tattoo and dad

mustang289

Setting aside the facts of you being a grown woman, and the tattoos are artwork you've chosen, and they are becoming more and more accepted in society...all those points being true but I don't think those are the issue.

The issue may be in your father's old-fashioned way of thinking. He may be disappointed in himself for not creating within you the same values he has. Seeing your art in person reminds him of how far the apple has fallen from the tree. Again, not saying his values are wrong or right, but they are a part of him.

Going your own direction is one thing, but going out of your way to show it publicly in front of him when you could just as easily go along with his wishes and cover up for a day....well I guess sometimes you should just go along to get along.

Have fun at your event, and I hope you follow up and let us all know how your day was.

amandapye78

I don't really like tattoos, but I don't judge what anyone else does. I just wouldn't want anything permanent on my body. I am afraid of the commitment. If my kids get them I will be supportive.

piratesaregrand

my mum hates mine. she knows of 2, i have 4.

i really wish i could show her the latest, but she will never understand

LMT2012

Beautiful tatt. Hey, I am OLD and I still wear sleeves so my mommy doesn't see the giant, full-color thing i got 4 years ago on my upper arm. Not scared. Just don't wanna hear it. The simple existence of that tattoo means that you made your decision and it was more important to have it than to keep your dad calm. Have the courage of your conviction.
and what the hell is a Jack and Jill?

usmc01462

Yeah I dont like tattoo's either....I would wait until after the jack n jill if you can cover them why make it a nightmare.. I have some pin ups that are very graphic that i have to cover up if im at the beach

usmc01462

awsome tattoo. pretty sick

bearkisses

Beautiful tatt. Hey, I am OLD and I still wear sleeves so my mommy doesn't see the giant, full-color thing i got 4 years ago on my upper arm. Not scared. Just don't wanna hear it. The simple existence of that tattoo means that you made your decision and it was more important to have it than to keep your dad calm. Have the courage of your conviction.
and what the hell is a Jack and Jill?

it is a co-shower.

Lisa1971

My FIL hates tats so much that he actually put in his will that if either one of my 2 kids (they are 7 and 3) are inked at the time of his death they will never see a dime of his money! NO LIE! He's very wealthy and gives me crap about my 1 small tat on my ankle which is a paw print the size of a quarter! He's actually going to say that a doctor must inspect their bodies before they get any of his wealth after he dies! Crazy huh? So hopefully they will be ink free when he dies and then use his money to get one if they prefer.

But my husband hates them also and almost divorced me when I got mine about 10 years ago!:noway:

Ocarina

My FIL hates tats so much that he actually put in his will that if either one of my 2 kids (they are 7 and 3) are inked at the time of his death they will never see a dime of his money! NO LIE! He's very wealthy and gives me crap about my 1 small tat on my ankle which is a paw print the size of a quarter! He's actually going to say that a doctor must inspect their bodies before they get any of his wealth after he dies! Crazy huh? So hopefully they will be ink free when he dies and then use his money to get one if they prefer.

But my husband hates them also and almost divorced me when I got mine about 10 years ago!:noway:

OMG lol, that's nuts!!!!

I personally never had had a tattoo nor piercings and have no interest in it because of needles and a fear of regret. I think you should tell him before or cover it up as much as possible, even just with stockings, out of respect. You will never have his approval and there are things that you probably will never approve your children or anyone else of doing. It's just a matter of making it as peaceful as possible like you were saying... Showing up with it with no notice will be very shocking and not so peaceful I'm sure! Good luck!!!!

nhouse3417

I would just show up with it. Granted my dad doesnt care. Well I dont know if he does or not. He does not have any tattoos. I got my first one when I was 16, and I dont think he knows about that one and I am 28. My second one I got when I was 18 and I know he has seen it, but maybe 4 years ago? He never said a word to me about either of them.

My MIL on the otherhand will give you the silent treatment... Well I am not sure if she would do it to me, but her daughter she didnt talk to for 2 weeks because she got a tattoo, and did it with each of her other ones too. Her son (my husband) she doesnt really go to that extreme. It is strange that she does that, I dont understand it, but that is what happens. I am going to be getting another in a few weeks and I dont plan to say a word about it to her, but I dont plan to hide it either so we will see if she gets mad at me as well though I am not her child I have been part of their family for over 10 years now...

DrMAvDPhD

Jack and Jill parties must not be much like bachelorette parties if your dad is coming. Seriously though, your getting married and it doesn't matter. If you care that much, buy some cover up and/or wear opaque tights.

SchroederNJ

I don't know what a Jack and Jill is but my mom doesn't like any tattoos -- so needless to say she isn't thrilled that I have 9 of them (and counting) - I wouldn't spring a new one on people at a party or gathering if it's going to turn into a big deal --- there must be a way to cover it up (caprii's maybe?)

bearkisses

so I just showed up. I saw him look at it, but he said not one word about it. Huge relief. Now I can get on with my life and wears dresses again!!! Thanks for the support and advice guys!!!