jealous of skinny minis!

BinaryPulsar

Of course there's jealousy...you're on a post specifically about it. Even with the comments prodding OP about her weight and height, and how she's already thin.

The "hate" on this thread, on the other hand, must have completely bypassed me. People must have a very broad definition of hate.

I hate you because you're skinny and beautiful.

I don't even know what you all are talking about. I think you are making a bigger issue out something that is not an issue at all.

Robin_Anne

Your friends might move more throughout the day. I was doing my official exercise time slot yesterday and was walking behind these two really skinny guys who looked to be in college with heavy backpacks. It looked like they were walking all of the way back to the downtown campus. Now, if it had been me, I would have taken transportation. They didn't appear to be trying to exercise, they just moved more throughout the day (without scheduling it in) and on top of it, were carrying extra weight from their books, etc.

I totally get what you're saying about the skinny friends who eat everything. But, the more honestly that I've looked at myself vs. them....I've noticed that they are hugely more active than I am on a consistent basis. I'm definitely getting the relationship between being able to eat/drink what you may please in correlation to a lot more active life. If they sat around all day for weeks at a time and ate the same diet, they'd gain weight, to some degree. Also, the more sedentary one may be, the lower the calories one can take in without gaining weight easily. I'm learning that more and more while using MFP/food diary, etc.

Even partying/drinking lifestyle can add 1,000s of calories (after the late-night foodfest when coming home drunk). And yeah, I wonder in amazement at people that are skinny but are out on the town all of the time. I used to live with a roommate who drank a lot every night but she'd never eat after getting wasted (not healthy for the liver or stomach lining). The next day, she'd only eat one meal with her co-workers (so to them it looked like she could eat whatever she wanted) and then she would not eat dinner. She'd just drink her calories in the form of cocktails/wine. I don't know. She may have been skinnier but she wasn't working out or eating healthy food and her liver was in the gutter (although since then, she's turned her life around...no longer parties).

For me, like you, it's really easy to compare habits with what friends do. I've been finding that it's more empowering to listen to what my body does and reacts to situations. If I drink then I'll eat waaaaayyyy ovvver my caloric daily limit and gain weight. I've seen it in my food diaries. If I don't, then it's much easier to manage and have the exercise make a difference in weight loss.

sarahz1442

So much hate and jealous people in this thread.

huh? who?

The people who are rooting that "it will catch up with them" to their skinny friend who looks like they can eat anything.

that's not jealousy. i'm talking from experience. i was a stick when i was 19 and then suddenly at 37 i had a wtf moment when i was 140 pounds. i easily got back down to 109 pounds just by watching what i ate a little though. i'm not rooting for it to happen to these people. i don't find having a fast metabolism as something to waste my time being jealous of. there are more important things in life.

Booksandbeaches

To beat a dead horse, skinny doesn't equal healthy. I have a skinny friend who is diabetic and he was skinny even before he became a Type II diabetic. Another skinny person I know had a kidney transplant after high blood pressure problems led to kidney damage. Both people look slim on the outside, but their insides..well that was a different story.

gimpygramma

Something I haven't seen mentioned is bone structure. I have a full face (squarish jaw) and what my daughter kindly calls "breeder hips." I have been underweight at times in my life....5'4" and 100-105 pounds. Still because of the face and hips, I did not look especially skinny.

LiftAllThePizzas

NEAT can make a huge difference. I often burn an extra 800+ non-exercise calories in a day just by normal (to me) activity.

quiltlovinlisa

There will always be people that have something you don't. No matter what stage of your life, single or married. As already stated, life is just too short to dwell on what you don't have, what you're not. I vote for taking control of my life and making the most of what I have.

ggxx100

Of course there's jealousy...you're on a post specifically about it. Even with the comments prodding OP about her weight and height, and how she's already thin.

The "hate" on this thread, on the other hand, must have completely bypassed me. People must have a very broad definition of hate.

I hate you because you're skinny and beautiful.

I don't even know what you all are talking about. I think you are making a bigger issue out something that is not an issue at all.

What issue would that be? These comments never fail to not make sense to me...

Sqauterina11

i think the term skinny has been looked into far too much
drink coffee and chillllllll :drinker:

theCarlton

Jealousy...

yaseyuku

I used to be one of them. It caught up to me and now I'm here.

MsEmmy

Concentrate on being strong and healthy. It may be that your friends are not smaller than you and that's just how you see it, or maybe they just move more than you, generally. My husband eats more than I do, but he has a lot of nervous energy and is always moving. As someone said, your friends may be skipping meals. This site is about being healthy, not being skinny -you can be very slim and amazingly strong. Also, I know we are all here in part to look better as well as be healthy, but appearances are not everything and to be overly concerned with what you look like is not healthy or attractive. Not many people want to date someone who is more concerned about not eating a chip or some popcorn than living life and having fun.
:flowerforyou: Be happy with yourself:flowerforyou:

sarahz1442

I was always very tiny when I was younger, but it looked to me like everyone was smaller and thinner. I just didn't see myself as being as small as I was because I was looking at myself from inside my body and not from the outside. The first time I saw myself on video I was very surprised to see how small I was.

Yeah, it's impossible to see yourself as others see you. I didn't realize that I had gotten so fat until I saw pictures of myself. In the mirror, I didn't see it. Now I'm close to underweight and really don't see myself as looking all that much smaller as I did when I was 30 pounds heavier, but people keep commenting on how thin I am now. The mind plays tricks on you.

BinaryPulsar

Of course there's jealousy...you're on a post specifically about it. Even with the comments prodding OP about her weight and height, and how she's already thin.

The "hate" on this thread, on the other hand, must have completely bypassed me. People must have a very broad definition of hate.

I hate you because you're skinny and beautiful.

I don't even know what you all are talking about. I think you are making a bigger issue out something that is not an issue at all.

What issue would that be? These comments never fail to not make sense to me...

I just meant about the "hate" and "jealousy". I'm not seeing that in this thread. I think it is a matter of interpretation on the part of the person seeing that.