social etiquette poll
bearkisses
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wearing the colors of the wedding party, when you are not included in the wedding party but only a guest
appropriate or not?
appropriate or not?
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was this friend included on the wedding at all?0
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as long as you arent wearing the same colour as the bride then I dont see the problem.0
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was this friend included on the wedding at all?
just as an invited guest.
there isn't even a wedding anymore.
long version of the story:
partner and i were going to have a big wedding. she was invited as a guest ONLY. our colors and wedding party were chosen.
THEN we decided to only do immediate family and our 2 closest friends as a maid of honour and best man.
MIL is throwing us a jack and jill (which is a coshower for those not in the know), and using the same colors as our wedding.
friend texted me asking me if there were colors, cause she wanted to go shop for a dress. i told her i didn't know, because i am not the one planning it.
she contacted my MIL....asked her...then went out and bought the dress in our colors, and had her partner buy a dress shirt in our colors. WHEN MY FIANCE IS NOT EVEN WEARING THOSE COLORS!
i wanted to stand out, super bummed, and just find it rude. me and my girl were gonna be the only ones dressed in the colors.
first world problems, but still a super annoying bum out.0 -
AND i am certain she bought one of the dresses i wanted, but my maid of honour didn't love me in it so we moved on.0
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im sure it was all done in good intentions.0
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probably, but still majorly annoyed. our colours are light green and black...and she literally bought a light green dress, with a big black belt on it....................you don't see green dresses everyday. i will suck it up soon....but i don't even want people mistaking her for someone that is included in this process. i just wanted her to be a guest and enjoy herself. and definiately not show me up.im sure it was all done in good intentions.0 -
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IMO: Only if it is similar enough in style that you could be mistaken for one of the wedding party.0
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Breathe and move on. You could never have guaranteed that you would be the only one in those colours - people could have co-incidentally got outfits in the colours you chose.
You will stand out plenty 'cos you're the bride - you don't need any more distinction than that! It's already all about you.
And remember, a wedding and all the drama that goes with it is a blib in the rest of your lives together. That's the important bit!0 -
IMO: Only if it is similar enough in style that you could be mistaken for one of the wedding party.
it is. she described it to a t
it is one of the dresses i tried on and loved
i hate her right now....shows how shallow wedding planning can make you. i honestly don't give a **** otherwise. but something in me wanted to look the best, and everyone just show up and be themselves.0 -
Breathe and move on. You could never have guaranteed that you would be the only one in those colours - people could have co-incidentally got outfits in the colours you chose.
You will stand out plenty 'cos you're the bride - you don't need any more distinction than that! It's already all about you.
And remember, a wedding and all the drama that goes with it is a blib in the rest of your lives together. That's the important bit!
this is what i needed. thank you
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Edited to say I just read the comments. I agree with the person who said breathe and move on... all kinds of things happen at weddings. And by the way, congratulations!0
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Awww my Dads wife turned up in a white dress on my wedding day! and it was probably more expensive than mine lol. wasn't amused at the time though! But bigger things to sweat over these days, besides more of a reflection on their own needs to fit in or stand out.
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Awww my Dads wife turned up in a white dress on my wedding day! and it was probably more expensive than mine lol. wasn't amused at the time though! But bigger things to sweat over these days, besides more of a reflection on their own needs to fit in or stand out.
i have seen that happen before. honestly, they look so ridiculous! one of my friends that got married, her mother in law wore a white gown...with a veil! she was so pissed and i reminded her that she just looks crazy, even in the pictures!
i couldn't believe she even had her partner buy a green dress shirt. i am honestly astounded. it isn't about them. and this girl normally competes with me also...i just find it absurdly annoying.0 -
Just to clarify, You're the bride and you're wearing green & black?
A wedding guest at my wedding wore a white dress, I thought she was a *kitten*.0 -
Just to clarify, You're the bride and you're wearing green & black?
A wedding guest at my wedding wore a white dress, I thought she was a *kitten*.
yes. and it is not at the wedding (which none of these people are even invited to) it is at the jack and jill.
we are having a small wedding. and in lieu of, everyone wanted to have a party, so we are having a large jack and jill with food, music, and dancing. that is where.0 -
I didn't know this was a no-no. I just thought you couldn't wear white.0
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I didn't know this was a no-no. I just thought you couldn't wear white.
i don't think it is...but if it is planned. and both the couple show up wearing the colors to fit into the wedding party INTENTIONALLY....grrr.0 -
Just to clarify, You're the bride and you're wearing green & black?
A wedding guest at my wedding wore a white dress, I thought she was a *kitten*.
yes. and it is not at the wedding (which none of these people are even invited to) it is at the jack and jill.
we are having a small wedding. and in lieu of, everyone wanted to have a party, so we are having a large jack and jill with food, music, and dancing. that is where.
If you feel that strongly, change the colour scheme!0 -
Just to clarify, You're the bride and you're wearing green & black?
A wedding guest at my wedding wore a white dress, I thought she was a *kitten*.
yes. and it is not at the wedding (which none of these people are even invited to) it is at the jack and jill.
we are having a small wedding. and in lieu of, everyone wanted to have a party, so we are having a large jack and jill with food, music, and dancing. that is where.
If you feel that strongly, change the colour scheme!
omg, you are so clever! but i am not the one planning it, and i already bought my dress, so, meh. not as huge of a deal as that, but really really clever!!!0 -
You will already be the main attraction of the day, and I'm sure you'll look wonderful. No one can outshine you on your own day, so please don't worry. 0
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This thread is why I simply avoid weddings altogether.0
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This thread is why I simply avoid weddings altogether.
ikr. the price of being in love and wanting to get married. it is a major reason why we are having a small wedding now.0 -
how are you even coping with this travesty rn0
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If she's invited to your party I'm guessing you know her pretty well - give her a call and say you'd really appreciate it if she didn't wear green. Simple.0
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how are you even coping with this travesty rn
lol!!!!
i wouldn't have thought it was an issue either before. but now that i am in the bride shoes, i get it. people are just ****ing dumb.
i stopped trying to match people in elementary school.
i guess i will survive :glasses:0 -
you know she is going to compete anyway she can with you, take it as a compliment and laugh at her childishness if you must. Its not the wedding so not really a huge deal in the grand scheme of things.
Copying is the best form of flattery0 -
Ha ha yep defo their issue and others will see it for that, take it as a complement in a way she defo sounds like she wants to be you. Weddings etc can cause so much drama, two of my friends fell out over silly things and their weddings became quite competitive. Longterm friendship ended. Stress can do weird stuff to people. Enjoy the day, the rest of your lives ahead and believe me there will be bigger tests than this. I was glad we went away to do it away from all the expectations. My fondest memories are not of our wedding day but all the effort inbetween that makes it last. Good luck 0
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Have your small wedding, forget the party and take that money you save from not having it and use it as a partial down payment on the house or spend it on the honeymoon.
But seriously, who gives a crap what color a guest wears.
The party is for celebrating the fact that you AND your SO want to spend the rest of your lives together.0 -
Maybe she thinks that is what you are supposed to do? idk. One time at a wedding I went to, it said on the invites it was black tie. One woman on the groom's side of the family who did not like the wife showed up in a bright red salsa dress. *****. lol0
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