So sick of restarting

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  • cbkirkman
    cbkirkman Posts: 1
    Hi there -

    Thought I would reply to your post. One thing I've found that's super helpful is to have some accountability with someone. It can be a trainer, a friend, whatever, but someone who helps you keep on track. Tough love. I know I need to see some results every week or I get very frustrated, when probably your body is changing but you can't see it. Then the junk food creeps in and you go off the wagon. Forgive yourself, hop back on, and find someone to check in with once a week so you can stick to it. Also, make sure you measure and weigh yourself so you can see the progress! It really helps when you're down to the last bit. That's where I'm at and it's a pain!

    Good luck!

    Cindy
  • theCarlton
    theCarlton Posts: 1,344 Member
    Then, quit giving up so easily! It wasn't easy for any of us.
  • auteurfille22
    auteurfille22 Posts: 251 Member
    I was expecting 20 pages of this...

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    Literally I was JUST about to post this picture too!
  • TylerJ76
    TylerJ76 Posts: 4,375 Member
    Then, quit giving up so easily! It wasn't easy for any of us.

    That's silly.

    Your brain must only be halfway developed

    :tongue:
  • endoftheside
    endoftheside Posts: 568 Member
    Try baby steps. Pick something you KNOW you can do. When I started, I rebelled hard at first, but my first baby step was logging and I dutifully logged the thousands of calories of crap I ate for a few days while the toddler in me threw its tantrum.

    Maybe try looking at what your TDEE will be at your goal weight and eating that. If you can't do that every day indefinitely you aren't ready to commit to the whole shebang. Maybe try committing to your TDEE at your current weight. Pick something, something you know YOU CAN DO, and DO IT!!
  • Dr_Waffles
    Dr_Waffles Posts: 141 Member
    It's funny reading through some of these threads. Some comments are so harsh, but realistic. Now I don't feel so bad for thinking what I was thinking.

    That aside, I'll add my two cents.

    I never started, I just changed direction. Still eat cookies and and go out to eat, but I also stay within my daily goals. Not that hard if you have the mind to do it.
  • SherryTeach
    SherryTeach Posts: 2,836 Member
    Forget about all the ignorance posted here.....their brains havent fully developed to their full potential.


    Im in the same boat as you...so I can relate. Its not that we dont want it bad enough; we do. Its something else going on inside our brains that causes us to give into this type of behavior.


    Add me for support :flowerforyou:

    So, everyone else's brain isn't fully developed, but yours isn't functioning properly? :huh:

    Exactly. I'm going out on a limb and adding that WHEN you want this bad enough - YOU WILL DO IT. It has nothing to do with your brain malfunctioning or ignorance. It has to do with wanting one thing more than you want another. No one else can help you find that.

    That is absolutely it. When you want a healthy, fit life more than you want chicken fingers, you will take the time to arrange your daily life whereby you won't run into chicken fingers. Yes, I spend a lot more time shopping and cooking and packing little containers of food for myself, but the pay off is that I don't crave food that isn't good for me and I have a lot of satisfaction in having met my goal and maintained it.
  • lovechattys
    lovechattys Posts: 65 Member
    I went through the starting and stopping. It wasn't I didn't want it bad enough (cause I did and still do). I just was going about it the wrong way. If I had a bad day, full of bad choices...that was it I had failed so I gave up. I finally realized I didn't have to just because I made a bad choice. The next meal is always an opportunity to make a healthy choice. And hell I still have pizza and ice cream, I just log it. I am not giving up all the things I love (chocolate, never giving it up). I just try to stay under my calorie goal most days. I move more. I eat less. That is what I gotta keep doing. I no longer beat myself up. I embrace everyday (every meal) as a new opportunity to do what I need to for my health. And its working. Three months and still here still working it. The weight is still coming off (although some weeks are better than others).

    Stop kicking yourself and make the changes one at a time. You will be able to stick to it better. Give yourself smaller goals so you can celebrate your victories.
  • Crochetluvr
    Crochetluvr Posts: 3,320 Member
    I have had to be my own motivator. I don't have anyone to take the food out of my hand and smack me. I agree with not wanting it enough. I have spent many years not wanting it enough. This time its different. I put blinders on and I have only looked ahead of me.
  • JoanB5
    JoanB5 Posts: 610 Member
    This news story got me kick-started. http://www.pubsub.com/weight-loss-AHA-moment_CNN-dFoXk5Zkw90,lwJSGan6WZqE

    People like this are my heroes. The article just left me with no excuses somehow. And I committed that I could walk at least 15 minutes a day, no excuses. Now, I can run for 30, four months later. I can run a 5K to support kids with cancer who can't run.

    I can burn 400 calories in a workout session. I can control my eating. I keep my choices with me so that I'm not tempted by other's choices and I try to eat alone as much as possible so that it's not an issue. I'm just not that strong yet.

    I've learned there are such good foods out there that fried foods and many desserts aren't worth it. I know it takes me about a mile to earn 70 calories or so. It's just not worth it. I remember the cost.

    I am almost at goal after four months and still set my calories just low enough that I have to earn the last 200-300 calories if I want them bad enough. It may not be the best way, but it's what is working for me until those habits are more fully engrained.

    Read Prevention magazine. Inspire yourself. Read better recipe books. Go grocery shopping, just for you. Prepare yourself treats you can enjoy when others are making different choices. I really hope this works for you...it's too much effort to waste it.
  • ILiftHeavyAcrylics
    ILiftHeavyAcrylics Posts: 27,732 Member
    I find that commitment is much better than motivation. Motivation is fickle. You have to make it something that you just do. It's not up for debate, this is just how it is. At least that's what works for me.
  • nikilis
    nikilis Posts: 2,305 Member
    yah, its not you, its just sabotage.

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  • iggyboo93
    iggyboo93 Posts: 524 Member
    Not sure if this is something that may help but I eased into trying to be under my caloric intake and exercise. Logging everything, I started with a good / healthy / low cal breakfast - the rest of the day may be a failure but I started with a good breakfast. Then I would have a good breakfast and good lunch. After conquering the first two meals, I conquered dinner and would remain under my MFP caloric intake. One benefit was that I was able to clean out my pantry without throwing food out - that's such a waste. There were horrible days but there were good days. Then I started exercising - I'm just currently walking 30 minutes at 3 mph. I'll be adding weights soon. Sure there are bad days but restarting is pretty easy. I've restarted enough to last many lifetimes - the change this time is that my 8 year old told me that she didn't want me to die of a heart attack - that was the "moment" for me. So I'm clawing my way back to my original starting weight. It's OK - I know I will get there.

    Long story short - this slow entry into a healthier lifestyle worked for me - you just have to find what works for you so that restarting isn't a regular occurrence.

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