My partner is a bad influence!

kerryradz

Hi Guys,
I'm finding it hard to stay on track recently as my partner has been suggesting a takeout or going out for a meal, and lets face it i'm not going to complain about having a night off doing the cooking! I've managed to resist most times but last night I couldn't resist the take out pizza, because I just LOVE PIZZA! I went for the healthiest version however it would still be extremely calorific due to the amount of cheese on it and most certainly put me over my daily limit. Just wanted to know if anyone else is in the same boat? or had any advice? To be fair he is usually very supported but that one lapse has got me feeling really disappointed with myself! :ohwell:

bordercolliemad2008

This i can help out with!
i was in a very simular situation me and my boyfriend always had bad food and he was always making bad food suggestions and twisting my arm ( not that he had to twist it very far ) but after eating it i felt like crap and was very down about my body and it was affecting me a lot and i couldnt understand why he was making this so hard for me but then i realised i hadnt sat him down and had a REAL talk with him about it and i had to do the thing i hate and open up to him about how ive lost all confidence in my body and how it was really effecting me, i basically told him i am being dead serious and i need his support and to not tempt me,

Once he saw i ment it and it really was affecting my life hes been on bored ever since! he has even joined me and we havnt had a take away in 15 days which for us is honestly amazing! so much easier having him on side

so my advice sit him down and just tell him everything, open up and be deadly serious. Also try and work on your own will power so when he does maybe put in naughty suggestions your able to say no and stick to it you will feel much better for it afterwards.

Good Luck!!

durshley

My boyfriend isn't exactly on board with my weight loss but I cook all of our meals, and just add in things he likes. Like I made a veggie omelette yesterday and his half had sausages in it :P If he suggests a takeaway just say NO! Prepare for meals during the week so you feel obliged to use fresh ingredients before they go off and not go for the easy, unhealthy options.
If you do end up eating out there are a fair few restaurant chains that have low calorie/healthy options which you can usually research online.

kerryradz

This i can help out with!
i was in a very simular situation me and my boyfriend always had bad food and he was always making bad food suggestions and twisting my arm ( not that he had to twist it very far ) but after eating it i felt like crap and was very down about my body and it was affecting me a lot and i couldnt understand why he was making this so hard for me but then i realised i hadnt sat him down and had a REAL talk with him about it and i had to do the thing i hate and open up to him about how ive lost all confidence in my body and how it was really effecting me, i basically told him i am being dead serious and i need his support and to not tempt me,

Once he saw i ment it and it really was affecting my life hes been on bored ever since! he has even joined me and we havnt had a take away in 15 days which for us is honestly amazing! so much easier having him on side

so my advice sit him down and just tell him everything, open up and be deadly serious. Also try and work on your own will power so when he does maybe put in naughty suggestions your able to say no and stick to it you will feel much better for it afterwards.

Good Luck!!

I'm completely the same with the lost all confidence thing, since i've been with him we've got into bad eating habits and i've put on over a stone!....he's a chocoholic and always buys treats so we have it in the house. Thanks for your advice, i'll try talking to him tonight. *fingers crossed*

kerryradz

My boyfriend isn't exactly on board with my weight loss but I cook all of our meals, and just add in things he likes. Like I made a veggie omelette yesterday and his half had sausages in it :P If he suggests a takeaway just say NO! Prepare for meals during the week so you feel obliged to use fresh ingredients before they go off and not go for the easy, unhealthy options.
If you do end up eating out there are a fair few restaurant chains that have low calorie/healthy options which you can usually research online.

Hey, yeah I do the same with my other half. I cook healthy foods and add a little extra something for him. Definitely got to say NO to the takeouts, thanks.

timberowl

I'm the exact same way! My live in bf can eat whatever he wants and still looks like a swimsuit model. I take one look at a slice of pizza and gain 5 lbs. He's supportive, but also oblivious when he says on Friday night "wanna go out to Mellow Mushroom?"

I'm not going to argue against pizza or beer either!

But then it undoes the progress I made all week.

timberowl

This i can help out with!
i was in a very simular situation me and my boyfriend always had bad food and he was always making bad food suggestions and twisting my arm ( not that he had to twist it very far ) but after eating it i felt like crap and was very down about my body and it was affecting me a lot and i couldnt understand why he was making this so hard for me but then i realised i hadnt sat him down and had a REAL talk with him about it and i had to do the thing i hate and open up to him about how ive lost all confidence in my body and how it was really effecting me, i basically told him i am being dead serious and i need his support and to not tempt me,

Once he saw i ment it and it really was affecting my life hes been on bored ever since! he has even joined me and we havnt had a take away in 15 days which for us is honestly amazing! so much easier having him on side

so my advice sit him down and just tell him everything, open up and be deadly serious. Also try and work on your own will power so when he does maybe put in naughty suggestions your able to say no and stick to it you will feel much better for it afterwards.

Good Luck!!

I agree about letting them know you're serious. I've thrown food away right in front of him before when he insisted I eat it. Right in the garbage can, still hot.

kerryradz

I'm the exact same way! My live in bf can eat whatever he wants and still looks like a swimsuit model. I take one look at a slice of pizza and gain 5 lbs. He's supportive, but also oblivious when he says on Friday night "wanna go out to Mellow Mushroom?"

I'm not going to argue against pizza or beer either!

But then it undoes the progress I made all week.

I'm a beer lover too! I've not drunk for 4-5 weeks now though, couldn't believe how many cals were in our Friday night takeout & beers!

sarahsunshine1217

I have been on my journey for 10 weeks now. My fiance and I love food cheese, potatos and all kinds of bad stuff. I realize that I cannot make him change just because I decided to change but hope that he will get inspired by me. When he is craving something for dinner I just tell him to get whatever he wants and I have back up meals for myself (Lean Cuisines). He feels guilty even though I dont care and tries to cook dinner that I can eat too. He can eat whatever he wants but its awesome that he is trying to help even though hey may be eating horrible while I am at work lol. I feel too crappy after eating something bad anyway so it is just not worth it. It is possible though, I have lost 45 lbs Hang in there!

XXXMinnieXXX

This is tough and there will be of times you cave! I think having a talk with him is a good idea to. Atleast he may calm it down a little! It's important to remember they can have things you can't and you'll have to resist, but all him to buy a single serving nah so your not tempted by it. You could also have a date night every few weeks where take away is allowed, as part if the date day you have to do something active too. Win / win.

Zara :-)

ggxx100

Oh, Mellow Mushroom is my favorite...

And safe to say, my boyfriend shovels down more food than anyone I know, even more so when he's trying to gain more mass and upping the weights. Some favorites are the aforementioned pizza, ribs, and taco's...We've also been known to have Cinnabon buns around the house (guilty).

You could approach this two ways:
Talk to your partner and get him on board. If you can make healthy choices together, that's amazing! Tell him how frustrating it is, and how you need support.

The second way, is stick to eating healthy anyway. This is hard, but not impossible. I lost 50 pounds living in a house full of nutella, pasta, pizza and bacon. Do I eat it all the time? No. Does it bother me? Not at all. When we weren't eating the same meals, he'd feel guilty, but I told him to eat what he wanted without being conscious of me. I learned to have anything going on around me and not let it affect my habits. I do let myself have anything I want, but I choose not to for my health. Nothing is forbidden, but you don't have to give in and binge. We also go to get our weekly ice cream fix. However, it's from the best ice cream shop on the east coast...none of that skinny cow business..when I indulge, I don't go for substitutes.

We've thankfully found a healthy balance. He'll still overload on bacon and pancakes in the morning, (Won't force down my green smoothie), but we've learned to love cooking in the kitchen together and sharing dinner. I up the calories on his plate with bigger portion sizes, and by cooking with more coconut oil and adding avocados, etc. He'll have a 1lb of steak while I have 6-7oz, so no need to cook twice Also, nothing like a good homemade pizza.