All in or all out mentality..anyone else with this problem?

i totally relate with the "i already ate something bad for me today... so i'm going to just keep eating and start over tomorrow" mentality

i also find it hard when people start to notice i've lost weight, and give me lots of compliments. then i start to feel so much better about my self-image, that i give up on my main goal! and usually gain everything back

My husband tells me that this is one of my biggest obstacles and why I have always gained back! . I have been on so many diets in my 44 years because - once I am on - I am on and I have been able to lose the weight but once I am off, I am off and all that work goes out the window. Last one was an expensive doctor supervised fast where I lost 58 pounds, have done weight watcher's, too many to name.... I am trying to come up with a strategy for keeping it off while I am still losing it. I tried to bounce some idea off an always slender co-worker - she totally did not get what I was saying. I was trying to say that losing weight has it's own rewards- you are (if you are losing) always getting reinforcement to lose. I was saying that I think I need to set up a reward like buying myself expensive gifts monthly that I would never buy myself if I maintain within 5 pounds of my goal that month. I am a bargain shopper so treating myself to something full price almost never happens.
This time I gained 86 pounds while taking steroids for a serious health condition. I am losing it very very slowly this time and taking 1-2 week diet breaks which force me to be "off". I am following the Eat More to Weigh Less board on here. This way I am dealing with some stalls now and not getting the built in reward of losing and not giving up. I am trying to flex a "muscle" that I don't usually use. So far so good. I too get frustrated and feel like why shouldn't I eat like everyone else who can eat what they want? Um because I gain weight! I hope that knowing better will mean doing better this time! Good luck.

I have found, at least for myself, if I am not totally obsessive about my weight loss journey, I fall off the wagon.

I have the same problem...I either have a great day or if I feel like I screwed up by eating too much I just keep eating and it just gets worse.

This is so me! I'm getting too old to keep doing this. I start out so good and so motivated and then I fizzle..I'm fizzled right now but tomorrow is a new day and I'll try to do better.

Just relax...no one can eat well all the time. We all have to have our cake and eat it too. After "screwing up" , just reset and try to do better at the next meal. Quit being so hard on yourself, that just causes more stress and more eating and more stress and more......