how does one motivate by "tough love" on this site?
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It is not allowed under the rules and guidelines. We must instead take a coddling approach to motivation.0
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It is not allowed under the rules and guidelines. We must instead take a coddling approach to motivation.
I read that as cuddling...0 -
It is not allowed under the rules and guidelines. We must instead take a coddling approach to motivation.
I read that as cuddling...
I'll be glad to do that as well. Do you need me to help you with your issues......0 -
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noob. STFU and stop making stupid threads.
Thats your motivation by tough love daddio taunto
ETA: mods, noob and I are friends and this is just me kidding with him0 -
You know, noob, I’m sick of your crap. Either do it or don’t, but I’m FED UP with hearing about it.
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there, is that right? :flowerforyou:0 -
Someone is bored today . . .
I need to go work out0 -
meh.
i've read better threads.
try harder next time.
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Do or don't do, there is no try.
That's as tough as I get. Sorry...0 -
It is not allowed under the rules and guidelines. We must instead take a coddling approach to motivation.
I read that as cuddling...
I'll be glad to do that as well. Do you need me to help you with your issues......
Scratch my last post, I'm in for cuddling!!
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It is not allowed under the rules and guidelines. We must instead take a coddling approach to motivation.
I read that as cuddling...
I'll be glad to do that as well. Do you need me to help you with your issues......
Oh Jac!! Looking sexy!0 -
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With the iron rod of truth.0
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Tough love isn't going to motivate someone to lose weight or get in shape. That motivation can only come from within. Until someone has internal motivation, you can yell, scream, and berate all you want, and it will fall on deaf ears.
It's better to simply tell someone that when they are ready to change, you'll be there to offer support. Then let them be.0 -
It is not allowed under the rules and guidelines. We must instead take a coddling approach to motivation.
I read that as cuddling...
I'll be glad to do that as well. Do you need me to help you with your issues......
Cuddle party?0 -
It is not allowed under the rules and guidelines. We must instead take a coddling approach to motivation.
I read that as cuddling...
I'll be glad to do that as well. Do you need me to help you with your issues......
wondering if I can slip into Jac's pool. It's awfully hot today...0 -
You know, noob, I’m sick of your crap. Either do it or don’t, but I’m FED UP with hearing about it.
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there, is that right?
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Tough love isn't going to motivate someone to lose weight or get in shape. That motivation can only come from within. Until someone has internal motivation, you can yell, scream, and berate all you want, and it will fall on deaf ears.
It's better to simply tell someone that when they are ready to change, you'll be there to offer support. Then let them be.
I think this thread was posted as a joke but I like your response...personally I don't feel the need to give "tough love" (which often shows up in the form of snarky remarks or nastiness via internet speak) to anyone...0 -
Fine line between tough love and ... sexual assault0
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Tough love isn't going to motivate someone to lose weight or get in shape. That motivation can only come from within. Until someone has internal motivation, you can yell, scream, and berate all you want, and it will fall on deaf ears.
It's better to simply tell someone that when they are ready to change, you'll be there to offer support. Then let them be.
I get motivated by people telling me I can't do something...0 -
Tough love isn't going to motivate someone to lose weight or get in shape. That motivation can only come from within. Until someone has internal motivation, you can yell, scream, and berate all you want, and it will fall on deaf ears.
It's better to simply tell someone that when they are ready to change, you'll be there to offer support. Then let them be.
I agree with this. However, it is a reasonable assumption to make that all of us are here because we are ready to change in some way, so, "tough love" is not unacceptable to me.
Unfortunately, most "tough love" posts here inevitably bleed into one of the following categories:
"do what I say or you're never going to succeed"
"this site is not for support so suck it up and do everything on your own"
"you're doing it wrong in every way, stop that now."
Real "tough love" doesn't shy away from criticism. But it also encourages people to do their best in the same tone and shows them how success is a real, tangible thing that can be achieved if they start believing in themselves and setting manageable goals. It gives people reasonable ways both to succeed and keep themselves motivated, and deters them from trying to tackle too much at once and getting frustrated, or setting their expectations too high and feeling like a failure.
Edited to remove the run-on from hell.0 -
To me tough love is honesty and quite frankly the majority of us fatties have the hardest time with honesty... We lie to ourselves constantly and yet we get so upset when someone tries to tell us the truth.
Get over yourself.
Is that tough love ?0 -
was going to write something but i think ive been warned too many times...carry on0
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noob. STFU and stop making stupid threads.
Thats your motivation by tough love daddio taunto
ETA: mods, noob and I are friends and this is just me kidding with him
I have no idea who this individual is, but I am very unoffended by his post.0 -
I'll show ya0 -
Tough love isn't going to motivate someone to lose weight or get in shape. That motivation can only come from within. Until someone has internal motivation, you can yell, scream, and berate all you want, and it will fall on deaf ears.
It's better to simply tell someone that when they are ready to change, you'll be there to offer support. Then let them be.
I get motivated by people telling me I can't do something...
This, and my trainer knows it.0 -
To me tough love is honesty and quite frankly the majority of us fatties have the hardest time with honesty... We lie to ourselves constantly and yet we get so upset when someone tries to tell us the truth.
Get over yourself.
Is that tough love ?
But then you have the problem with that logic being taken to an extreme, where suddenly "the truth" becomes anything that can be verified with facts, even if that message is wrapped up in nastiness instead of encouragement. And yeah, that's going to offend some people.
That, to me at least, is not "tough love"; often that is someone getting on their high horse and being condescending or trying to prove how knowledgeable they are instead of genuinely trying to help or motivate people.0 -
To me tough love is honesty and quite frankly the majority of us fatties have the hardest time with honesty... We lie to ourselves constantly and yet we get so upset when someone tries to tell us the truth.
Get over yourself.
Is that tough love ?
But then you have the problem with that logic being taken to an extreme, where suddenly "the truth" becomes anything that can be verified with facts, even if that message is wrapped up in nastiness instead of encouragement. And yeah, that's going to offend some people.
That, to me at least, is not "tough love"; often that is someone getting on their high horse and being condescending or trying to prove how knowledgeable they are instead of genuinely trying to help or motivate people.
The day my life changed was when my doctor (nurse practitioner) was standing there talking to me about my balance disorder I was experiencing and basically just said "you are a rather blunt person, do you mind if I am blunt right now"
I swallowed some air and said go ahead
"Mike you are fat. You are 370 lbs today, you will die very young if you do not fix this"
I was originally annoyed... How dare her.
But wow... Lost 100 lbs and my balance disorder disappeared
I thank her for the blunt honesty and she just said it was not just honesty it was "tough love"
I like that sort of tough love0 -
It is not allowed under the rules and guidelines. We must instead take a coddling approach to motivation.
I've received tough love on here and appreciate it!0
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