Did you/Do you get offended?

gym_king_carlie

When you may have been interested in someone in the past but they didn't take you up because they didn't find you attractive?

but months/years later they are now interested now your on a roll or hit your goal?

do you lose interest? Ive had a lot of mixed opinions via facebook, but the majority of the responses were from people who never have been in this situation, Id imagine a fair few MFP'ers would have been in this or a similar scenario

me personally, as shallow as it sounds, I wouldn't be offended, I wouldn't date me or love me so why should they? that's just my view on it. but some are adamant that they wouldn't even be friends with these people after the success.

hope it makes sense, I hope my grammar doesn't bother you, I had a Hull Education, that's my excuse lol

diodelcibo

Nope doesn't offend me , this whole if you didn't want me at my worst then you can't have me at my best ideology is stupid.

gym_king_carlie

Nope doesn't offend me , this whole if you didn't want me at my worst then you can't have me at my best ideology is stupid.

that's how I look at it pal, couldn't put it better

khall86790

It doesn't offend me no. There has been one or 2 people who have come forward since I've lost weight who were particularly nasty or just treated me badly who I choose to snub but I would have done that regardless.
I personally find it quite flattering, but as a victory for myself, I would never then go and date/be involved with that person.

gym_king_carlie

that's fair enough, there's no need for nastiness or been mean to someone your not attracted to, I wouldn't want to be involved with people who treat me bad neither so I'm sure the self victory was very satisfying :-)

Mommylicous

I think it depends on how they treated you. In high school, there was a guy who was really mean to me, that I didn't like at all.. After I lost a lot of weight, he was suddenly really interested in me and practically beating down my door. At first I was flattered, but then I remembered how he treated me and I lost interest, FAST.

However, my husband was very kind to me in high school. Made me feel really, really great about myself even though we weren't really friends. I flirted a lot with him, and he was kind to me, but nothing ever came of it.

About 4 years after we graduated, we found one another again and hit it off. I don't know if it was because I lost a lot of weight from high school, or if we had just grown up.. But things fell into place for us. Obviously, seeing as we're married with a 2 year old lol.

emyishardcore

Personally I just would never be able to be interested in someone who treated me badly at my worst and then changes their mind when I'm at my best. But I would probably be flattered because a compliment is a compliment.

MorgueBabe

Nope, people are shallow.

Vain_Witch

I had a similar situation back in my early 20s. But, I think my negative reaction was more to the fact that he was an *kitten* in high school and still seemed to be one. I had lost a lot of weight since high school and he started acting very interested in me. He started hitting on me at the bar one night and it went something like this:

Him: I always thought you were a know-it-all back in school.
Me: I always thought you were a self absorbed *kitten*.
Him: Wow, I was really wrong, though!
Me: Yeah....I wasn't...

lol Not gonna lie...it felt good. :laugh:

Cr01502

Nope doesn't offend me , this whole if you didn't want me at my worst then you can't have me at my best ideology is stupid.

Agreed.

I'm not, nor have I ever been, attracted to people that don't take care of themselves, physically or mentally. If that makes me shallow then so be it.

ShreddedTweet

I wouldn't be offended, you're not going to be everyone's idea of beautiful just like I don't fancy every old Tom, **** or Harry and I certainly wouldn't be attracted to someone who didn't look after themselves. It's not an aesthetic thing, it's a pride/self-control thing. That's life. What's the point in wasting time worrying about it?

michellekicks

I'd be cautious about considering a life with someone who insisted I was fit as a condition of being with me. Life happens to everyone... sometimes it's illness, injury or whatever... I think you need to seek out a partner who won't put those conditions on it. What happens if you only want to be with a hot woman, but when she goes to have your baby she ends up on bed rest for 9 months and gains 80 lbs? Just asking...

MacInCali

I didn't find me sexually attractive at my heaviest, so why would I expect another woman or man to be?

Now, on the other hand, I'd totally do me, so it wouldn't surprise me if other women and men now want to as well. :laugh:

JustPeachy044

For me it would depend on a few factors. Were they simply not interested previously but not mean? Then I'm ok with it. People change.

If they WERE mean, does it appear they have changed? Do they acknowledge they treated me or people in general poorly in the past? Then they may deserve a second chance.

I don't think an all or nothing approach can answer your question.

kxlly

Not offended. Probably wouldn't date them, though.

AnDiallo

Not offended, 'cos fair enough, but they wouldn't be on my to-date list