Dont like attention?

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  • SoDamnHungry
    SoDamnHungry Posts: 6,998 Member
    Well, if someone had brown hair and dyed it blonde, people would be like "Wow! Your hair is really blonde! You look great!" It doesn't mean they thought you looked bad when your hair was brown.

    Edit: Fixed typo.
  • Jennisin1
    Jennisin1 Posts: 574 Member
    I don't like it when it gets to the ... if you lose any more weight, you will disappear...

    other than that.. yeah, I know... I'm hot
  • HotAshMess
    HotAshMess Posts: 382 Member
    I hate it when people notice me for that. Not because I'm funny, work hard or have nice hair but because I'm fat, or I was fatter.
  • conniemaxwell5
    conniemaxwell5 Posts: 943 Member
    It's normal to be uncomfortable with attention when probably most of the attention you've had in the past was negative. Not because you looked horrible, but because people can be insensitive and mean. It's hard to trust positive attention at first. Try being open to it and simply saying thank you when you're paid a compliment. Don't try to read any more into it than it being a simple compliment. Again, people are insenstive and don't realize that sometimes even a compliment makes people uncomfortable or implies that you didn't look good before. If you just stay open and receive the compliments graciously, eventually you'll become more comfortable with the attention.

    I have no idea what you looked like before but I think you look good in your profile pic. You have a nice smile.
  • confetti_blind
    confetti_blind Posts: 91 Member
    Well, if someone had brown hair and dyed it blonde, people would be like "Wow! Your hair is really blonde! You look great!" It doesn't mean they thought you looked bad when your hair was brown.

    Edit: Fixed typo.

    Thank you, that's a really good way of looking at it. I am going to remind myself of this next time I get all embarrassed and upset when someone is actually only trying to be nice!
  • marygee1951
    marygee1951 Posts: 148 Member
    Robb - you've done a great job losing weight - congratulations on your success. People will get used to your new look. There will be awkward times, but be proud of yourself. Many people try to lose weight and are unsuccessful, and they don't like themselves for that. You've accomplished what they haven't been able to, so there's some hidden resentment there. Be proud of yourself - like Marines are proud of their accomplishments.

    I looked at the pictures on your profile. You were a good looking guy before - a "teddy-bear" good looking. Now you're a hot dude. I imagine the ladies are treating you differently now. Before, you were "safe" - someone they could talk to as a friend. Now you're "a hot dude" - more "boyfriend material" if you know what I mean. It's going to take some time to adjust. But enjoy the new you - now you can take off your shirt at the beach! :flowerforyou:

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