Unhelpful people.

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  • vivaldirules
    vivaldirules Posts: 169 Member
    No your not wrong because part of me stops and thinks - enjoy your fatty foods now because you may be slim now but your organs are crying out for healthy food.

    I'm glad you posted here where you'll find lots of positive support. And I'm also glad you have a positive attitude to persevere through other people's negative comments. They truly are not helpful and I, too, would encourage you to ignore the chatter from "outside". But you might also consider that those other people may also be hurting (or will be some day). As you say, their bodies eventually will be responding to their delusional habits. Perhaps you can help them, too, by pushing on and taking care of yourself....with a smile on your face. Best wishes to you!
  • kerryanneg88
    kerryanneg88 Posts: 10
    No your not wrong because part of me stops and thinks - enjoy your fatty foods now because you may be slim now but your organs are crying out for healthy food.

    I'm glad you posted here where you'll find lots of positive support. And I'm also glad you have a positive attitude to persevere through other people's negative comments. They truly are not helpful and I, too, would encourage you to ignore the chatter from "outside". But you might also consider that those other people may also be hurting (or will be some day). As you say, their bodies eventually will be responding to their delusional habits. Perhaps you can help them, too, by pushing on and taking care of yourself....with a smile on your face. Best wishes to you!

    Thank you for that - I read a quote once that said "what other people think is none of your business" I think I will be using this as my mantra from now on.
  • sjj3002
    sjj3002 Posts: 10
    You will find more Negative people then people who will cheer you up. Don't let their talks get to you. You are doing GREAT so far, keep up the good work. And above all, you are not doing it for them, you are doing it for yourself. :) And here at MFP, you will find true supportive friends who are fighting the same battle like you.
  • Dauntlessness
    Dauntlessness Posts: 1,489 Member
    What I did was I kept my head down and I didn't talk about it with anyone in my life other than my husband about it. I tend to jinx myself or sabotage myself when I feel pressure from others. I actually did it before I go on vaca next week. I gained like 5lbs back... Sigh.

    It took about 3 months for me to notice a big difference in my body because I wasn't looking for validation from others and time flew by. When you see yourself in the mirror every day you tend to not notice it until it hits you square in the face. I remember the day I looked down at my legs and arms and was like "what the? who is that?" I actually looked dainty! I was suddenly able to wear small necklaces and bracelets for the first time in my life.

    It will happen, just as everyone says "Don't do it for others, do it for yourself".
  • dad106
    dad106 Posts: 4,868 Member
    No your not wrong because part of me stops and thinks - enjoy your fatty foods now because you may be slim now but your organs are crying out for healthy food.

    Um, just because your skinny doesn't mean your unhealthy... and just because you eat healthy, doesn't mean you are. There are plenty of fit people on this site(myself included) who enjoy our "fatty foods"

    When I first read your post, I felt bad for you a bit, then I read that quoted part and it's clear you think that you are better then everyone else because you are dieting and they aren't.
  • kerryanneg88
    kerryanneg88 Posts: 10
    No your not wrong because part of me stops and thinks - enjoy your fatty foods now because you may be slim now but your organs are crying out for healthy food.

    Um, just because your skinny doesn't mean your unhealthy... and just because you eat healthy, doesn't mean you are. There are plenty of fit people on this site(myself included) who enjoy our "fatty foods"

    When I first read your post, I felt bad for you a bit, then I read that quoted part and it's clear you think that you are better then everyone else because you are dieting and they aren't.

    Actually I don' t think I am better than everyone else - but hey if its the only way I can get through a day of people sitting opposite me eating things dripping with fat ON PURPOSE to annoy me because they know its food I would have enjoyed happily six weeks ago - then that's how I am going to get through it.

    I don't need any one to feel bad for me - I need people to share their stories of unhelpful people so I know its not just me.

    Oh and feeling better than everyone else because I am dieting - actually you are so wrong I feel ashamed every day that I allowed myself to HAVE to diet.
  • ChristineS_51
    ChristineS_51 Posts: 872 Member
    I lost about 10 kilos before anyone noticed. I told a friend when I had lost about 5 kilos and she said she couldn't see it, which was depressing, but I could see and feel it. Now people tell me all the time and it's great :smile:

    I think it's probably better not to tell too many people, because some people will try and sabotage you, or start watching you like a hawk every time you pick up food etc.

    So just make your good choices, get some exercise, and lose weight for you. Gret that your partner is so supportive :smile:
  • KBGAgent
    KBGAgent Posts: 165 Member
    I have to say that most people did NOT notice my early weight loss. From 205 pounds down to 180, only my mom and a handful of ppl noticed. Then when I dropped to the 170s more people noticed. I went out last month and bought clothes that fit, now lots of ppl notice.
  • MaraDiaz
    MaraDiaz Posts: 4,604 Member
    It also depends on the clothes you wear. Lots of plus size clothing is cleverly designed to hide us and some of it does a very good job. It hides weight but that means it also hides weight loss.
  • RllyGudTweetr
    RllyGudTweetr Posts: 2,019 Member
    Most folks I know still don't see a difference in my size, just a difference in how I'm choosing to eat. That's fine; I'm not doing this for most folks I know.

    Let the folks who don't matter to your journey to a healthier you not matter.
  • dayr1993
    dayr1993 Posts: 102 Member
    It depends on your weight etc if I put on half a stone my mum is the first one to go hi porky yet when she looses/ puts on a stone its not noticeable because sh3 has a way to go but that stone is still the start of her journey so its all worth it and when you start wearimg smaller clothes ans look hot as hell they are the people you stivk your middle finger up to becauee they doubted you in the firsr place :)
  • supergirl6
    supergirl6 Posts: 224 Member
    Unhelpful people are so annoying. I have a lot of those at work, but I think it's mostly because I make them too aware of how much they are not doing. I try to ignore them.

    To answer your other question, when I started I took front and side pictures every week on my weigh in day. I wore about the same clothes that were a little tight so I could see all the bumps and bulges and shapes. Doing this has allowed me to see EXACTLY where it's coming off each week. Some days I look at myself in the mirror and it doesn't seem like I've lost over 30 lbs, but I can see it in my waist and hips especially, in my arms and back too when I look at the first week pictures and the current week pictures. I can go - OMG look at my arm! Is that a muscle I see?!?! I strongly recommend this process, especially if you work out. The pictures are a lot more motivating than scale losses.

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