How do you make close friends on MFP?

SweetTea111104
SweetTea111104 Posts: 338 Member
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I read blogs and read posts about people having invaluable friends and support with people on MFP. Now I love my friends on here. They always provide positive feedback to my status' and I try to do the same. But I wouldn't consider them close. How do you use MFP to get I guess get more intimate and individualized support. Should I just start sending people messages and seeing who responds? How did you get close with people on here?
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  • nancybuss
    nancybuss Posts: 1,461 Member
    Sometimes people just start sending private messages. They may see something that clicks with them, and it starts a conversation and you like the conversations and you keep going.

    Its really like starting any new friendships.

    I'm always up for meeting new people and messaging with people

    Nancy
  • iclaudia_g
    iclaudia_g Posts: 148 Member
    I have trouble feeling like I connect with most people, face to face or online. I just do my best to talk about where I have some deficits and be my own cheerleader too. As long as you are honest and real I think people will be more likely to strike up more online conversations with you. Post on their profile or just post some status updates.
  • thedesertkid
    thedesertkid Posts: 8
    I've made a lot of friends on various message boards on the internet, in which we became friends in real life. Some traveling half-way across the country to meet.

    The best advice I can give is this: Be yourself. Engage others. Remember when first meeting others that it is important to ask more questions than you answer - people LOVE talking about themselves. Be sincere. Be kind.

    Your desired results should happen fairly effortlessly. Though, it does depend on the quality of people in which you invest your time and effort. That's about the only thing really out of your control.

    Best of luck on making new and meaningful friendships. :)
  • wanttoloseweight4
    wanttoloseweight4 Posts: 253
    i think we your fitness goals are the same and you take the time to message your friends and i guess talk about your day and how your workouts and stuff went you start to build a relationship im having that problem to im looking for people who i can build friendships with due to our fitness none of my friends workout so they dont understand!
  • SlimJanette
    SlimJanette Posts: 597 Member
    I am not 100% sure what you mean by more intimate support.

    I find that if I am having an issue I will post it and get their replies. If I find one that really sticks out I will read their profile and see if we would be a good support match. I always check my wall in the morning and see how everyone is making out. You will find that you have only a handful that actually post and support each day.

    I think that when you read their profiles you may see something that relates to you and then you decide whether you can help them out.
  • clobern
    clobern Posts: 341 Member
    Well, you don't have me as a friend, that is certainly a problem...
  • ablazeoflife
    ablazeoflife Posts: 169 Member
    Good question. I think there's a number of ways people can build meaningful friendships on MFP:

    1) Choose your MFP friends who have things in common with you in terms of what you eat, your body type, or what your goals are. Similar personalities or commonalities that show up on profile pages or in discussion boards can result in meaningful interactions as well.

    2) Mutual support and sharing over time through status comments, posting on someone's wall, in depth comments on others blogs and discussion threads, will create a sense of lasting cohesion and caring.

    3) Writing people inbox messages is probably the best way to build truly meaningful and deep friendships on MFP because it is personal, it requires both parties time and effort which demonstrates that both care to build the friendship, and because people interact differently in the public eye and in private one-on-one.

    Happy friendship building!
  • pastryari
    pastryari Posts: 8,646 Member
    I wouldn't know, I hate everyone on my FL. They're all so unsupportive and never say WTG or great burn on my updates!
  • wanttoloseweight4
    wanttoloseweight4 Posts: 253
    I wouldn't know, I hate everyone on my FL. They're all so unsupportive and never say WTG or great burn on my updates!

    ill support you!
  • Mainebikerchick
    Mainebikerchick Posts: 1,573 Member
    I wouldn't know, I hate everyone on my FL. They're all so unsupportive and never say WTG or great burn on my updates!

    But I thought we were FRIENDS! :sad:
  • wanttoloseweight4
    wanttoloseweight4 Posts: 253
    I wouldn't know, I hate everyone on my FL. They're all so unsupportive and never say WTG or great burn on my updates!

    listen betch if you want me to be that friend who just rubber stamps every stupid decision you come up with I can be that friend. I chose to support you by suggesting things that are entirely my own ideals and expectations with no consideration to your personal needs.

    did you seriously just say that? your are so rude! why call someone a b****?
  • dsjohndrow
    dsjohndrow Posts: 1,820 Member
    Seeing as you are not a troll. I found a few people that I have some things in common with. After 2 years I have met a handful of them in person at races and we look forward to doing those. I talk about my journey on my blog, I try to be positive, and keep an eye on how they are doing.
  • iulia_maddie
    iulia_maddie Posts: 2,780 Member
    I wouldn't know, I hate everyone on my FL. They're all so unsupportive and never say WTG or great burn on my updates!

    It's time for new friends, Adini! How you doin'?
  • cwolfman13
    cwolfman13 Posts: 41,865 Member
    I wouldn't know, I hate everyone on my FL. They're all so unsupportive and never say WTG or great burn on my updates!

    listen betch if you want me to be that friend who just rubber stamps every stupid decision you come up with I can be that friend. I chose to support you by suggesting things that are entirely my own ideals and expectations with no consideration to your personal needs.

    did you seriously just say that? your are so rude! why call someone a b****?

    Or perhaps they are close personal friends joking around with each other? Perhaps?
  • taunto
    taunto Posts: 6,420 Member
    I read blogs and read posts about people having invaluable friends and support with people on MFP. Now I love my friends on here. They always provide positive feedback to my status' and I try to do the same. But I wouldn't consider them close. How do you use MFP to get I guess get more intimate and individualized support. Should I just start sending people messages and seeing who responds? How did you get close with people on here?

    How do you become close to anyone in real life? Its the same thing.

    People think to become close you have to have something in common. I think otherwise. My closest friend here is a 60 years old grandma from south who is a dentist. I'm a 29 years old creep from Asia. We have NOTHING in common yet she is invaluable to me because she has helped me stay on track when everything in life told me not to.

    Just talk. Share what you got and sooner or later, you'll find people who will gladly help you out. You of course should help them out too because its a 2 way street
  • cmcollins001
    cmcollins001 Posts: 3,472 Member
    I wouldn't know, I hate everyone on my FL. They're all so unsupportive and never say WTG or great burn on my updates!

    listen betch if you want me to be that friend who just rubber stamps every stupid decision you come up with I can be that friend. I chose to support you by suggesting things that are entirely my own ideals and expectations with no consideration to your personal needs.

    Ummm...I think you spelled her name wrong. It starts with an "a" not a "b", but other then that...top notch post!! WTG!! Great Burn!!!
  • Capt_Inzane
    Capt_Inzane Posts: 733 Member
    I bribe them, or I smash them on the head with a stick and tie them up and then we have tea time and play monopoly!
  • wanttoloseweight4
    wanttoloseweight4 Posts: 253
    I wouldn't know, I hate everyone on my FL. They're all so unsupportive and never say WTG or great burn on my updates!

    listen betch if you want me to be that friend who just rubber stamps every stupid decision you come up with I can be that friend. I chose to support you by suggesting things that are entirely my own ideals and expectations with no consideration to your personal needs.

    TRUE!

    did you seriously just say that? your are so rude! why call someone a b****?

    Or perhaps they are close personal friends joking around with each other? Perhaps?
  • kennethmgreen
    kennethmgreen Posts: 1,759 Member
    Be willing to listen
    Be willing to trust
    Be willing to be vulnerable
    Be willing to be disappointed
    Be willing to laugh at yourself

    Master those and you will have virtually unlimited meaningful relationships, online and in real life.
  • Barbellerella
    Barbellerella Posts: 1,838 Member
    I just keep them in my basement.
  • TravisBikes
    TravisBikes Posts: 674 Member
    This place went downhill quick.


    This is MFP.

    Welcome to the madness.
  • Capt_Apollo
    Capt_Apollo Posts: 9,026 Member
    send noods
  • escloflowneCHANGED
    escloflowneCHANGED Posts: 3,038 Member
    I wouldn't know, I hate everyone on my FL. They're all so unsupportive and never say WTG or great burn on my updates!

    I only keep you around for your profile pics, nothing more!
  • Mainebikerchick
    Mainebikerchick Posts: 1,573 Member
    I just keep them in my basement.

    Yeah, about that..can you loosen up the chain just a little?
  • jmc0806
    jmc0806 Posts: 1,444 Member
    I just got lucky with my FL and found people I click with
  • pastryari
    pastryari Posts: 8,646 Member
    I wouldn't know, I hate everyone on my FL. They're all so unsupportive and never say WTG or great burn on my updates!

    It's time for new friends, Adini! How you doin'?

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  • Alex_is_Hawks
    Alex_is_Hawks Posts: 3,499 Member
    I wouldn't know, I hate everyone on my FL. They're all so unsupportive and never say WTG or great burn on my updates!

    I'm a great friend...i send them nudez...

    Adini honey...you have yet to open up that message in your inbox....
  • Crankstr
    Crankstr Posts: 3,958 Member
    thong pictures.
  • pastryari
    pastryari Posts: 8,646 Member
    I wouldn't know, I hate everyone on my FL. They're all so unsupportive and never say WTG or great burn on my updates!

    listen betch if you want me to be that friend who just rubber stamps every stupid decision you come up with I can be that friend. I chose to support you by suggesting things that are entirely my own ideals and expectations with no consideration to your personal needs.

    did you seriously just say that? your are so rude! why call someone a b****?

    I know!!!! See what I mean?? This why I hate them. :sad:
  • lsmsrbls
    lsmsrbls Posts: 232 Member
    The key for me has been finding people who share my values. Then...talk to them. Ask them questions. Answer their questions. Get to know them like you would anyone else.

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