WTH???

DanaLynnMN

I'm three days into my re-commitment of eating good and working out, and my husband just walks in the door with a peanut buster parfait.....and says, "this is for you".

WTH?????

I took one little bite and then put the whole thing in the freezer and told him he can eat it tomorrow.

Glad I can come here for REAL support!

Rawr1978

If he isnt heavy or prone to weight gain, he probably doesn't get it

ellepribro

You're only 3 days in. He probably hasn't had much of a chance to notice a change in your eating habits.
He was just trying to treat you.
You need to talk to him about your new lifestyle if you expect support from him. If he continues, keep reminding him that you're trying not to eat that way anymore. Sometimes it takes time for them to get it.

I_Will_End_You

I feel you! My boyfriend works late nights, and on his way home he'll text me all "I'm going to Taco Bell, you want anything?" "No Thanks" "Are you sure" "Yes I'm sure". Gets home... "I got you a quesadilla just in case". Doh!

3LittleMonkeys

Kudos to you!

LeeshLove

Kudos to you for having the willpower to just take one bite. Have you tried discussing with him the new change in you? if he understand you're end goal, maybe he'll be less likely to bring you goodies.

But I still say great job on that strong will power!

chasetwins

First good for you for keeping your strength not to eat it. Second..I am (was) with you...

A month into mine..my husband came home with the family size twizzlers (my all time fave candy) and throws it in my lap. I refused...then he opens it (have you ever opened a bag of them OMG!!!!!!) I still refuse.
He waves one in my face...have just one it won't kill you...Seriously?!?!

I took it from him...then threw it at him LOL

andyisandy

so he give you a treat, probably just being nice, and your complaining about it?

laughingdani

Being fit and healthy isn't about restricting.
It's about a calorie deficit, if you're trying to lose weight.

I eat fast food ALL the time and I still lose weight.

Just today I had pizza and a gyro. Granted, I also eat lots of veggies, fruits and whole grains as well.
But there is NOTHING I have cut out of my diet.

If you work hard you can play hard.

TylerJ76

You will never accomplish what you're setting out to do, if you can't learn to deal with temptations.

That said, the key is moderation. When you figure that out, you will succeed.

Your husband did a nice thing for you...

Crankstr

You will never accomplish what you're setting out to do, if you can't learn to deal with temptations.

That said, the key is moderation. When you figure that out, you will succeed.

Your husband did a nice thing for you...

yes he did.

did you have any calories left for the day? maybe eat half or what have you and log it if you want it.

DanaLynnMN

Thanks all - I'm proud of myself for the willpower I had to only eat the one bite!

I didn't mean for my post to sound like I was complaining about what he did. I was just typing in the heat of the moment.
He is supportive of me, but I do need to remind him that my treats need to be kept to a minimum. Now, if he would've brought me a baby blizzard instead of a HUGE peanut buster parfait, I probably would've destroyed it!!!

I know he was being nice.....just thought it was a little too nice for what I'm trying to do.

I think I will suggest that next time he wants to give me a treat...that he give me food rub or a back massage. Lord knows I could use either right now for my sore muscles!!

But seriously, I did mean what I said about the support on MFP. Everyone here has been great!!

whierd

I hate it when people are nice and think of me. He clearly doesn't respect you.

Consult a divorce attorney ASAP! Next thing you know it'll.be mozzarella sticks or...S.e.x.

DanaLynnMN

You will never accomplish what you're setting out to do, if you can't learn to deal with temptations.

That said, the key is moderation. When you figure that out, you will succeed.

Your husband did a nice thing for you...

I do know that moderation is key, and I think I did a pretty good job at dealing with the temptation he brought home.
I knew I didn't have anywhere near enough calories left over to enjoy that dessert.

I know he did a nice thing for me...I just need to remind him that smaller treats are better....and to ask me how I'm doing on my calories for the day before he goes and get's me something. I'm not upset with him - just need to remind him of my goals.

ILiftHeavyAcrylics

Thanks all - I'm proud of myself for the willpower I had to only eat the one bite!

I didn't mean for my post to sound like I was complaining about what he did. I was just typing in the heat of the moment.
He is supportive of me, but I do need to remind him that my treats need to be kept to a minimum. Now, if he would've brought me a baby blizzard instead of a HUGE peanut buster parfait, I probably would've destroyed it!!!

I know he was being nice.....just thought it was a little too nice for what I'm trying to do.

I think I will suggest that next time he wants to give me a treat...that he give me food rub or a back massage. Lord knows I could use either right now for my sore muscles!!

But seriously, I did mean what I said about the support on MFP. Everyone here has been great!!

Freudian slip?

DanaLynnMN

I hate it when people are nice and think of me. He clearly doesn't respect you.

Consult a divorce attorney ASAP! Next thing you know it'll.be mozzarella sticks or...S.e.x.

LOL, I don't think I need to go to that extreme.

Maybe I'll tell him instead of buying me a dessert....try being my dessert. (OMG, I can't believe I just said that!! :blushing: )

laughingdani

Thanks all - I'm proud of myself for the willpower I had to only eat the one bite!

I didn't mean for my post to sound like I was complaining about what he did. I was just typing in the heat of the moment.
He is supportive of me, but I do need to remind him that my treats need to be kept to a minimum. Now, if he would've brought me a baby blizzard instead of a HUGE peanut buster parfait, I probably would've destroyed it!!!

I know he was being nice.....just thought it was a little too nice for what I'm trying to do.

I think I will suggest that next time he wants to give me a treat...that he give me food rub or a back massage. Lord knows I could use either right now for my sore muscles!!

But seriously, I did mean what I said about the support on MFP. Everyone here has been great!!

If you're having trouble with willpower, then having treats that are not food is a good idea for the beginning.
But continue to still incorporate indulgences once in a while. This is for life. And it's not like you're never going to eat ice cream again. lol
But we all make the mistake of restricting ourselves at first....and that's just a set up for failure.
I succeeded once I realized I could have those things, which I previously thought were forbidden, and still lose weight.

iulia_maddie

If I had a husband, and he brought me icecream, he'd probably get laid that night.

DanaLynnMN

Thanks all - I'm proud of myself for the willpower I had to only eat the one bite!

I didn't mean for my post to sound like I was complaining about what he did. I was just typing in the heat of the moment.
He is supportive of me, but I do need to remind him that my treats need to be kept to a minimum. Now, if he would've brought me a baby blizzard instead of a HUGE peanut buster parfait, I probably would've destroyed it!!!

I know he was being nice.....just thought it was a little too nice for what I'm trying to do.

I think I will suggest that next time he wants to give me a treat...that he give me food rub or a back massage. Lord knows I could use either right now for my sore muscles!!

But seriously, I did mean what I said about the support on MFP. Everyone here has been great!!

Freudian slip?

OMG....that is too funny!!!!
I meant FOOT rub!!

good catch!!

Contrarian

HE IS TRYING TO KILL YOU! RUN FOR YOUR LIFE!

Crankstr

Sounds like a good plan going forward.

maybe pick a day where you can fit in a treat and suggest that it be small, and something you can log.

the non food suggestions are great too.

Crankstr

I hate it when people are nice and think of me. He clearly doesn't respect you.

Consult a divorce attorney ASAP! Next thing you know it'll.be mozzarella sticks or...S.e.x.

LOL, I don't think I need to go to that extreme.

Maybe I'll tell him instead of buying me a dessert....try being my dessert. (OMG, I can't believe I just said that!! :blushing: )

YESSSSSSSSS
















get a spoonful and put it on his belleh!




woot!

TylerJ76

If I had a husband, and he brought me icecream, he'd probably get laid that night.

Stopping at ice cream shop as we speak...

andyisandy

Thanks all - I'm proud of myself for the willpower I had to only eat the one bite!

I didn't mean for my post to sound like I was complaining about what he did. I was just typing in the heat of the moment.
He is supportive of me, but I do need to remind him that my treats need to be kept to a minimum. Now, if he would've brought me a baby blizzard instead of a HUGE peanut buster parfait, I probably would've destroyed it!!!

I know he was being nice.....just thought it was a little too nice for what I'm trying to do.

I think I will suggest that next time he wants to give me a treat...that he give me food rub or a back massage. Lord knows I could use either right now for my sore muscles!!

But seriously, I did mean what I said about the support on MFP. Everyone here has been great!!

If you're having trouble with willpower, then having treats that are not food is a good idea for the beginning.
But continue to still incorporate indulgences once in a while. This is for life. And it's not like you're never going to eat ice cream again. lol
But we all make the mistake of restricting ourselves at first....and that's just a set up for failure.
I succeeded once I realized I could have those things, which I previously thought were forbidden, and still lose weight.

Id listen to her ^^^ she one smart lady

whierd

If I had a husband, and he brought me icecream, he'd probably get laid that night.

*Noted*

pspetralia

I hate it when people are nice and think of me. He clearly doesn't respect you.

Consult a divorce attorney ASAP! Next thing you know it'll.be mozzarella sticks or...S.e.x.

:laugh: :laugh:

laughingdani

I hate it when people are nice and think of me. He clearly doesn't respect you.

Consult a divorce attorney ASAP! Next thing you know it'll.be mozzarella sticks or...S.e.x.

LOL, I don't think I need to go to that extreme.

Maybe I'll tell him instead of buying me a dessert....try being my dessert. (OMG, I can't believe I just said that!! :blushing: )

Gives a whole new meaning to 'peanut buster'. I'm sorry. That was inappropriate. :smokin:

whierd

If I had a husband, and he brought me icecream, he'd probably get laid that night.

Stopping at ice cream shop as we speak...

Rock, paper, scissors? Best two out of three?

meeper123

People will not get it i am lucky mine does he is my support team sometimes to well lol i cant touch anything bad without hearing about it

odusgolp

How dare he! He should have brought home Bellavitano Merlot Cheese & Triscuits!!

TylerJ76

If I had a husband, and he brought me icecream, he'd probably get laid that night.

Stopping at ice cream shop as we speak...

Rock, paper, scissors? Best two out of three?

Nope.
You're too slow..