What is wrong with me?

Youretheoneformefatty100

Hello

I spent a year on here and lost about 20lbs.....then hurt my back (which is fine now) moved home, had Xmas, birthday, easter etc and promptly put back on 14lbs.

I joined again, but just cannot get motivated. I bought a step-o-meter and a bike so have all the kit, but just cannot fact starting again.

Can anyone give me some tips to get back on the horse?

FP4HSharon

This article helps a lot of people get motivated. A LOT of people who lose a lot, will often lose steam & gain back. But the good news is you can turn it around anytime you want.

The Wt. Loss Minute
By Linda Spangle, RN, MA
February 14, 2011

I'm trying so hard! (Motivation Series)

Becky looked discouraged. As she sank into the chair in my
office, she said, 'I don't know what to do. I'm trying so hard to
lose weight, but I'm not getting anywhere. I can't figure out
what's wrong. Based on how hard I'm trying I should be losing a
lot more than I am.'

As I looked at my notes on our conversations over the past few
weeks, I decided to take a guess at Becky's problem. 'Let's
review a little,' I said. 'How have you been doing with your
eating plan?'

Becky thought for a second. 'Some days are OK, but lots of times
I get stressed or frustrated during the day, and by evening, I
end up having wine or ice cream, or both.'

'So you're not following your plan very well?' I asked. 'I guess
not,' she replied. 'This past week I probably was on my program
only three days. But I'm trying so hard to lose weight!'

'How's your exercise plan going?'

'Not as consistent as I'd like. I only walked two days this week.
By the end of the day, I'm usually so tired that I can't get
myself to do it. But I'm trying so hard to lose weight!'

I glanced back at my notes. 'You also planned to work on your
abdominal exercises, go to a yoga class, and take time each day
for some meditation or reading. How are you doing with those
goals?'

'None of them happened. I'm just so busy, and everything gets in
the way. The days keep getting away from me, and I end up
skipping all of my goals and going to bed.'

But then Becky exclaimed again, 'But, I'm trying so hard to lose
weight!'

Are you seeing yourself in this story? I think we all have times
when we WANT to lose weight, and we convince ourselves that we're
TRYING. But like Becky, we don't follow through with any actions
that would move us toward our goals.

It's like saying you want an 'A' in a class at school, but being
too busy, too tired or too stressed to open the textbook or work
on your research paper. No action equals no outcome.

Interested or committed?

Many of you are familiar with this next concept from Day 2 of the
book '100 Days of Weight Loss' but I think it's one we all need
to be reminded of now and then.

If you tend to start and stop every time you diet, you may want
to look at the difference between being INTERESTED and being
COMMITTED.

Interest slips away quickly

When you're just interested in dieting, you tend to stay with
your plans only until something better comes along. For example,
you may decide that you're interested in losing weight, but when
someone brings doughnuts to work, you quickly go off your diet.

You also depend on seeing results to keep you on target. So, as
long as the scale keeps moving, you stay motivated. But if you
hit a plateau or you don't see much progress for a few weeks, you
may throw your program out the window.

And when you struggle, you blame everyone but yourself. You
accuse your friends of ruining your diet because they eat potato
chips in front of you.

In addition, you fall into 'if only' thinking, saying things
like, 'If only I had more time, more money, a new job, or a
supportive spouse, then I'd be able to stay on my plan.

Committed means NO MATTER WHAT!

When you're truly committed to achieving your goals, you have an
entirely different outlook. Unlike being interested, where it
doesn't take much to detract you from your goals, being committed
means you stick with it, no matter what.

Rather than depending on seeing results to help you stay on
track, you work on keeping your motivation strong, and trust that
results will follow.

And when you struggle, you don't blame circumstances or other
people. Instead, you push hard to stay on your diet in spite of
not having enough money, time, or supportive friends and family
members.

Here's a summary of the differences between interested and
committed:

People who are interested in losing weight

* Stick with it until something better comes along
* Take action only if they "feel like" doing it
* Need to see results in order to stay motivated
* Blame people or circumstances for their struggles
* Easily give up when they face challenges

People who are committed to losing weight

* Stick with their plans no matter what
* Take action whether they feel like doing it or not
* Assume that if they stay motivated, results will follow
* Take responsibility for their own actions
* Keep going in spite of challenges and setbacks

Look carefully at your current efforts. If you say that you're
'trying so hard to lose weight' but you aren't making progress,
you're probably taking the interested approach. If so, strive for
being committed instead. Start adopting a 'no matter what'
attitude, then convince yourself you can stay with your goals
regardless of your daily challenges.

© Linda Spangle, 2011. #0214, Weight Loss for Life, Inc.

Found at this link...
http://weightloss-forlife.com/ezine-11214_422.html

But I also like this short video..."COME BACK UNTOUCHABLE!" for quick motivation...
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Tqfg4dPEueI&feature=relmfu

sarahsunshine1217

This article helps a lot of people get motivated. A LOT of people who lose a lot, will often lose steam & gain back. But the good news is you can turn it around anytime you want.

The Wt. Loss Minute
By Linda Spangle, RN, MA
February 14, 2011

I'm trying so hard! (Motivation Series)

Becky looked discouraged. As she sank into the chair in my
office, she said, 'I don't know what to do. I'm trying so hard to
lose weight, but I'm not getting anywhere. I can't figure out
what's wrong. Based on how hard I'm trying I should be losing a
lot more than I am.'

As I looked at my notes on our conversations over the past few
weeks, I decided to take a guess at Becky's problem. 'Let's
review a little,' I said. 'How have you been doing with your
eating plan?'

Becky thought for a second. 'Some days are OK, but lots of times
I get stressed or frustrated during the day, and by evening, I
end up having wine or ice cream, or both.'

'So you're not following your plan very well?' I asked. 'I guess
not,' she replied. 'This past week I probably was on my program
only three days. But I'm trying so hard to lose weight!'

'How's your exercise plan going?'

'Not as consistent as I'd like. I only walked two days this week.
By the end of the day, I'm usually so tired that I can't get
myself to do it. But I'm trying so hard to lose weight!'

I glanced back at my notes. 'You also planned to work on your
abdominal exercises, go to a yoga class, and take time each day
for some meditation or reading. How are you doing with those
goals?'

'None of them happened. I'm just so busy, and everything gets in
the way. The days keep getting away from me, and I end up
skipping all of my goals and going to bed.'

But then Becky exclaimed again, 'But, I'm trying so hard to lose
weight!'

Are you seeing yourself in this story? I think we all have times
when we WANT to lose weight, and we convince ourselves that we're
TRYING. But like Becky, we don't follow through with any actions
that would move us toward our goals.

It's like saying you want an 'A' in a class at school, but being
too busy, too tired or too stressed to open the textbook or work
on your research paper. No action equals no outcome.

Interested or committed?

Many of you are familiar with this next concept from Day 2 of the
book '100 Days of Weight Loss' but I think it's one we all need
to be reminded of now and then.

If you tend to start and stop every time you diet, you may want
to look at the difference between being INTERESTED and being
COMMITTED.

Interest slips away quickly

When you're just interested in dieting, you tend to stay with
your plans only until something better comes along. For example,
you may decide that you're interested in losing weight, but when
someone brings doughnuts to work, you quickly go off your diet.

You also depend on seeing results to keep you on target. So, as
long as the scale keeps moving, you stay motivated. But if you
hit a plateau or you don't see much progress for a few weeks, you
may throw your program out the window.

And when you struggle, you blame everyone but yourself. You
accuse your friends of ruining your diet because they eat potato
chips in front of you.

In addition, you fall into 'if only' thinking, saying things
like, 'If only I had more time, more money, a new job, or a
supportive spouse, then I'd be able to stay on my plan.

Committed means NO MATTER WHAT!

When you're truly committed to achieving your goals, you have an
entirely different outlook. Unlike being interested, where it
doesn't take much to detract you from your goals, being committed
means you stick with it, no matter what.

Rather than depending on seeing results to help you stay on
track, you work on keeping your motivation strong, and trust that
results will follow.

And when you struggle, you don't blame circumstances or other
people. Instead, you push hard to stay on your diet in spite of
not having enough money, time, or supportive friends and family
members.

Here's a summary of the differences between interested and
committed:

People who are interested in losing weight

* Stick with it until something better comes along
* Take action only if they "feel like" doing it
* Need to see results in order to stay motivated
* Blame people or circumstances for their struggles
* Easily give up when they face challenges

People who are committed to losing weight

* Stick with their plans no matter what
* Take action whether they feel like doing it or not
* Assume that if they stay motivated, results will follow
* Take responsibility for their own actions
* Keep going in spite of challenges and setbacks

Look carefully at your current efforts. If you say that you're
'trying so hard to lose weight' but you aren't making progress,
you're probably taking the interested approach. If so, strive for
being committed instead. Start adopting a 'no matter what'
attitude, then convince yourself you can stay with your goals
regardless of your daily challenges.

© Linda Spangle, 2011. #0214, Weight Loss for Life, Inc.

Found at this link...
http://weightloss-forlife.com/ezine-11214_422.html

But I also like this short video..."COME BACK UNTOUCHABLE!" for quick motivation...
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Tqfg4dPEueI&feature=relmfu

I love this!!!

RVfrog

thanks I needed this.

djc315

Instead of linking the entire article, you should really just link to it. It's not fair to the author, even if you put the link on the bottom.

Cr01502

Can anyone give me some tips to get back on the horse?

From my understanding there are three ways to get back on the horse. You can just mount the horse, you can mount using a stepping block, or (for city slickers), mounting using a leg up.

The steps vary depending upon which method you use. First and foremost whatever method you choose be sure to check your horses girth and halt your horse.

Mounting

1 Stand on your horse's left side. This is the side that riders traditionally mount from. Holding the reins in your left hand, turn the stirrup towards you using your right hand. Put your left foot into the stirrup.
2 Hold the waist of the saddle with your right hand. Have your left hand on your horse's withers. Gently bounce once or twice on your right foot, and then spring up off it.
3 Swing your right leg up and over the horse's back. Be careful not to kick your horse with your toe! Since all your weight is on the left stirrup, ask a friend to hold onto the right stirrup.
4 Lower yourself into the saddle. Land gently - don't flop or slam into the saddle and take up the reins in your hands. Gently pull on the reins to tell your horse not to move forward and put your feet into the stirrups.
Mounting Using a Mounting Block

Mounting blocks are good choices for beginners, as they give you extra height and prevent you from pulling the saddle to the left.
1 Place the mounting block to the left of the horse. Ask a friend to hold your horse in place, if necessary. Climb onto the mounting block and hold the reins in your left hand.
2 Put your left foot in the stirrup. Spring off your right food and swing your right leg up and over the horse's back, being careful not to poke your horse.
3 Lower yourself gently into the saddle. Gather up your reins in your hands and put your feet into the stirrups.
Mounting by Getting a Leg Up

A friend can give you a leg up to help you mount. This is helpful if you're a beginner, or have a tall horse.
1 Put your right hand on the saddle. Hold the reins in your left hand. Your friend will hold up your left leg.
2 Decide when your friend will lift up your leg. For example, you could count to three. While your friend propels you up, lift yourself with your arm into the saddle.
3 When you're level with the saddle, swing your right leg over it. Gently sit down and gather your stirrups, while you straighten your back and put your feet into the stirrups.

http://www.wikihow.com/Mount-a-Horse

Contrarian

Just start. Seriously.

RHSheetz

Well, here is what I tell new clients that I work with...

Make a list of WHY you want to loose weight. What do you want to do that you can not do now, what are you uncomfortable with that you will feel better once you take off the weight.

For me, it was riding Rollercoasters, I LOVE them, but I was too big to ride in them. Once I lost the weight, I went to Hershey Park and rode all of them, TWICE. It was a great day.

SO, you need to find what motivates you, and keep that in your mind as you start back to eating healthy. Even once you hit your goal, and can do this, you need to keep setting new, healthy goals to keep you reaching.

Buy something you REALLY like, one size smaller, and work to get in it.

Put a Picture in your mirror of were you want to be, so you see it every day.

Motivation needs to come from within, this group can help, but we are not going to be there when you pick up that doughnut to keep you from eating it.

1223345

Sometimes if we get off the wagon it can be so hard to get back on. Just decide to do it and then just do it.

nikilis

real simple, just take steps in the right direction.

start eating healthier, even if you ease into it. once you have that down, ease slowly into exercise at your pace.

a lot of little changes over a month and you will be there. don't bust your balls if you eat a burger, healthy living is always a work in progress.


wow. that was waaay shorter and to the point. high 5.

_SABOTEUR_

Sometimes if we get off the wagon it can be so hard to get back on. Just decide to do it and then just do it.

The OP asked for motivation and you are just being rude. How is telling her to 'just do it' motivational? I can't believe how rude everyone is on this site. They make it their goal to go though the forums and find people who are asking for help and give their unsolicited opinions. I just can't believe it.

LorinaLynn

It's the old "fake it til you make it." If you wait for the motivation and inspiration to come to you, you'll be waiting a long time.

Start the same way you started before. Calculate your caloric needs, take a reasonable deficit off it, and log your food. Get back in the habit of exercise. Don't try to just jump right back into what you were doing before. Ease into it at a lesser intensity until you get back your endurance.

Most importantly, figure out what went wrong that you fell off the horse. Were you too restrictive before? Were you pushing yourself too hard, or not hard enough? Remember, this should be (as much as I hate the phrase) a lifestyle change. Whatever you're doing should be something you can envision yourself doing for the rest of your life. It's not a temporary fix.

You might need to alter your expectations, especially on how fast you should be losing the weight. Better to lose, for instance, a half pound a week over the course of 6 months and keep it off, than try to lose 2 pounds a week over two months, get burnt out, and gain it all back.

1223345

Sometimes if we get off the wagon it can be so hard to get back on. Just decide to do it and then just do it.

The OP asked for motivation and you are just being rude. How is telling her to 'just do it' motivational? I can't believe how rude everyone is on this site. They make it their goal to go though the forums and find people who are asking for help and give their unsolicited opinions. I just can't believe it.

No, I am not being rude. What I say is true. In My personal experience this is what has worked for me, when I found my self off the wagon, and I just felt like I couldn't get back again, I would just get strong in mind and decide that I was going to get it right the next time.

nikilis

Sometimes if we get off the wagon it can be so hard to get back on. Just decide to do it and then just do it.

The OP asked for motivation and you are just being rude. How is telling her to 'just do it' motivational? I can't believe how rude everyone is on this site. They make it their goal to go though the forums and find people who are asking for help and give their unsolicited opinions. I just can't believe it.

lol. I never knew NIKE sneakers were actually insulting their wearers.

I guess I missed the subtext of NIKE, WERE SCOLDING YOU.

thanks for clearing that up.

iulia_maddie

Sometimes if we get off the wagon it can be so hard to get back on. Just decide to do it and then just do it.

The OP asked for motivation and you are just being rude. How is telling her to 'just do it' motivational? I can't believe how rude everyone is on this site. They make it their goal to go though the forums and find people who are asking for help and give their unsolicited opinions. I just can't believe it.

No, I am not being rude. What I say is true. In My personal experience this is what has worked for me, when I found my self off the wagon, and I just felt like I couldn't get back again, I would just get strong in mind and decide that I was going to get it right the next time.

No. You're telling her it's hard. Implying something takes hard work and time is insulting. Anything can be done in 6 weeks.

1223345

Sometimes if we get off the wagon it can be so hard to get back on. Just decide to do it and then just do it.

The OP asked for motivation and you are just being rude. How is telling her to 'just do it' motivational? I can't believe how rude everyone is on this site. They make it their goal to go though the forums and find people who are asking for help and give their unsolicited opinions. I just can't believe it.

No, I am not being rude. What I say is true. In My personal experience this is what has worked for me, when I found my self off the wagon, and I just felt like I couldn't get back again, I would just get strong in mind and decide that I was going to get it right the next time.

No. You're telling her it's hard. Implying something takes hard work and time is insulting. Anything can be done in 6 weeks.

It is hard. Saying that something is hard is just acknowledging a fact. Clearly it IS hard or everyone of us would have perfect track records. No one has had a perfect run. We all fall down sometimes. Getting up and brushing off and saying "I know I CAN!" Is not bad. Positivity works. I never tell myself I CAN'T. And I will not be the one telling others that they CAN'T. She CAN and she WILL and she should be encouraged toward that. Whether it's hard, easy, or effortless. And saying that something is hard and will take effort is not an insult.

zoodocgirl

I read a really stupid, trashy chick lit novel once, and 99% of it was entirely forgettable, but the main character had a motto that stuck with me. It was this:

"Start. Keep going."

It's easier for me to get motivated to make ONE good decision, rather than face down the pressure of living a perfectly healthy lifestyle forever, every minute, all the time. When I think about that, I set myself up for, "Well, I'll just get started once this big dinner is over, or the holidays are over, or all this work travel is over." Obviously, then I never really start.

When I think to myself, "What decision am I going to make about this one thing (meal, getting in some exercise, etc) right now?" it's much more achievable for me. Then I've started. Then I can move on to the next decision. I may not get all of them right, but I'm much more successful when I just start one little thing, rather than thinking I have to face down an entire overhaul.

Just start. Put your gym shoes on. Then keep going. Even if it's only for 10 minutes.

gigi_RN2013

This article helps a lot of people get motivated. A LOT of people who lose a lot, will often lose steam & gain back. But the good news is you can turn it around anytime you want.

The Wt. Loss Minute
By Linda Spangle, RN, MA
February 14, 2011

I'm trying so hard! (Motivation Series)

Becky looked discouraged. As she sank into the chair in my
office, she said, 'I don't know what to do. I'm trying so hard to
lose weight, but I'm not getting anywhere. I can't figure out
what's wrong. Based on how hard I'm trying I should be losing a
lot more than I am.'

As I looked at my notes on our conversations over the past few
weeks, I decided to take a guess at Becky's problem. 'Let's
review a little,' I said. 'How have you been doing with your
eating plan?'

Becky thought for a second. 'Some days are OK, but lots of times
I get stressed or frustrated during the day, and by evening, I
end up having wine or ice cream, or both.'

'So you're not following your plan very well?' I asked. 'I guess
not,' she replied. 'This past week I probably was on my program
only three days. But I'm trying so hard to lose weight!'

'How's your exercise plan going?'

'Not as consistent as I'd like. I only walked two days this week.
By the end of the day, I'm usually so tired that I can't get
myself to do it. But I'm trying so hard to lose weight!'

I glanced back at my notes. 'You also planned to work on your
abdominal exercises, go to a yoga class, and take time each day
for some meditation or reading. How are you doing with those
goals?'

'None of them happened. I'm just so busy, and everything gets in
the way. The days keep getting away from me, and I end up
skipping all of my goals and going to bed.'

But then Becky exclaimed again, 'But, I'm trying so hard to lose
weight!'

Are you seeing yourself in this story? I think we all have times
when we WANT to lose weight, and we convince ourselves that we're
TRYING. But like Becky, we don't follow through with any actions
that would move us toward our goals.

It's like saying you want an 'A' in a class at school, but being
too busy, too tired or too stressed to open the textbook or work
on your research paper. No action equals no outcome.

Interested or committed?

Many of you are familiar with this next concept from Day 2 of the
book '100 Days of Weight Loss' but I think it's one we all need
to be reminded of now and then.

If you tend to start and stop every time you diet, you may want
to look at the difference between being INTERESTED and being
COMMITTED.

Interest slips away quickly

When you're just interested in dieting, you tend to stay with
your plans only until something better comes along. For example,
you may decide that you're interested in losing weight, but when
someone brings doughnuts to work, you quickly go off your diet.

You also depend on seeing results to keep you on target. So, as
long as the scale keeps moving, you stay motivated. But if you
hit a plateau or you don't see much progress for a few weeks, you
may throw your program out the window.

And when you struggle, you blame everyone but yourself. You
accuse your friends of ruining your diet because they eat potato
chips in front of you.

In addition, you fall into 'if only' thinking, saying things
like, 'If only I had more time, more money, a new job, or a
supportive spouse, then I'd be able to stay on my plan.

Committed means NO MATTER WHAT!

When you're truly committed to achieving your goals, you have an
entirely different outlook. Unlike being interested, where it
doesn't take much to detract you from your goals, being committed
means you stick with it, no matter what.

Rather than depending on seeing results to help you stay on
track, you work on keeping your motivation strong, and trust that
results will follow.

And when you struggle, you don't blame circumstances or other
people. Instead, you push hard to stay on your diet in spite of
not having enough money, time, or supportive friends and family
members.

Here's a summary of the differences between interested and
committed:

People who are interested in losing weight

* Stick with it until something better comes along
* Take action only if they "feel like" doing it
* Need to see results in order to stay motivated
* Blame people or circumstances for their struggles
* Easily give up when they face challenges

People who are committed to losing weight

* Stick with their plans no matter what
* Take action whether they feel like doing it or not
* Assume that if they stay motivated, results will follow
* Take responsibility for their own actions
* Keep going in spite of challenges and setbacks

Look carefully at your current efforts. If you say that you're
'trying so hard to lose weight' but you aren't making progress,
you're probably taking the interested approach. If so, strive for
being committed instead. Start adopting a 'no matter what'
attitude, then convince yourself you can stay with your goals
regardless of your daily challenges.

© Linda Spangle, 2011. #0214, Weight Loss for Life, Inc.

Found at this link...
http://weightloss-forlife.com/ezine-11214_422.html

But I also like this short video..."COME BACK UNTOUCHABLE!" for quick motivation...
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Tqfg4dPEueI&feature=relmfu

I really like this article! Thanks for sharing !

girlwithcurls2

Just deal with today. Tell yourself the same thing tomorrow. One day at a time. It's overwhelming to look at progress made that was dashed by injury, lack of commitment or anything else. Just work on today.

theCarlton

Careful about getting back on the wagon....

Derpes

It is a tough balance - the key is to separate attitude from behavior.

Don't always let the way you feel dictate the way you act, instead, let the way you act dictate the way you feel.

Eating healthier and working out is unpleasant at times as are many things that we have to do regularly.

A previous poster mentioned baby steps......string together some small victories and try to build a little bit of momentum. A little momentum can go a long way!

Good luck.