Could we all just stop body shaming, please?

I just need to rant, I guess. I am so tired of hearing people refer to themselves as "curvy". Wtf does that even mean? I'm tired of the phrase "real women have curves". I'm sorry, but it's just a bunch of crap.

Every woman and man is real regardless of their weight. Your weight or size doesn't determine if you're a REAL woman. REAL men don't have muscles, either. It goes both ways. I'm just so annoyed by this.

I see threads about people posting what their ideal size is, or their ideal weight, and they shame those who are smaller than their goal saying "I can't stand people that are that small," or "I don't understand why anyone would want to be that skinny".

Or, by the same token, people shame larger women/men. What a fatty! They must be so lazy!

Could we just knock that crap off? Isn't MFP supposed to be a supportive community?

-rant over-
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  • Shr3dded
    Shr3dded Posts: 232
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    Who cares what other people think? You're in this for yourself.
  • CrazyTrackLady
    CrazyTrackLady Posts: 1,337 Member
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    Who cares what other people think? You're in this for yourself.

    AGREED!! Now, I'd like to know who that crazy fool is in the GIF, cuz I'm a liking his style!
  • Crankstr
    Crankstr Posts: 3,958 Member
    You are going to change people by making a post


    they will do what they want anyway
  • Shr3dded
    Shr3dded Posts: 232
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    Who cares what other people think? You're in this for yourself.

    AGREED!! Now, I'd like to know who that crazy fool is in the GIF, cuz I'm a liking his style!

    That's Zyzzbrah, he sits atop mount olympus with the rest of the aesthetic gods. May his shredded soul rest in peace.
  • Achrya
    Achrya Posts: 16,913 Member
    You probably shouldn't let random people on the internet get to you.
  • CrazyTrackLady
    CrazyTrackLady Posts: 1,337 Member
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    Who cares what other people think? You're in this for yourself.

    AGREED!! Now, I'd like to know who that crazy fool is in the GIF, cuz I'm a liking his style!

    That's Zyzzbrah, he sits atop mount olympus with the rest of the aesthetic gods. May his shredded soul rest in peace.

    Well, he's a hottie. I'd dance with him.
  • JBsCrazyGirl
    JBsCrazyGirl Posts: 337
    You probably shouldn't let random people on the internet get to you.

    :bigsmile:
  • Mustang_Susie
    Mustang_Susie Posts: 7,045 Member
    That's what happens when you try to cram a bunch of insecure egos onto a computer screen, they explode...
  • ldrosophila
    ldrosophila Posts: 7,512 Member
    awe youre a sweet soul. I always thought it was silly too so does that mean a transgendered person is not real either? I know why people do it but it's not right regardless.
  • BinaryPulsar
    BinaryPulsar Posts: 8,927 Member
    It was kind of odd to me when I first joined mfp and encountered this sort of thing. But, I guess I learned to look past it for the most part and just focus on the good stuff.

    Although, I actually don't have a problem with people referring to themselves as curvy.
  • BeachIron
    BeachIron Posts: 6,490 Member
    Meh, ignore or get some good gifs
  • baileybiddles
    baileybiddles Posts: 457 Member

    LOVE THISSSS thank you for posting. <3
  • baileybiddles
    baileybiddles Posts: 457 Member
    Meh, ignore or get some good gifs

    Good gifs DO solve a lot of problems, this I must admit.
  • Shawshankcan
    Shawshankcan Posts: 900 Member
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    Who cares what other people think? You're in this for yourself.

    AGREED!! Now, I'd like to know who that crazy fool is in the GIF, cuz I'm a liking his style!


    May our aesthetic god RIP.
    That's Zyzzbrah, he sits atop mount olympus with the rest of the aesthetic gods. May his shredded soul rest in peace.
  • baileybiddles
    baileybiddles Posts: 457 Member
    It was kind of odd to me when I first joined mfp and encountered this sort of thing. But, I guess I learned to look past it for the most part and just focus on the good stuff.

    Right? You'd think when you join a website like this that it would be a much more supportive community.

    However, with everyone and their insecurities, and everyone and their egos, it also doesn't really surprise me that they'd go out of their way to mention that this size is just too thin or too fat.
  • RoadsterGirlie
    RoadsterGirlie Posts: 1,195 Member
    I just need to rant, I guess. I am so tired of hearing people refer to themselves as "curvy". Wtf does that even mean? I'm tired of the phrase "real women have curves". I'm sorry, but it's just a bunch of crap.

    Every woman and man is real regardless of their weight. Your weight or size doesn't determine if you're a REAL woman. REAL men don't have muscles, either. It goes both ways. I'm just so annoyed by this.

    I see threads about people posting what their ideal size is, or their ideal weight, and they shame those who are smaller than their goal saying "I can't stand people that are that small," or "I don't understand why anyone would want to be that skinny".

    Or, by the same token, people shame larger women/men. What a fatty! They must be so lazy!

    Could we just knock that crap off? Isn't MFP supposed to be a supportive community?

    -rant over-

    :flowerforyou:
  • CassandraBurgos83
    CassandraBurgos83 Posts: 544 Member
    What people do or do not post doesn't affect me or my way of thinking about myself... I'm still going to eat terribly and feel bad about my bad habits and then I'm still going to work my a** off at the gym hoping that counter balances my bad habits(knowing darn good and well that the two don't equal out) and be on with my day.
    Yes, this is suppose to be healthy and supportive, but people are people good habits, bad mistakes/judgments and all-can't let this ruin your day so grab a snickers and turn that frown upside down :flowerforyou:
  • JuliaLee67
    JuliaLee67 Posts: 149
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    Who cares what other people think? You're in this for yourself.

    AGREED!! Now, I'd like to know who that crazy fool is in the GIF, cuz I'm a liking his style!

    That's Zyzzbrah, he sits atop mount olympus with the rest of the aesthetic gods. May his shredded soul rest in peace.

    Had no idea who this was, Googled, and am now sad. Rest in peace, you magnificent troll Zyzz.
  • PhattiPhat
    PhattiPhat Posts: 349 Member
    Wut?
  • EmilyEmpowered
    EmilyEmpowered Posts: 650 Member
    I agree, and I am sick of seeing it everywhere I turn. On Facebook, on here, coworkers doing it... As someone who is really insecure and can't help but care what other people think (YES, I AM WORKING ON IT!! I know I am too old for that! lol) it really does get me down sometimes. I wish it would stop, BUT it isnt going to. So instead of reading the comments and getting myself all worked up ("I'm not curvy enough/I'm not skinny enough/I'm not PERFECT") I just STOPPED reading it, and exiting any thread or ignoring any picture that brings these feelings up. :flowerforyou:
  • heywithers
    heywithers Posts: 99 Member
    You are going to change people by making a post


    they will do what they want anyway

    AGREED
  • Shr3dded
    Shr3dded Posts: 232
    This is now a Zyzz thread.

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  • Shr3dded
    Shr3dded Posts: 232
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  • Timshel_
    Timshel_ Posts: 22,834 Member
    Could we all just stop body shaming, please?

    You're really looking for noodz. Got it.
  • HotrodsGirl0107
    HotrodsGirl0107 Posts: 243 Member
    I live by the moto, "People are *kitten*". Nothing anybody says really affects me anymore. Don't expect people to be nice, and it won't affect you as much when they're not.
  • Hearts_2015
    Hearts_2015 Posts: 12,032 Member
    I agree, and I am sick of seeing it everywhere I turn. On Facebook, on here, coworkers doing it... As someone who is really insecure and can't help but care what other people think (YES, I AM WORKING ON IT!! I know I am too old for that! lol) it really does get me down sometimes. I wish it would stop, BUT it isnt going to. So instead of reading the comments and getting myself all worked up ("I'm not curvy enough/I'm not skinny enough/I'm not PERFECT") I just STOPPED reading it, and exiting any thread or ignoring any picture that brings these feelings up. :flowerforyou:
    :happy:
  • hauntao
    hauntao Posts: 130 Member
    The internet is merely a place for people from many places and backgrounds to discuss. Talking about something on the internet doesn't make someone's opinion false.

    Also, no body shame here! I do not assume anything about someone from what their physical vessel looks like. What's in your head and soul says far more about you.
  • salladeve
    salladeve Posts: 1,053 Member
    I live by the moto, "People are *kitten*". Nothing anybody says really affects me anymore. Don't expect people to be nice, and it won't affect you as much when they're not.



    THIS is my new motto, I love it!
  • Derpes
    Derpes Posts: 2,033 Member
    I think that it is a defense mechanism.

    People who do not have perfect bodies and people that are bigger get criticized endlessly.

    They get sick of it and embrace the positives that they can find.