DIVORCE!

EllienLyla · January 2010

My husband recently asked for a divorce. I moved out a couple weeks ago and it has been really hard to stay with my calories. some days I don't want to eat anything and other days I eat way to much. Of course I'm feeling emotional. but does anyone have any tips on staying good during times of stress? Thanks so much.

BamaRose0107 · January 2010

I am sorry for your situation. I have anxiety problems so everthing stresses me out. I get stressed out when things are going "to good" the best thing I can tell you is to find something to keep your hands and mind busy. I like to quilt and I also do photography and turn the pictures into art. That way you won't think about eating you can focus on your peoject.

Good Luck to you in the new year! God Bless

Mandillynn · January 2010

I'm so sorry you have to go through this. I'm twice divorced myself, and it's REALLY hard to stay focused on things that are important, like your health. I guess a good stress reliever I have is chewing sugar free gum. Not only does it kinda help with stress... but it also helps with sugar cravings.

Also... some motivation for you. Stay on your plan because when you start losing more weight, and gaining more confidence, he WILL notice the change. Not saying that you'd want him back after all of this, but the best feeling in the world is when an ex starts flirting with you, and kinda giving you the hint that he wishes he never left. TO BAD!!! HAHAHAHAHA!!!

Keep your head up, and stick with your plan. Don't let him "win". You're a beautiful woman, and I am definitely the poster child of second (and even third) chances, so you know your time will come. :flowerforyou:

johnporcaro · January 2010

Good luck, that sounds like a lot of added pressure. I'm guessing that focusing on you might be a good thing. And it seems like there are a lot of supportive folks here.

My parents live over the hill from you, in Utah Valley, so I know how much pressure there can be from people in the community--keep your shoulders back and your chin up! And do what's good for you. It's the only way you can be good for anyone else.

jp

TXBlockhead · January 2010

I'm sorry that you are having to go through this. I myself am divorced. If I were you I would bury myself in books. If you watch tv you will see ads for food and you will not be active enough. I don't know what your workout routine is but you can take your books w you and read while you work out. I would read books about women who were strong and overcame their obstacles. Hang in there...things will get better.

llowry · January 2010

I have to agree with Madellyn she is right about when the ex she's the change. I went through a divorce and lost about 50lbs and the ex came back begging. But, it only lasted a year and now I have the man of my dreams!

That is why I'm here now got happy and got fat!

Take care of yourself and the rest will take care of itself.

Good luck!
Lisa

EllienLyla · January 2010

Thanks everyone it is so nice to get help from people who understand my situation:)

auntbliz · January 2010

I've been there, twice. Gathering from all of my experiences, I would say the best thing was making and spending lots of time with some female friends. We would go to out of town places to shop all day, go to eachother's houses and gab or watch a movie, play games, go play pool, weather permitting we'd do outdoor stuff. I'm talking multiple friends here, not just one. For me it's not easy making friends, I met a couple of them in church and a couple more through those friends. Not to say male friends are bad, but when you're already vulnerable, it may not be the best idea to set yourself up with someone who you may develop chemistry with. Feel free to message me anytime.

tiffanygil · January 2010

My advice to you is let yourself be sad and go through the process. When you are divorceing your body/emotions go through a similar response like when someone dies. If you dont allow yourself to go through it now you will go through it later and if you are like me the way you go is to eat your way through it.

Be mad, Be sorrowful, Feel guilty, Feel what ever it is and lean in on God to help you.
Good luck if you need us, we will be here:flowerforyou:

sphinctress · June 2010

I don't know how it feels to have been asked for a divorce since I am the one initiating it on my end... he basically doesn't love me anymore, but would be happy to just keep on using me for support, so, now that he's admitted he doesn't love me, I'm moving on. However, I went through months of silent grieving of the end of our relationship. It was a very hard decision.

What I've found is that there were also days I couldn't eat and others I could. On the days I could, I would eat, but healthy. On the days I couldn't, I tried to stay well hydrated and at least get some vitamins in with a small meal if I could manage. Mostly though, I found that exercise has been my outlet and my escape. I can get out of the house, get on a trail, run with my dog, or ride my bike, and just get lost in my thoughts and then eventually just in the sound of my breath and the wind on my face. It's been very therapeutic and reminds me that time continues, seasons change, and there's a time for everything. I just have to go with it and be strong like my body is growing strong.

Good luck... keep us posted... MFP has really been such a help. A great community of support even if they don't even know it!
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