how to tell someone their doing it wrong?

WeightHacker

*correction title* how to tell someone they're doing it wrong

okay so this is what up.

my brother, he runs on the treadmill. which doesnt bother me at all. what bothers me that, he doing is wrong. he leans against the treadmill, tryin to keep up with his pace (when running), and also i see him do this all the time, which is he places hands on the handles and his shoulder shrugs upward, to keep his support when walking. i dont care if he is huffing and puffing. (he has asthma).

i dont want him to end up hurting himself again like he did last time, which was he twisted his ankle and stopped working out for 3 months.

and i dont know how i point this out without seeming unsupported or just pointing out everything wrong with him.
i just want him to do it with the right posture.
and sometimes he is too stubborn to listen to me. sometimes i just want to slap his hand to stop him from doing that. (but he isnt a child, nor is he is my child).

please and thanks.

Vansy

Send him a link to a youtube video of the proper way in which to use a treadmill?

ami5000psu

You've told him he's doing it wrong but you can't force him to do it the way you want him to. When I walk on the treadmill I have to use the handles for support because my balance on those things suck. Just let him do what he wants.

WeightHacker

use the handles for support because my balance on those things suck.

i use the handle too. but i dont shrug my shoulders.
he does.

but okay. i guess i should let him be like that.
hopefully he corrects himself, before he injures himself again.

DandelionCupcakes

I would really just say "Hey I'm not trying to be a ***** or anything but I noticed you're sort of shrugging your shoulders again which could lead to you hurting yourself, which would suck." and if he gets defensive just be really sweet and apologize for intruding.

MudRunLvr

Well here's what I've learned from MFP:


If you go out of your way to try to help someone because you honestly care you are an egomaniac. You think your way is the only way. If they want to hang onto the treadmill and hurt themselves it's none of your business. No one way is right. Anything anyone does is perfect. You have no right to judge how anyone runs on the treadmill.


After a long time of trying to be helpful I've found it's usually easier to just let someone else mess up and worry about yourself. People have their self worth so wrapped up in what they're doing that any helpful tips are just seen as an attack.

BarackMeLikeAHurricane

Well here's what I've learned from MFP:


If you go out of your way to try to help someone because you honestly care you are an egomaniac. You think your way is the only way. If they want to hang onto the treadmill and hurt themselves it's none of your business. No one way is right. Anything anyone does is perfect. You have no right to judge how anyone runs on the treadmill.


After a long time of trying to be helpful I've found it's usually easier to just let someone else mess up and worry about yourself. People have their self worth so wrapped up in what they're doing that any helpful tips are just seen as an attack.

Wow, seriously so much wisdom in the bolded line. This is true for much more than just diet/fitness. I just felt the need to quote it for this reason :flowerforyou:

WeightHacker

thanks guys.

LJSmith1989

You answered it your self

He's an adult. Mans gotta do what a mans gotta do...

Cr01502

Well here's what I've learned from MFP:


If you go out of your way to try to help someone because you honestly care you are an egomaniac. You think your way is the only way. If they want to hang onto the treadmill and hurt themselves it's none of your business. No one way is right. Anything anyone does is perfect. You have no right to judge how anyone runs on the treadmill.


After a long time of trying to be helpful I've found it's usually easier to just let someone else mess up and worry about yourself. People have their self worth so wrapped up in what they're doing that any helpful tips are just seen as an attack.

This.

Also you don't want your brother to think you're hitting on him.

Elzecat

Tell him the same way you told us: I'm worried that if you run and hold the handles at the same time, you'll hurt yourself again.

Holding the handles while walking should not be a concern--some people (myself included) have poor balance and use the handles to hold on.

You can only do so much--express your concern in a loving manner and let it go.

whierd

Normally I am with the Mind Your Business crowd. But since it is your brother, show him some YouTube videos and direct him to a website or two.

dez_yaoichan

how about you just ask him WHY he does it? he may not realize that he does.

just be general about it and ask if it helps him or something because you had always thought it was bad.

don't go all out and say it's horrible, simply ask.

stumblinthrulife

Find a friend he respects and listens to, and ask them to tell him.

My father-in-law is kind of stubborn, and won't listen to my wife. But I can tell him the exact same thing, and he'll listen. Go figure.

KittieLea

People don't usually follow unsolicited advice. I've learned in life that unless someone specifically asks you your opinion, not to give it.