds of it, everyone is well used to walking all over you.
nobody is going to start respecting you until you start standing your ground and refusing to take sh**.

Xhell_on_heelsX

Hate to say it, but you have to learn to ignore these people. I am constantly surrounded by the same people..co workers try to push me to eat unhealthy things and constantly are drinking soda and eating candy throughout the day. Even though they try to knock me down and make smart remarks about me not eating unhealthy with them, I have learned to shut them out and know that I am much better off eating the way I have been doing the last couple months to help me lose 15 pounds. Hope things get better for you hun :flowerforyou:

PrincessLaundry

I don't know how or if this will help...But...

We think you are awesome and smexy... What else is there?

survivor1952

Who does the grocery shopping? If you do just be sure not to buy any junk and maybe your good eating habits will rub off on your husband.

I actually tried that he pouted for an hour cause I didn't get him anything. I came home with $100 worth of snacks it was just healthy stuff not chips and cookies and such. I ended up getting sent back. I did get him to eat a turkey burger but he pouted the whole time.

YOU got sent back to grocery store??? I am guessing he has 2 arms & legs that work...if he wants different food, he can shop, he can cook. Sounds like you have him spoiled. I used to tell my kids, this is what I made, eat it (or at least try it) this is what the meal is!
Also, you need to try to get a new mind set. People can only sabotage us if we let them. If you are on a good, healthy progran (never say diet!!!) stick to it. If someone tried to criticize you & what your choices are, ignore them or flat out tell them - I am doing this for good health & to live long.

rebbylicious

rather than looking at what you "cant' eat" (restrictive thinking) Look at your "good choices". The more often you note to yourself your good choices, you are creating positive self talk and an addiction to feeling good.
Then you will eventually have a mindset of ... "temptations?... BRING IT" If you can get through this, you can get through a lot.
Maybe your husband feels guilty about not changing and the second you stop, it takes away his guilt. (he is probably not doing it to purposely be mean)

Don't focus on the lack of support and focus on the positive decisions/good choices. Remember, you don't need anyone else's permission to change.

Roadkatt

A lot of good advice here. Don't let your family and friends hold you back from being healthy. If they want diabetes and high blood pressure then let 'em at it but tell them to prepare to be seeing me and those like me- I'm a nurse, I work with kidney transplants, and most of my patients are large, diabetic and have high blood pressure.

I also agree with the many that said to stand up for yourself. If he doesn't like what you bought at the store then he can get his butt to the store and buy his own. Find a cupboard you don't get into often and make him put his snacks there so you don't have to look at them all the time. One day he'll wake up and notice your energy and healthy-ness. Reminds me of a commercial for jazzercise that was out many years ago. The woman was going to classes and her husband was snacking in front of the tv. As she got healthier and gained more energy he got more tired and unhealthy. By the end of the commercial he was looking at her as she zipped out the door for girl's night out looking good with a look on his face that said 'hey wait- what?'.

Keep focused and don't let them bring you down!

Lyn

Leslietheriot

I went through the same thing at home. No support whatsoever. I had to say *kitten* IT...I am doing this for ME and only ME! Let them say and do whatever they want...let them eat whatever they want. It used to piss me off when I sat at home and ate a salad and my hubby would bring home something from a fast food joint. I don't let it bother me anymore. *kitten* them and their nasty remarks and their nasty way of eating. Do this for YOU!!!

BTW...feel free to send me a friend request...I will be supportive of your efforts.

notenoughspeed

Who does the grocery shopping? If you do just be sure not to buy any junk and maybe your good eating habits will rub off on your husband.

I actually tried that he pouted for an hour cause I didn't get him anything. I came home with $100 worth of snacks it was just healthy stuff not chips and cookies and such. I ended up getting sent back. I did get him to eat a turkey burger but he pouted the whole time.

Have you considered telling him to go to the store to get his junk food himself? If he wants it so bad, why doesn't he get it himself?