Deleting unmotivating MFP friends

I do delete people... and I am getting better at it. But, it makes me feel awful!!!! I usually send a message wishing them well and telling them why I deleted them. This makes me feel a little better. And, I have had some good response from this. There have been a couple people where that was a reminder to get back on the wagon and we became friends again. And, there have been a couple of people that were offended by it. I would rather know why I was being deleted than just receive the boot. This is just my personal opinion though.

Anyhow, I will send that "deleting you" message if they have been inactive for a couple of months or never comment. I am on here for the friendship and support. I take a lot of time trying to support all my friends and comment on their stuff. If they can't do the same in return, I would rather spend my time on people who actually have the time to be supportive back. And, yes, I understand that some people are just too busy to comment often, and I get that, but that is not the kind of support I am looking for.

I will delete people if they have been inactive for 2 months. To me it is a sign you really aren't all that serious. I get sometimes life gets in the way, but 5 mins to just say "hey" really is not too much to ask for. I want people who are supportive and are there to help pick me up when I am down, because I want to do the same for my MFP family!

I delete after one month. I think after one month, you've lost interest in being on here...

I delete people... just because I can.... :laugh:

I delete people all the time. I delete people I dont' talk to, people who are crazy, and people just for fun. YEEEHAWW!

I don't even need a reason.

I just did the same thing as the OP. Although, first I posted a message on my wall stating that it was going to happen but if you're not active then you probably won't see this message. I even deleted on of my good girlfriends. She hadn't been active or supportive since day one. So Bam - delete. Is it mean? Maybe, but I guess I really don't GAF anymore. I am not here to be nice to "friends" who aren't being "friends" themselves. I am looking for supportive, funny, active, inspiring friends on this site for this path in my life!

I like to have that support system, generally if you add me and don't comment after week or so or become inactive for that time (unless they've said they'll be on holiday or whatever) I delete. I comment on all my friends statuses and it's nice if they do it in return. :-)

I don't delete people unless they really, really offend me. If they're inactive they might come back. Why would inactivity bother me? I can't see it...

I have to agree with that. Too much going on in life to go thru my friends list and see who is inactive. If they are, I don't see it and it doesn't bother me.

I don't delete people unless they really, really offend me. If they're inactive they might come back. Why would inactivity bother me? I can't see it...

eactly what I think. If they aren't logging on, that just means less shows in my news feed. No harm to me either way

People have a life (or they try their hardest to have one).. I wont assume an automatic 'they dont care enough to do this'... Its that time of year when people go away on trips, weekend excursions, spend family time together, etc...

I also dont expect them to tell me they are going on vacation, or feel the need to apologize to everyone because they were sick as a dog and chose to sleep instead of signing in to play with MFP for the sake of continuous days-in. The people in my friend's list - when they post an apology for not being here because of that, and the comments come around that get nasty, I pipe right up and say "you dont owe NO ONE a reason for not being here.[/b][/i]

If you are sick as a dog, and you did what was right and got rest, thats the end of it right there - good common sense.... You owe NO ONE an apology. If your friends cant see that here, then kick them off your profile!!!!! You dont owe anyone an explanation because you DONT answer to them!

Day 3 without logging on I send and email. Day 4 with no response and I delete. Not wasting my time on people who arent as dedicated as I am.

Currently got 48 friends all of whom are top performers.

Yes, its uncompromising but I take this seriously.

1 and 2 months?! You guys are more generous I am! I delete after a couple weeks of inactivity. I also delete friends who consistently log calories under 1,200 (unless there is a reason) or always write statuses filled with self-hate.

I realize we all have our down moments, but nobody likes a perma-Negative Nancy. Positive attitudes yield positive results!

There is an individual on my list that always posts weight losses every day and in a week span loses 4 pounds and the week before was 5 pounds. Then they list 1500 calorie burns and are allowed 1200 calories for a day and always end up being 800 calories in the hole. Just seems like they are going about it the wrong way. I want to say something but feel kind of out of place since I don't really know them. The whole MYOWLJ (mind your own weight loss journey) thing always pops into my head but I feel like I should try to encourage them to do things a little more healthier.

I guess I don't really want to delete this person, it's just frustrating every time this person posts their diary or weight loss or calorie burns. It's frustrating to see someone going about it like this when when I am trying so hard to be very thoughtful and careful about what I'm eating and how I'm working out. I guess I can't judge people for how they go about things...

I have yet to delete anyone, though.

I'm really new here BUT have already seen people being gone for a week etc...I just use it as motivation and tell myself..."That could be me" but I AM here and I'm NOT giving up"....it reminds me that if i don't log in THAT is what people will see and then in a few days or weeks I'll have to be crawling back to square one...

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