Serious question about sibling and my father's war patches

wineroom
wineroom Posts: 12 Member
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Seriously I would like an unbiased opinion on this. If I am wrong I would like to know. My father was a war hero of sorts...a ww2 pilot and when he got out of service he tore off his patches from his leather jacket and brought them home. They were never displayed but my brother and I would get them out often as kids and look at them. And play "war" and pretend we were on missions with the patches .I always wanted them and my father gave them to me. He lived with me for 9 years and I was his caregiver. He was also a "father" to my two sons who adored him. At one point I mentioned to my brother and sister that I wanted his patches and they responded that they had no interest sin the patches.

So when I dad died I arranged to have him buried at Arlington. We also had a small memorial here in my small town. When the community heard that I had a "blood chit" and other patches that I was displaying....suddenly my sister (brother is dead) wants some of the patches. (I have them displayed in a glass box on my wall and intend to leave them to my sons.)When I said "you never showed any interest in them" and told her dad gave them to me...she responded that that was only because she never asked him for them. Anyway...two years later...here she goes again asking me for some of the patches again! She gets very cold and distant when she doesn't get her way and I am really discussed with her asking me again. I am very ill right now and getting chemo right now...but even if I was we'll...I would not give her the patches. Hey am I wrong. Sorry this is so long but it is along involved story and I am sticking to the raw facts.

Thanks, If I am wrong I will break up the set and give her some patches OR....donate the whole set to Wright Patterson or the Air and Space exhibit in Washington

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  • nekomeishi
    nekomeishi Posts: 11
    If you know what unit the patches represent, there are likely to be patches available on ebay for not a lot of money. Not a perfect solution, but you wouldn't have to split up the set you've put together, she would have a patch, and perhaps a better attitude. My 2 cents.
  • goldied01
    goldied01 Posts: 149 Member
    It's funny how siblings change their mind when mom and dad pass.
    If you want to donate them, do it. If you want to keep them. Same. Don't feel bad. If
    she wants his patches, she can go on line and buy some just like his. My son was
    able to get my father-in-laws medals from WWII, so she shouldn't have much trouble.
    Don't let her get the best of you.
  • caly_man
    caly_man Posts: 281 Member
    yup, buy the same patches so she can have the same collection and you keep the originals.
  • wineroom
    wineroom Posts: 12 Member
    I can't thank you enough or your reply. She can really mess with my head. I handled both my parents estates...lost three jobs taking ca of my dad and never a thank you from her. Also she ignored my mother's last wishes on distribution. Not like ther was anything is these estates but their wishes should be honored.

    Thank you, I was ready to give in to get her off my back.

    Thank you sincerEly

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