Dealing with CoWorkers while you diet?

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  • If you are not hungry and truly don't want it, then refrigerate it. Get it out of sight and out of your smelling range.

    If you do actually want the food, then scoop out a normal portion into a bowl from the kitchen and enjoy it.
  • tachyon_master
    tachyon_master Posts: 226 Member
    I've had this happen as well because one of my coworkers is somehow convinced I'm anorexic and have an eating disorder. I don't. And quite frankly it's reached the point where her harassment over the topic has been reported to HR for bullying.

    When she's brought food and put it in front of me and "told me to eat", I've just flat out given it back to her and not eaten it. I'll say something along the lines of "I appreciate the gesture, but I'm not interested in eating this. I have my own food. Next time maybe you should ask me first." Is that rude? Yes, maybe. But I have dietary restrictions due to allergies anyway. And there comes a point where sometimes you have to be blunt with people, even if they have the best of intentions.

    Allergies, smalllergies- You're a freaking adult who is allowed to eat how you want! You could have no dietary restrictions and be 100% in the right to say no. Good for you for not putting up with it.

    I agree. I shouldn't have to justify myself beyond saying "thanks but no thanks". Except when this person is a senior colleague, sometimes it's easier just to keep the peace rather than stirring the pot too much. And believe me - I like to stir the pot :P
  • LuckySe7en
    LuckySe7en Posts: 49

    I agree. I shouldn't have to justify myself beyond saying "thanks but no thanks". Except when this person is a senior colleague, sometimes it's easier just to keep the peace rather than stirring the pot too much. And believe me - I like to stir the pot :P

    Exactly this. Sometimes people are trying to be nice but don't realize that the seniority can put pressure on you even if they don't mean it. I don't like when people try to force things on me, especially regarding food. I try to keep temptation as far as possible at this point, because in the beginning it is not always easy to say no when people put something in front of you. Food addiction is real, regardless of whether people believe so. A newly recovering alcoholic would not appreciate the pressure for a drink, the same way I would not appreciate the pressure for food.
  • katescountdown
    katescountdown Posts: 24 Member
    Both your co-workers and more importantly you will respect you more if you stick to your guns, especially when the results start showing. Stay strong :) You can do it!
  • Keris007
    Keris007 Posts: 6
    Maybe tell them a white lie and say you've developed allergies and have to be very careful with food! Might make people think before tempting you. I find in my office that the people who say they are dieting are tempted by others keep bringing cakes in, I firmly believe the only bring the cakes in so the dieters fail!
  • supplemama
    supplemama Posts: 1,956 Member
    Tell him please don't waste your money, I'm just going to throw it away! If he chooses not to believe you and buys you food anyway, oh well that's his loss! I suspect though if you do this a few times he will stop wasting his money.
  • ironfitclub
    ironfitclub Posts: 18 Member
    I feel your pain! My office is always having potlucks and people LOVE to bring donuts and goodies. I just say no thanks....I'm on a mission. It was hard at first and kinda felt bad about hurting their feelings but hey, you gotta do whats best for you ya know?

    Then there have been a few times where I'd just take a bite of it in from of them to tell them how wonderful it tastes then escape off to a bathroom trashcan and throw the rest away (i hope none of them are reading this now) lol. One of my favorite quotes are, "Don't give up on something you want most, for something you want now." Live by that!
  • LuckySe7en
    LuckySe7en Posts: 49
    I feel your pain! My office is always having potlucks and people LOVE to bring donuts and goodies. I just say no thanks....I'm on a mission. It was hard at first and kinda felt bad about hurting their feelings but hey, you gotta do whats best for you ya know?

    Then there have been a few times where I'd just take a bite of it in from of them to tell them how wonderful it tastes then escape off to a bathroom trashcan and throw the rest away (i hope none of them are reading this now) lol. One of my favorite quotes are, "Don't give up on something you want most, for something you want now." Live by that!

    That's actually a great quote! :drinker: I always need some reminding. I've been good at not overeating or snacking on stuff in moderation. The difference with an actual meal is that I have eyes-bigger-than-my-stomach syndrome. It'll take some getting used to but hopefully people around the office will start to respect my decisions.
  • buttercup68110
    buttercup68110 Posts: 86 Member
    I have that some problem at my job. I made the mistake of letting them know that I am dieting and now everyone is telling me that I should count my calories. What exercise I need to be doing. Because for some reason they think they are doctors and nutritionists. They always tell me what they are eating and rub it in. They go as far as putting the food in my face and tell me what I am missing. There is always food everywhere including six vending machines and four pop machines. We also have cookouts and food vendors come everyday. None of this includes healthy food at all. It sucks but I just stick to my guns and tell them thanks for the advice and bring my own food. I always have celery and carrots around me. I think about my kids and how I am doing this for them. I picture the skinny body that I am determined to have. When every someone gives me food I give it to someone else. Someone usually forgets their lunch so I give it to them.
  • onedayatatime410
    onedayatatime410 Posts: 42 Member
    I feel ya!

    Things like this make you have to choose between not being weird and sticking to what you have set out to do. Sometimes I plan for things like desserts but for the almost part (lol), I reject things from others that I know are triggers. For me, salt is a huge trigger. I like chips, pretzels, popcorn... the like. And my co-workers eat them in mass quantities lol.

    However, if you indicate that you don't normally partake in eating outside of your self-set plan, you'll see less and less temptation from others. Sometimes people need to hear it straight up to know how serious you are. More importantly, don't let someone else determine the breaking point of your will. If you want Chipotle, McDonalds, Wendy's, whatever, make sure you indulge on YOUR terms. You deserve that power as we all do on this journey.